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My roommate only washes up if he poops, never after peeing. Now every time I'm in any of the common areas I have to wash my hands after touching anything I haven't wiped down. Thus, I wash my hands twice every time I use the bathroom; once as normal and again in the kitchen because I touched the taps, light switch and door handle in the bathroom which likely have groin sweat on them... /rant

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[–] normalentrance@lemmy.zip 3 points 4 hours ago

Yes. Even at home. Poo particles everywhere, especially on the flusher.

Take a minute, wash your hands, smile in the mirror to make sure nothing is in your teeth. Straighten yourself up and walk out of that bathroom with your head held high. You deserve it.

[–] AceFuzzLord@lemmy.zip 4 points 5 hours ago

How can people not wash after every trip to the restroom? I find it disgusting if I don't do it, so you can imagine how I feel about others not doing it.

Even if I'm in a hurry, I splash them in water with a squirt of soap and quick scrub. I touch keyboards all day and my hands need to be cleaned. Never mind when I physically worked with IT equipment.

[–] orenj@leminal.space 6 points 17 hours ago

Yes. Especially at work, especially before taking a piss. See, the break room has free snacks, including hot chips. I've yet to make the mistake of neglecting to double wash my hands but the fear of god and caspaicin is within me.

[–] mlg@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I regret opening this thread and this completly validates me using anything but my bare hands to grab door handles.

[–] Hupf@feddit.org 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 hours ago

Excellent lol. As an aside, there are cafes I do not go to just because they don't use paper towels in their bathrooms.

[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Me too. One of the reasons I hate summer is I don't usually have something with long sleeves to open shuff with.

[–] NotMyOldRedditName@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

carry hand sanitizer, but also if it's the washroom use paper towels to open the door, and toss it on the floor beside the door if they're stupid enough to not keep a trash can there / within reach.

[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 hours ago

I avoid certain restaurants/cafes that don't hove paper towel in their bathrooms for this exact reason. ;-;

[–] NewNewAugustEast@lemmy.zip 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Of course. I am shocked people don't. But it's not entirely the act of peeing, it's the fact a sink and soap are right there. It's a good idea to wash your hands occasionally, so how about now?

[–] thermal_shock@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

This how I started looking at it. I didn't piss on my hands and my balls have been wrapped up since my shower. But, youve touched other disgusting things, nows the time to wash them and start clean.

[–] vantablack@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 day ago (2 children)

LIFEHACK: do both at once by pissing in your hands! it's environmentally friendly!!!

[–] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Plus, they say pee is sterile.

It's not, but that's what they say!

[–] Horsey@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Urine is sterile… until it hits the urethra.

[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 day ago

I don't drink enough bleach for that to be effective though!

[–] Horsey@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

Every time. It’s about upkeep, not worrying whether I touched anything. Plus, I always blot with toilet paper anyway…

[–] tmyakal@infosec.pub 35 points 1 day ago (2 children)

So Penn & Teller used to do a show called Bullshit where they would investigate things and explain why the "common knowledge" on them was, well, bullshit.

In the episode on handwashing, they took samples from people's hands, faces, and groins before and after using the bathroom. They came to the conclusion that the before/after on hands was negligible, because most people's groins are under multiple layers of protection and don't get exposed to germs.

What they didn't bring up in the show is that that's not why you wash your hands when you're in the bathroom. It doesn't matter if your asshole is downright sterile, because it's everything else in the world that is filthy. You wash your hands when you're in the bathroom because you should be washing your hands regularly throughout the day and it's easiest to do when you're already in the room with the soap and running water. It's got very little to do with anything else you may be doing in the bathroom.

[–] LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

Yep, I've always thought that. It's actually very sneaky of health officials, they are exploiting people's perception of how filthy going to the bathroom is to get them to wash their hands more. Ends justify the means I guess...

[–] alternategait@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

I used to tell patients who I took to the bathroom and then I managed their peri hygiene (with gloves!) that we would still wash their hands even though they didn’t touch anything because it was just a good habit to have.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 5 points 1 day ago

Its crazy not to unless the bathroom sink is so gross it feels like it would be worse. What really gets me is folks don't shower before going into the pool. ewww. I would rather have everyone take a pee in the pool than not shower before. that at least is just proteins as opposed to all the dead skin, bacteria, and oil.

[–] sydd@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Usually during. I mean the sink is right there anyway, it saves time, and water.

[–] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 day ago

Don't waste water like that, just use the pee.

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 67 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

Your roommate is disgusting

[–] FatVegan@leminal.space 8 points 1 day ago

Most people are

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Somewhat related, have a think about how clean your belt is. Probably the first thing you touch after getting cack handed and never washed. Enjoy!

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 62 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (7 children)

Yes. Wash my hands:

  • after every toilet use
  • after I come in from outside
  • before I eat
  • after I eat
  • before I sit down at my desk and touch my mouse and keyboard
  • before I start playing a game with my controller(s)
  • edit: oh and before/after seksytime, both with myself and the wife
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[–] homologous@piefed.blahaj.zone 44 points 2 days ago (1 children)

yes, of course. no exceptions. kind of disgusted by all the people in the comments admitting they don't??? also your roommate reminds me of a roommate i used to have whom i despised and one of the reasons for that being her horrible hygiene. she admitted to pissing in our single private shower, which was shared amongst us (i had 2 roommates, so the 3 of us), and then after that called me germophobic for suggesting the idea that a shower/tub needs to be cleaned weekly???? also kept leaving piss in the toilet and never took out the trash. dont even get me started

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[–] sleepmode@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Just seeing the state of toilets and stalls when some people leave… I don’t want that on my hands. When i’m at work I notice many people do their business and bolt out the door if they think they’re alone.

