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It sounds like hes respecting consent, just being in your underwear doesn't automatically mean you want him all over you and hes respecting that possibility.
If I was playing a video game that I was super sucked into and focused on, and then a girl I was with still in her underwear sat next to me, I wouldn't assume it was an invitation to immediately begin sucking on her titties or something. I'd figure she just wanted to chill next to me in her undies.
If you want to have sex: communicate that. He probably would have been down.
This situation isn't about consent; it's about seduction and attraction. It's not unrealistic that seeing your partner in their underwear might distract you from what you're doing and elicit an amorous response, and that's what she wants. There's no suggestion that that response would be anything but respectful of consent.
Oh, because consent is about mind-reading?
What she wears doesn't imply consent, except for when she wants it to (without communicating that), and then it's her boyfriend's failure as a man for not magically picking up on that?
It never implies consent, and she hasn't said it does, and hasn't implied it does. Responding to an (apparent) attempt at seduction, which is what she actually wants, does not require one to do anything that requires consent. What do you think it involves? You think she wants him to climb aboard and start thrusting with no preamble? Can you imagine anything short of that that might make her happy?
What exactly do you think seduction is?
I was under the impression that consent is required for pretty much everything. So what exactly do you expect him to do?
"Hey, I noticed you're in your underwear. Does this mean you're propositioning me?"
You can obfuscate all you want by code switching whenever it's convenient for you. "I'm horny, so nothing that I want right now requires consent" versus "I'm not in the mood right now, so if you even look at me without my consent I will hold a grudge against you for the rest of my life."
Just don't be surprised when people stop putting up with your bullshit. The dude is probably focusing on his game because he doesn't feel like being teased, toyed with, and accused of heinous shit.
Rewrite this so it doesn't sound like it was written by chatgpt and you'd have an appropriate response, for example.
Or he could put an arm around her, or lean in for a kiss, or whatever. The rest of your comment smells off. Stick to what's in the original if we're still talking about that, or else justify why what you're saying is realistic.
Are you saying those things don't require consent? Because I'm pretty sure there are a lot of people out there who would roast your ass on a spit for trying that without asking for permission first.
Context matters dude. If your girlfriend ask for explicit consent before you hug her, you're in an abusive relationship.
Are these people in the room with us now?
Seriously, I don't think those people actually exist. And if they do, I'm going to continue to ignore them and not ask permission every time I kiss or touch my partner, who will continue to do likewise to me.
what she wants is to be passive aggressive.
chances are if he does show interest, she'll reject him. because that's what passive-aggressive people do, because it's all about power-games and manipulation.
if she genuinely wanted attention, she'd ask for it. with her words. which is precisely the thing passive-aggressive people never do, because they are seeking to be aggrieved and upset for their minds and whims not being magically known by their partners.
Wanting a partner that shows active interest in you isn't passive agression it's totally normal. They just sound young and stupid and need to work on their communication skills
sitting there and being butthurt that someone doesn't notice you is passive aggressive.
'being young and stupid' means being immature and needing to grow up and express you desires like an adult.
Maybe she does. But it's not actually uncommon for people to others to pick up on things without having to be explicitly told.
This is incel-tier bullshit.