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Block the haters. Do what you want.

I personally like your contributions, they're coming from a novel place compared to the average user here (primarily 30+ dudes in my experience - lots of people that don't fit that mold too but I feel comfortable saying 30+ dude is probably the default here). I can see folks being suspicious of you given this, but it's not like you're going around slipping Venmos in people's DMs. You just hornypost - OMG it's almost like young women have a high sex drive sometimes, crazy concept. And there's been a few of those posts that have made me chuckle.

Welcome home kid. Keep being you, more diversity of users and content is a good thing. Anyone makes you feel like shit about participating here, block their ass. Hell, to a certain extent this holds for me even if you're a 30+ dude pretending to be a young woman (oldest game on the internet, lol) - so long as you're just posting for fun and not trying to get anything from anyone else, or put some poor idiot in a compromising position, who really gives a shit?

Will say that the girls over at https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/femcelmemes would probably (?) enjoy your company if you haven't checked them out yet.

I felt that way, too. I started enjoying it more again when I started blocking people that I wouldn't want to interact with, and blocking communities that seem to attract that type of person.

Nah.

I blocked the .ml instance like everyone should and I've had a great experience overall.

Just make a new account then

Edit: yoo it's violet08, you make good content, keep it up

Some people will go way out of their way to be offended. Some people just want to make you feel small. But that's not most people. Most people are good. You have to separate the wheat from the chaff. If you get stung from time to time just shake it off and don't become cynical. All the best.

Oof, yikes. 🧡 Maybe switching instance to a more chill place would help?

If people are jumping on you like that, that should a thing your mods can deal with. I don't know if lemmy.world has the kind of mod team that would go out of their way to protect you from this kinda shit (since they're a big generalist instance), but if not, you're likely to get better moderation on a smaller server. Like how we're on pawb.social and it's probably pretty good here. Just like, having a place with admins who care. But it might be worth bringing the stuff up to the lemmy.world mod team, because if they can handle it it's easier than packing up and moving.

(We're not teen here, but are also Super Online. And also various forms of queer and otherwise marginalized so yeah, I get it.)

-- Frost

Just block people.

And they can block you too.

There's a lot of weird people on Lemmy, that's not a bad thing, it's normal for online spaces at this stage. But some people will dominate your time if you let them.

Most recently, someone accused me of trying to manipulate people because of my age and gender.

"Online no one knows I'm not a dog"

That type of stuff rarely comes up, so when people just constantly mention it, it gets noticed.

So just stop saying it, and problem solved

Block those people, they aren't worth your time. report them too, get the harassers banned

Delete your account and create a new one. Problem solved.

But also, two things. First, always be questioning yourself. Those jerks might have a point. But second, jerks are jerks and you shouldn't listen to them or be bothered by them.

If you can balance those two ideas, you'll do really well online, and probably in real life too.

nope. its been fine to me.

just ignore those people lol, no need to get offended by that or anything

Eh. Sure.

I was also a teenager on the internet, back when Reddit was a chill place to be. Now I'm an adult, with... responsibilities.

My advice?

Enjoy yourself, have fun, be unfiltered, be silly. The internet isn't that big of a deal as long as you keep a degree of separation between your irl identity and online life. It's liberating especially as someone who was a bit socially awkward.

Still, don't forget mental hygiene. A break is good from time to time. Talk to people irl, take a walk, touch grass.

When people get angry online, I do my best to be a duck, let it wash off, respond either pleasantly or with cheer. Life is too short to be miserable, so go forth and have fun little duckling :)

When I switched from Reddit to Lemmy, it was my opportunity to start a fresh feed.

I stayed away from things like relationships and AITA, because they usually just got me pissed off and fighting with people.

I keep a few political things because I do want to hear what people are saying about current events, but most of my feed now is jokes, and fun conversation.

There isn't even a need to delete it, just make a new one.

Ive been here three years, and ive been accused of being all kinds of things. You cant let it get to you. You should absolutely think about peoples comments and figure out if its about their own issues or if its genuinely a problem with your own personality though.

There are users here who had difficult upbringing because of racism or gender issues, and they will think you are a hateful person if they see a comment they dont agree with on those topics.