[–] marzhall@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago

Lmao, reminds me of a college bathroom experience where someone entered, used the urinal, used the hand drier, and left.

I was astounded.

[–] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

At work my hands are dirtier than my dick, I have to wash them before I pee. Come to think of it my hands are probably always dirtier than my dick because despite my best efforts I still can't use it to open doors and not many people want to shake hands with it.

[–] twjolson@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My hands are also dirtier than your dick.

[–] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago

Yeah, probably. Unless you're Howie Mandel or something, and honestly even then.

[–] anomnom@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago

Surgeons wash their hand after peeing. Tradies wash them before peeing. Who would you rather shag?

Also maybe surgeons should be out of the running completely. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25498174/

[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 18 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

The unfortunate truth is that most people are gross as hell. A huge number of people don't wash after peeing. Ive come across some who don't even wash after poop (confronted a person once and they said that they only touch toilet paper so it's not like their hands are contaminated). Once you're in common spaces, you will obviously have to touch the same things as these people. There have been swab and culture studies that show fecal bacteria on a lot of touch surfaces. There will even be fecal bacteria on your toothbrush from being in a toilet with aerosol toilet water with every flush. It is gross, but our immune systems handle this environmental contamination really well without OCD cleaning habits needed.

Some points for others:

  1. You might think your genitals are "clean" but you wouldn't want to touch any random person's clean genitals. Your hands are going to touch common surfaces. Wash them as courtesy (the same courtesy you would want from others).

  2. Washing isn't about bacteria contamination. Pee has no bacteria on it but it would still be gross to be splashed by it. Hygiene gets rid of gross/ick things and it's worth washing what you would expect others to wash.

  3. There's huge personal world-view at play here for each individual. Many wouldn't put up with the inconvenience of wearing masks to protect others from COVID at inconvenience to themselves. Unfortunately this mindset extends to things like hygiene for a lot of people. Please consider the world you live in and some inconveniences (like washing hands repeatedly) are for the sake of your fellow humans.

  4. Same goes for things like picking your nose or jerking off......people, please.

[–] pishadoot@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

you wouldn't want to touch any random person's clean genitals.

Depends on the person

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[–] khannie@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

confronted a person once and they said that they only touch toilet paper so it's not like their hands are contaminated

🤮

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[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 26 points 2 days ago

Yup. Wash your hands with soap four times daily and you reduce your chance of catching a surface-borne disease by 80%

I work in a hospital and one Christmas I brought home gastric 'flu with me... that wasn't a wonderful Yuletide for anyone.

[–] assertnull@programming.dev 27 points 2 days ago (1 children)

He really should stop being lazy and wash his hands. While feces is much more dangerous than what’s likely hanging out on his junk, there’s still plenty of transmissible nastiness that he’s leaving everywhere.

But if he’s not going to change his behavior, you can mitigate by turning off the taps and handling the bathroom doorknob with a paper tissue if you use tissues to dry your hands (although I think this is common mostly in public washrooms). The overwashing you’re doing to compensate for his underwashing is not good for your hands.

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[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

Yes, every single time. Even if I'm camping in the middle of nowhere. Hell, even if I sat down and didn't even touch my dong.

If I don't wash them, it feels like there is an invisible film on my hands. I don't know how to describe it. Like, a film of filth or grease or something. Purely mental. I HAVE to wash them.

[–] blitzen@lemmy.ca 21 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Nearly all of the time yes.

I think we have to talk about you. Regardless of your roommates bathroom habits, you should really assume every public surface is as dirty as you’re imagining the things your roommate touches. Put another way, I’m of the opinion that you are suffering from a bit of germophobia.

[–] BossDj@piefed.social 14 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Especially because the science DOES recommend washing after you pee, but mostly because you're already in the bathroom and the sink is right there.

The idea is you're just regularly washing hands throughout the day.

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[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 day ago

I do

My parents don't

Yeah you read it right, my mom just TOUCHES THE FUCKING SEAT THING... then touch the flush, and I DON'T HEAR THE FAUCET RUNNING

I called it out once, and she did washed her hands for THAT ONE TIME then proceeded to never wash hands for every subsequent bathroom use... also never used soap...

My Theory on why: My parents grew up in Rural China... their standards of cleanliness is probably much lower...

I mean if they have germophobia like I do, then you can't even survive in the rural areas... if you know what I mean

Funny that they used to be the ones to teach me to wash my hands but now they don't anymore... wtf

[–] webp@mander.xyz 11 points 1 day ago

Life pro tip op, when your hands are coated in soap rub the taps (and rinse with hands) and don't use your fingers for the light switch and door.

[–] mrmaplebar@fedia.io 16 points 2 days ago

Yes, always.

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