Sometimes you just need to ignore him and focus on yourself. If you’re cruising the coast on a power yacht, I bet he’ll notice you right away.
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When I was young, I was naive to the ways of romance, and especially romantic communication. I was often oblivious to advances made upon me, and awkward and unskilled at making any expression of interest without just looking a bit foolish. However, after a lot of experience and many ups and downs in the pursuit of love, I find that I am no longer young.
Men are dense and women are indirect.
I know these are generalities, but it's sooo freakin common that it's a well-known trope.
I'd actually go a step further and say that it's not so much that men are "dense" as it is that they are full of self-doubt...I.e., seeing the advances, knowing they are there, but not believing that they are actually intended for them, or it's a joke/prank, or for whatever other reason, they convince themselves that it's not an advance and they are misinterpreting.
IANAD, but I'd guess this has more to do with mens mental-health awareness than anything else.
It's a trope, but it's also supposedly "well known" that men are horny bastards who think with their dicks... yet somehow we have these the two very opposing scenarios.
Personally, despite a rather distinct lack of interest from the "fairer sex" prior to college, I found that plenty of women were more interested in sex than me in later years and not particularly subtle about it, which was actually off-putting as I wanted a relationship with a bit more substances. A lot of guys I know were in the same boat. Sex was easy. Finding somebody who actually wanted to do activities together was quite hard.
Improved your sword making skills along the way?
Amazing
Succinct, eloquent prose there. Well said
Well, if it was Reclaiming the Blade, I'm not surprised !
Tysm I'm going to watch this right fucking now
Time to lose the lingerie and put on a smiths apron
It sounds like hes respecting consent, just being in your underwear doesn't automatically mean you want him all over you and hes respecting that possibility.
If I was playing a video game that I was super sucked into and focused on, and then a girl I was with still in her underwear sat next to me, I wouldn't assume it was an invitation to immediately begin sucking on her titties or something. I'd figure she just wanted to chill next to me in her undies.
If you want to have sex: communicate that. He probably would have been down.
This situation isn't about consent; it's about seduction and attraction. It's not unrealistic that seeing your partner in their underwear might distract you from what you're doing and elicit an amorous response, and that's what she wants. There's no suggestion that that response would be anything but respectful of consent.
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No sure who said this… sounds like Bill Burr but … “No matter how beautiful she is, there’s some guy somewhere who’s tired of putting up with her shit”
Time to don the sexy (steel plate, full covering) armor and invite him to join the Crusade.
Sabaton song for effect optional but recommended.
I'd have gone with Sun and Steel by Iron Maiden, but maybe I'm just showing my age?
You can't go wrong with Maiden, but in this case I don't think there's anything more appropriate than The Last Stand
Hmm. A “hey” with three Ys and a smirk... I don’t think Melissa’s bf is the problem.
Aww dude.
You ever watch those archer twink videos?
smiles in Blumineck
Dude's got a wife and kids.
be more interesting than medieval sword making.
no, sex isn't the answer. probably reading a book on medieval history and telling him about it is.
it always baffles me how many women i have dated... have no interests or passions, and seem to look down on people who do.
and the women i have dated who did have passions and interests... were way way more attractive and more fun to spend time with, because they didn't expect me to entertain them.
I married a guy who already shared my interests, which I feel is a pretty hard requirement for a working relationship.
One of those interests is history, so we will be needing that docu as well
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For real tho, what is the name of that doc?
Also. Is Melissa single?
Greg is single but there's a lot of competition
Finish watching the doc, then ask her.
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If someone is actively engaged with something, you have to break their attention. I feel like people need to learn more about dissociation and blacksmithing.
I’m sure men pay attention to her. Just not the men she wants, how she wants.
"I have presented my flesh in his presence and that wasn't automatically rewarded. What am I doing wrong?"
Have you tried... talking about shared interests? Being funny? Being charming and confident? Putting effort into romance? Like all the same advice that help men gain interest from women works the other way around too, you know? We're all human.
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the question i have is: how are men supposed to know the exact correct amount and time women want attention? because from what i understand if the only thing you're doing is wearing underwear, that doesn't necessarily mean you "want" something, and to assume otherwise is bad? or is that wrong too?
Find a woman mature enough to communicate her needs and ask explicitly for your attention? Anyone of any gender who expects their partner to be a mind reader is going to be disappointed, but people that learn to communicate their feelings and teach their partners that it is safe to do the same will be much happier. If they get upset at having to tell you what they’re thinking or feeling, they’re not ready for a serious relationship yet.
a problem my wife and i had at the beginning of our relationship (solved very quickly, since we talked about it) is that i expected her to be able to intuitively read my body language. because the sign language i use is, for people who don't sign, basically all body language and facial expressions (for people who do sign, there are no actual signs it's all classifiers) and if you aren't constantly reading body language, you won't understand someone. it took an in-depth conversation about linguistics (a really fun one where we compared the four different sign languages the two of us use), but we managed to figure everything out.
where we compared the four different sign languages the two of us use
You buried the lede. How does something like that even happen? I feel like the odds of two sign-language polyglots being in the same room, let alone in a romantic relationship, are vanishingly small.
Yeah we were in a band together. Music brings the strangest combination of people together
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Bit of a tangent and a big YES I am a giant fucking nerd - but I do text based roleplaying. People online don't know my actual gender (chick) since I'll play anything. One huge thing I noticed when playing a dude is a lot of the women would just kinda be there and try to be sexy hoping I would do something.
They didn't all write like that, and I still had a few guys to starfished, so to speak, but goddamn YOU NEED TO ENGAGE ME. If I wanted something pretty, I would look at a painting. I need an activity.
Sometimes a man is just tired, you know?
"Men are disgusting! They only think about one thing ~~sex~~ medieval sword making!" /s
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