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[–] SapphironZA@sh.itjust.works 48 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Men say the same thing about woman. 🤣🤣

Maybe the gays and lesbians found the true secret to happiness.

[–] ickplant@lemmy.world 37 points 1 day ago
[–] vzqq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 75 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Exhibit A that homosexuality is not a choice. A lot of women would definitely swear off men if they could just “decide” to not be attracted to them.

[–] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 8 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Fuck, I'd swear off women if I had the choice. Most of my hobbies and my job are male-dominated, plus, the amount of women I click with is just lower than the amount of men.

[–] chronicledmonocle@lemmy.world 10 points 18 hours ago

I have the opposite problem. I'm a male and I "click" with mostly women. I'm married and all my other female relationships are purely platonic, given my wife and I are traditionally exclusive to each other, but I don't really "get" most men.

I'm also autistic as fuck, so maybe that's why.

[–] GraniteM@lemmy.world 9 points 23 hours ago

How many straight people would choose to instantly double the pool of potential mates, if they could make the same choice?

[–] 0ops@piefed.zip 27 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Shit straight up I'm a man and I give myself a headache

[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

May you always have plenty of your preferred analgesic on hand and a nice cool washcloth for your eyes 🙏

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

A cool washcloth on your eyes hits so good after a long day at work.

Especially if it's right after a nice hot shower.

[–] smh@slrpnk.net 6 points 23 hours ago

Lay in a hot bath with a cold compress on your eyes.

(why, yes, I'm short and keep a stool in the kitchen so I can reach the snacks my boyfriend keeps above the cabinet.)

[–] Draconic_NEO@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 17 hours ago

Personally for me I think marriage is overrated 🖤💜🩶🤍💚💚

[–] friendly_ghost@beehaw.org 1 points 15 hours ago

Can confirm

[–] Sibshops@lemmy.myserv.one 22 points 1 day ago

"You really like women"

"I just really hate men"

"We are not the same"

Speaking as a men, I tend to agree 🤷🏻

[–] SARGE@startrek.website 16 points 1 day ago

Men is indeed too headache.

[–] aceshigh@lemmy.world 2 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Wasn’t there a study done on this? That women are happier being single and widows don’t try to find another husband.

[–] Beth@piefed.social 5 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

There have been a few of these studies. One had an author misrepresenting data. But single women are shown to be happier than single men across age groups iirc. Older single men are happier than younger single men. Married men and single women I think compare on happiness with some having single women happier. Oh and married men live longer.

[–] aceshigh@lemmy.world 3 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

I wonder what the stats are in the gay community.