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[–] TotallyWorthLife@lemmy.world 3 points 27 minutes ago* (last edited 44 seconds ago)

The lack of it is not a trend, but a consequence of a deliberate effort to keep it that way.

I want to believe empathy is inherent to us all (with some exceptions), even if clouded or even manipulated by the lack of critical thinking, which I do consider a skill one has to train (and not related to being smart/intelligent or dumb/stupid).

I believe, if we all had enough critical thinking, we would have been working together for each other instead of fighting and fucking over each other for the benefit of people in positions of power.

So, hoping for an "empathy and critical thinking" trend isn't going to save us the same way hoping for a "cancer suddenly disappears" trend won't save someone with cancer. It is like this by design, not by coincidence, and we must do a deliberate effort to change it.

So... as suggestions I know of or have heard of:

  • Bear in mind others might have gone through shit that made them the way they are right now (different culture, different conditions, trauma, indoctrination, etc.). To realize that no one is inherently evil, but the conditions we are given (our genes + our enviroment) shape us, has helped me stop hating others for their way of being, and instead wonder what led them to be like that.

  • Read and write more to train the brain to take information, process it, and send it in or out, more effectively. (it also helps train the brain against degenerative diseases. Won't stop them, but might still help).

  • Check facts on more than one source to avoid biases or left-out info.

[–] endless_nameless@lemmy.world 1 points 47 minutes ago

I swear people who talk like this are inadvertently signaling that they are sociopaths

[–] ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca 10 points 10 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Aneb@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago

Might as well be a geek too!! Lammme

[–] AnimalsDream@slrpnk.net 8 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

I have never heard a person talk about empathy introspectively. Invariably it has been about how someone else needs to be more empathetic, and almost always, the speaker would hypothetically be the beneficiary of this increased empathy.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 5 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (1 children)

yep. it's weaponized and used to shame people into agreement.

people also don't have general empathy, they have it for specific other persons they identify with and they tend to totally lack it for those they don't identify with.

people also generally mean 'feel bad for' when they use the term. true empathy is more about being able to put yourself in someone else's shoes and relate to their experience, it's not an abstraction. empathy doesn't make you feel bad, it helps you understand others experiences... but it's not used that way colloquially and definitely not that way on the internet.

the thing people really do when they go on about empathy, is pity. and when they demand empathy for themselves, they are demanding pity for themselves.

[–] AnimalsDream@slrpnk.net 2 points 4 hours ago

People in the west need to adopt more Buddhist language. One facet of empathy often overlooked is sympathetic or appreciative joy, also known as mudita, one of the four brahma viharas. Empathy doesn't always have to be about negatives, and mudita is a good inoculant against envy.

[–] shawn1122@sh.itjust.works 5 points 9 hours ago

Modern hot takes always gotta come with a picture of a rando.

[–] solidheron@sh.itjust.works 3 points 10 hours ago

Pfff nah I'm flinging my shit like a chimp that lost their mate

[–] SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world 30 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

How do I make a profit from that though?

[–] BonsaiBoo@lemmy.world 28 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

The funny part is it would be more profitable than what's happening now as the ultra wealthy have convinced a majority of voters to keep wages low, keep taxes low for the wealthy, higher for the non wealthy, turn the US into a purely service and gig economy, and so now the economic system is slowing and grinding to a halt as fewer and fewer people can participate in all sectors, from necessities to leisure spending.

[–] ThePyroPython@lemmy.world 15 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

Exactly, if an economy is an engine then money is the oil; if it pools (by a few people hoarding it) then there's less flowing through to lubricate the engine turnover and it ceases up.

[–] JoeBigelow@lemmy.ca 3 points 15 hours ago

If the oil ceases to flow the engine could certainly seize up

[–] ChicoSuave@lemmy.world 4 points 16 hours ago

Need to open those reservoirs and help the gears turn

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 points 9 hours ago

there are enough rich people to keep it going for generations.

but it's true that wealth inequality generates slower economic growth than wealth equality does.

[–] FatTony@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago

Don't worry guys I'll comment something relevant as soon as I find out what's going on in that picture.

[–] elbiter@lemmy.world 7 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

The current global trend of fascism and cheap individualism is not spontaneous. It has been promoted with billions of dollars.

