Ask Lemmy

Retirement portfolios / stock market and also PC motherboard / CPU / ram combos. These both seem learnable but they ste both totally opaque to me. I just glaze over when those topics come up.

Trans stuff. I really have no strong opinions on gender and it doesn't interest me in the slightest. Whenever I have discussed it when asked directly I just become aware of my own ignorance. I don't want to upset or hurt anyone and don't feel engaged enough to dig much beyond a basic sort of live and let live philosophy.

vibecoding/ai bs

Religion, spirituality, and the afterlife. They’re all really fucking stupid made-up nonsense and are an absolute waste of time and thought. May as well try to imagine a new color.

People's kids, especially toddlers/babies. Like, I'm so sorry but I literally could not give any less fucks. Even those I consider family, I'm like tolerant of but I don't want to sit and have a whole ass conversation about what your kid did at daycare. Talk to me when they're older and doing actual cool shit.

The future, and how everything sucks now compared to the past, and how much worse it will get

Because all of that is true 😔 I'd rather stay in my "living in 2003" bubble. I'll go out to vote and then come back to hide again.

I'm exaggerating as I tend to do. But there aren't any discussions of the future that don't leave me depressed

It is so fucking tempting to ask every single person in this thread to elaborate lol

Unless it's about soulslikes, I don't wanna talk about it.

Any personal project I'm doing. Talking about it seems to give enough satisfaction to keep me away from continuing it later.

I've been vegan for nearly ten years, I dread any time the topic comes up with people who aren't also vegan.

It usually becomes a pointless debate where I either have to heavily self-censor, or end up hurting the feelings of people who eat animal products. It's always the same conversations I've already had hundreds of times, no one's gonna change my mind and I probably won't change theirs either.

Can't say.

I don't like talking about anything if I don't get a reflective silence now and then. Some people just talk and talk to hear themselves talk and never take the time to let the words sink in or just plain cook before spitting them out.

As someone who moved from the US to Canada, where I come from. I was born in a Latin American country and speak fluent Spanish so I introduce myself with that first and foremost out of spite

Anything "deep" with parents...

"Hey dad did you know that if you go on a space ship and travel very fast then come back to earth, thousands or tens of thousands of years could pass on earth and it only feels like a few hours on the spaceship"

Dad: "Oh really? Cooool" sounds disinterested af and continues scrolling wechat

"Hey mom did you know that scientists detected that a brain has activity before the person makes a decision? Maybe we don't have free will and the universe is deterministic!"

Mom: "Of course we have free will! Why are you overthinking everything? 日日諗埋諗埋啲咁嘅嘢，一味鑽牛角尖 (not sure how to translate this part, something like 'Everyday you keep thinking these weird thoughts, keep going down a rabbit hole')"

Also I can't really mention suicide... or I'm "ungreatful for everything they've done for me"

Also politics:

"Why are you so worried about big things, just focus on yourself"

"If the government comes knocking and arrest you, then it's your fault, just don't drag us down with you" (aka: just don't dissent)

I'm sick of listening to people complain about their lives. They hate their jobs, they hate their spouses, they hate their friends. They are unfulfilled and unhappy and IF ONLY THEY WERE RICH everything would be magically wonderful. The past few years, now everyone talks about how 'oppressed' they are because of their identity too. I've met so many single women doctors who just go on for an hour about how 'oppressed' they are because they only make $480K/yr instead of the 500K their married male colleague does... and how if only they made more they'd never have to fly coach again! Or how expensive and awful their kids private education is, or how their wife prevents them from buying that Raptor truck they really want, because some overpriced performance vehicle will magically fix their shitty lifestyle habits and social relationships...

Oh, and as a single white guy, they love to lecture me on how amazing and awesome and rich and perfect my life must be. Because apparently I have 'no responsibilities lots of free time and money and freedom and can fuck whomever i want whenever i want'. Right...

Do they ever ask me how my life is? No, of course not. I'm just a placeholder for their weird escapist fantasy they have because they hate their own lives so much. And if I start mentioning any basic facts about my life, they think I'm whining or 'bitter' or something because my life is and was far less privileged than theirs.

This is like 90% of my dates, and other casual social interactions with new people. 10 years ago it wasn't like this. People used to ask me questions and interact with me... now they just lecture me about how their life is terrible and mine is better than theirs and I'm a jerk because of it. I miss talking to people about books, or movies, or hobbies.

Hence I really have stopped going out and interacting with people like I used to. At least with my existing friends I can tell them about events in my life that are good or bad without them acting like I'm an asshole. The last date I went on I told my date about the book I was reading and she looked at me like I was a jerk and then immediately started complaining about how her ex read books and was a douchebag and she doesn't like douchy people who read a lot...

I feel like people no longer interact generally. I notice even when I'm out and hearing other people's conversations they sort or talk at each other in quips rather than actually acknowledge or exchange anything substantial. It's been years since I've had like an actual conversation with a stranger that showed genuine interest.

My problems. It's not that I'm the strong, stoic type - because I'm not. But talking about them makes me feel sad all over again.

Religion. I have my own views and I’m not interested in talking to most about it.

We don't talk about Bruno.

My blood family. Its just always the same and it frustrates me only thinking about them, their actions, their thinking, their behaviours. Calling them snakes and sociopaths is insulting to snakes!!

I kinda feel that way about like people just asking me how things are going because it feels like I have not been able to give a decent answer for long periods one of which I am in now. I will say I don't talk much about the environment anymore simply because we are so far down the unstoppable decline and partially because the effects are hitting our present day so much that the effects are basically day to day and much of the reason things are like they are now. We are a finite snake eating its tail.

Something along the lines of "she heard that he said when they were somewhere and then like she said that he thought that she said that they shouldn't say what he said when she thought they wouldn't anyway."

...I detest hearing about what other people did/said. I live in a tiny town and I absolutely refuse to take part in gossip. I will not spread it, and neither will I hear it.

Work or myself. The second someone tries to make a conversation about either, I just shut down and give 1 or 2 word answers. I find work incredibly boring and I don't have anything interesting going on in my life.

People. I do find things like group psychology interesting but discussing individuals is mind-numbingly uninteresting. Especially celebrity gossip but political figures are a close second.

Politics.

Not interested in the slightest.