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Fascism????
Not being able to relieve basic human needs at school without getting permission first (using the bathroom, eating, some of my teachers even had temper tantrums about drinking water during class).
large scale lying
Invading a country in the middle east over fears of "WMD".
Filming strangers and posting them online
Automobile dependency
Rape. (BTW, where are those files?) Wars. News for "one week" and then... they get "normalised" Discrimination of any sort. Live and let live!
Bringing dogs into places where dogs don’t belong. No your energetic little puppy is not a trained service animal. Even more annoying when they walk right past signs that say no animals. Obviously the rules don’t apply to their little ball of fur.
That and people using their car’s hazard lights as an “I can park here”
Those are the "park anywhere lights".
I had a person park in front of my driveway, throw on hazards and disappear for an hour and their battery ended up dying. She ended up walking up to the door and asking for a jump. I declined help and somewhat politely informed her not to park in front of driveways.
Few month later it turns out my neighbor was cheating with this woman.
Around here they use their vehicles hazard lights as a shield against... something. I see at least ten people driving down the highway a week with their hazard lights on. They are not speeding and its not legal to use them that way in this state anyway. I'm sure its some stupid social media thing.
It doesn't sound like the case here but I will briefly turn my hazard lights on for a few blinks if there is a hazard ahead on the road. I keep moving but my intention is to warn drivers behind me that there's shit going on down the road where they might not see it and have time to slow down.
The expectation to always be available and reachable. Since the inception of mobile phones, you have to be reachable at all times and people get mad you didn't pick up.
It's breaking people. Sometimes I message some people and they don't respond for a couple of hours, and when they do they apologize and explain. If this keeps happening I'll ask them if they had/have an insecure partner or toxic workplace. Then I plant this seed "buddy, an email or a text or a call is not an automatic consent to dialogue. Get back to me whenever, I don't care. Consent applies to communication." I don't have any patience for other people's insecurity if I don't or can't respond, and we need to give that boundary to others. Ghosting is setting a boundary. Fuck it if some baby feels ignored. That's their problem!
The normality of being advertised to. It's kind of extreme how okay we are with someone hijacking our time like that. For free. As long as it's a corporation holding our activities hostage and not like a human being in the room with us.
Banning advertising would be such an improvement. The only way to make a difference would be just to make a good product.
And the savings would go to the general population, instead of the one that buys the loudest voice
And to add to this: building secret profiles of people’s online activities and trading them around and selling them to the government without a warrant
Like we should be jailing everyone in big tech, all data brokers, and most of the government.
Company's selling your data.
Everyone does it, and there is basically pages of information about you that every company see.
And I’ve had people in my life who simply cannot do that.
I'm probably guilty of it, but the way my life has gone reaching out to people just does not come naturally and it's hard to overcome the assumption that it would not be welcome, or the intuition that it's something I am not allowed to do. The idea of people you build an enduring connection with is appealing, but abstract and hard to imagine.
My answer again, Fast Fashion and putting a lot of money into completely useless (plastic, mass produced) junk. General unconscious consumerism.
Similar question was asked pretty recently.
Reposting my earlier comment because lazy and don't wanna rewrite:
Fast fashion.
Unconscious consumption in general. People are pouring crazy amounts of money into plastic garbage, “collectibles”, general useless and unnecessary junk, lifestyle products etc. Then they defend it with a flippant “lol intrusive thoughts won UwU”. I wouldn’t even mind so much if it wasn’t too often the case that these same people also complain about environmental issues and capitalism.
“but but i’m a magpie, I’m a loot goblin” is just normalizing the behavior, trying to make it cute. It’s not. You’re very directly contributing to the increasing waste problem in the world and giving money to megacorps (think plastic production in particular). If you absolutely must do this, find products made of natural materials, produced by real people. Yes, it’ll cost more. Yes, that’s the real price of your obsession.
Kids toys.
Modifying your car to be louder.
Tangentially, manosphere culture and acting like an asshole to people to secure your status in the manosphere
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OP your first paragraph is describing acquaintances. You never had those before whatever insta-google-tweet-face thing you are talking about?
Apoliticism. It's not a political philosophy I can ever agree with.
Apoliticism is a political philosophy in the same way that atheism is a religion
Apoliticism is a privilege.
I have too many complaints to list here and I'm sure others will take care of the most important ones. So I'll just say the most recent one I've gotten annoyed with:
The whole internet debate culture. Every fucking thing is now a debate. One of the reasons I finally deleted my reddit account. I literally answered someone's question and provided a bit of extra information in a neutral to positive tone. And the guy replied with "are you fucking dense" and started to argue with me. To give you an idea how fucking stupid and silly it was, it was a thread about "which invention had the biggest impact on the world" and the guy commented "why has no one answered 'electricity' is beyond me?!" and I answered "possibly because electricity is not a invention, it just is" and then noted how people have answered inventions that harness electricity. And for that I got abuse and arguing.
That's not a one time thing. Go to any reddit thread and I bet 80% of the first child comments are arguing with the original comment. Even if there's nothing to argue about. Same goes for youtube comments, "hey I liked the way you took that exhaust manifold off" is met with "yeah but thats the wrong way no one should do that or the car will literally explode!" and then the rest of the comment chain is just arguing and mockery.
I do understand that people have always argued. But it was never this bad. I've been chronically online since 1999 and while I have had frustrations here and there, its never been daily, until the last 5-ish years.
Personally I blame the tiktok/youtube debating streamers. Everyone thinks they are a Planet Peterson now.
Anyway, start arguing with me below:
I disagree, I think you’ll find that your reality is incorrect and furthermore the experience I have is superior. Frankly the fact you are unaware of this is shocking and shame should be inflicted on you. Any attention you now receive should be negative and shaped by my world view instead. The nuance of what you are articulating is useless due to this incredible gap you are exposing in your comprehensive understanding of what the world is actually like and you should feel bad for not clarifying any of this for me in your comment. You really do need to reflect more on what value you are adding here because this contribution is not only false it is embarrassing. You really ought to research things before making baseless claims. How dare you share an opinion that challenges my identity and sense of self. This is not something that you can get away without knowing how bad you fucked up and it is my duty to make you aware. Consider yourself notified, and I expect your full retraction and admittance in return. I will be waiting FURIOUSLY until a response is delivered post haste.
Without regard or ragrets, itsathursday
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Believing anyone who isn't exactly like you is your enemy.
I miss hanging out with people of various faiths, politics, and hobbies, without them hating each other for their differences.
It's so bad now that people go after me for my hobbies not being their hobbies. Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if I went around telling everyone they are awful people for not liking my hobbies.
We keep appointing or voting for leaders who represent the absolutely worst of humanity. I'm not sure how to change that but it might be worth looking in to.
proprietary software
Attention economy.
In america, serial killers and school shootings. In Canada, geese not migrating.
I think friendships are different and varied as people are and you learn relationships as you go, but don't let people use you and if it's not working for you or not healthy to let the other person/people know. It's an uncomfortable conversation but it's important to recognize your own shit and respect people enough to tell them when they're fucking up & give them a chance to grow or self reflect.
More generally to the title monetizing hobbies. Leisure doesn't need to be corrupted or brought low by including capital into the equation. I was having a nice evening no need to spoil it with capitalism.
That the free market economy is still believed to exist and privatisation of utilities, commodities and resources is a means to an end to facilitate this for a fair and balanced status quo where the population will decide the outcome of their own free will.
Hypocrisy. It's at the root of refusing to take responsibility for your own words and actions. It used to be considered a serious failure and now we just assume it.
Capitalism
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