[–] Aneb@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago

Fuck there's trillionares now

[–] Clutter@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 hours ago

Well there are currently places where that is indeed a thing. Just not in the USA...

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 9 points 15 hours ago

I hope she’s prepared for disappointment

[–] Zephorah@discuss.online 15 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

People actually subscribe to AI. As such, the likelihood decreases daily.

[–] Kanda@reddthat.com 2 points 1 hour ago

They pay for chatbot? The thing everyone is furious to get when they're trying to reach customer service?

[–] LodeMike@lemmy.today 3 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

What am I looking at? Is that arm part of that lady's body? Why is she sideways?

[–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 3 points 12 hours ago (4 children)

She's holding the hair on her left side with her right hand.

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[–] nialv7@lemmy.world 5 points 14 hours ago (5 children)

everyone thinks themselves as empathic and thinking critically, in their own mind, it's everyone else that is wrong...

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 4 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

In my mind it's a very specific set of people who are wrong, and I do not have empathetic thoughts towards them.

[–] Alcoholicorn@mander.xyz 1 points 1 hour ago

If you can't empathize with your enemy, you'll constantly be surprised by their actions.

[–] wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 2 points 9 hours ago

No, I guarantee you some people don't think about those things at all, or are even actively hostile towards them as concepts.

And then there are people who only focus on one at the expense of the other, under the assumption that they're mutually exclusive.

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 3 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Critical thinking must include critically questioning one's own thoughts and behaviors as well. That's the only way forward.

Question everything, especially the things you've always thought were true. People would be surprised if they realized just how many false ideas and urban legends they've been taught by people they thought were credible.

[–] wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 4 points 9 hours ago

The person who downvoted you clearly doesn't like to think critically about their own assumptions or be reminded that they should...

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[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (3 children)

the most unempathic people i have met love to go on about how important empathy is

same for critical thinking.

they are basically words with no meaning other than whatever is most convenient for the speaker at the moment to use to shame others for not sharing their opinion or feelings on the matter.

emotional intelligence is another one of these BS terms people spout that also has no meaning other than 'agrees with me'.

[–] vapordays@leminal.space 2 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Counterpoint: Critical thinking and empathy are important, and a lot of people don't have much / aren't very good at it

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (1 children)

yeah and how do you measure how much they have exactly?

do you ask them what they do if they find a tortoise lying on its back in the hot dessert?

[–] vapordays@leminal.space 1 points 6 hours ago

You want me to give you some objective "measure" like "inches" about most people's critical thinking skills? If you really want a thorough analysis I'm sure you could delve into the social sciences, philosophy, humanities ... history, sociology, psychology, anthropology etc., but that may not please you if you want it purely quantified.

[–] wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 1 points 9 hours ago

emotional intelligence is another one of these BS terms people spout that also has no meaning other than 'agrees with me'.

Proudly broadcasting your ignorance there, aren't you? Your kids probably don't talk to you much, do they?

[–] Gagunga@feddit.dk 1 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (1 children)

Emotional intelligence to me, means that someone understands their feelings, why they have them and where they come from. They know how to 'treat' themselves.

Some people are better than others at this. Some might get really frustrated but not understand why, while others can perfectly describe why they are frustrated, what they need to resolve it and then act on it. This to me is a very real thing.

EDIT: Oh and it also goes the other way. Someone who is emotionally intelligent might also be good at infering others emotions. Doesn't just apply to one self. I suppose this is called empathy.

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[–] theuniqueone@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 13 hours ago

I'm skeptical how can i make money off this?

[–] Endymion_Mallorn@kbin.melroy.org 8 points 17 hours ago

A nice idea but highly unlikely.

[–] Flower@sh.itjust.works 2 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Step 1: start a new economy based on a different kind of money

[–] wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 1 points 9 hours ago

I'll 3D print you some cute sewing buttons in exchange for a week's supply of oats.

[–] atomicbocks@sh.itjust.works 2 points 13 hours ago

Who knows, maybe that part of the 90s will come back too…

[–] bitjunkie@lemmy.world 4 points 15 hours ago

Narrator: It wasn't.

[–] lugal@sopuli.xyz 1 points 11 hours ago

Or the simulation of both

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