Hang in there. If you can make comments and posts that make people feel good (many upvotes), you are helping the community I would say.

Just make a new account every year maybe? But I would recommend getting offline. My attention is pretty shit after years of reddit. Lemmy has been better for me mentally since it's not pumping algorithms

It would be sad to see you go, your sense of humor has definitely made Lemmy more enjoyable lately. That said Lemmy isn't worth it if your mental health would suffer. Do what's best for you, and if that happens to be posting great shit posts then we will all benefit

Nah, your posts are good. Fuck the haters. I don't even bother to look at usernames 90% of the time but I recognized a few of the posts you've made over the past few days in lemmy shitpost and they are genuinely good.

I feel that whenever I scroll on a community that allows US politics.

I find it amusing when people try to analyse me. They spend all that time and effort only to be that wrong.

Anyway keep up the good work, you're one of the funny people here even if you're a Republican Chinese communist feminist MGTOW spy here to cause disharmony in utopia.

So you’re 18/f/cali and someone doesn’t believe you, I mean, personally I wouldn’t be putting personal info out there.

Saw someone comment that you’re like the female Mickey7, and yeah that seems spot on lol. I mean, not everyone’s going to like what you post, but that’s why it’s shitposting.

Who cares what people think, as long as you’re enjoying posting stupid stuff.

Better than some people on here who create a new account every couple hours just to post 1 or two things, then delete their accounts to avoid being banned.

You do you.

I have considered abandoning Lemmy multiple times. It’s a bit too chock full of far leftists who think it’s fine to do unprovoked violence to far right people under the “punch a Nazi” slogan. I find many of the hypocritical tendencies I fled on Reddit can be found here, just from a slightly different slice of the political spectrum.

That's the problem with pseudo-anonymous platforms, since every post is logged into a single account it becomes possible to trace completely unrelated posts on unrelated threads and in this case even communities and instances, even to the point of stalking.

And the more posts you write the more information a hostile actor has to be able to correlate information. It's really bad for opsec, since there are no reason for two different posts on two completely unrelated threads to be linked together.

Anonymous image boards are usually much better in that regard, unfortunately chans are nazi bars, so I stopped using them years ago, my guess is that they are also difficult to moderate (though usually the mods are nazis themselves).

What I recommend doing is keep using lemmy but delete your account and make a new one from time to time, I usually do that with every website that requires a login anyway, abandon all old accounts, clear all cookies and browser data, (and apps if you use them), turn off my router overnight so I get a new IP and start anew, make a new email and register new accounts to that email.

I have been online since 1993 and had been taught and continue to treat everything I post as if it will never be deleted. I don't see a point in deleting my accounts when the data has very likely been duplicated the instant I sent it and could still easily be reposted or used by whoever has access to the database it is stored on; let alone the multitude of unknown bots and agents that may have duplicated it independently.

So, no. It never even crosses my mind because I think it is rather pointless. Of course, it is also because I don't really talk about my personal life in detail enough, or use my real name online so my online identity can be linked to my real one and don't have any fear of something I said when I was 9 being used against me now that I am 41.

So, at risk of sounding like an online stalker, I saw that comment while scrolling from that “50 year old woman” and it was just odd. Don’t take it too hard. Then switched feeds and saw this post.

I say this as nicely as I can, but, this place is largely a collection of nerds, social outcasts, Reddit fugitives(ie nerds and outcasts lol), and people that have been banned from Reddit. Not all or even many interactions here will be status quo.

If it negatively impacts your life, leave, if it’s a social outlet, treat it as such, and don’t take it too hard.

In all honesty you should probably delete and create new accounts every 6 months to a year or so. Of course I'm lazy so I don't.

I create new accounts from time to time and purge the old ones. That affords me the ability to share myself and experiences without accumulating too much identifying information in one account. So I'd recommend it at some point but where that point is is up to you.

If you’re really just a teenage girl hanging out here, until you give proof that you are actually that, people will always wonder wtf you are doing here with all the nerds. And since posting pictures would be a terrible idea for so many reasons, no one will ever know and people will keep speculating or thinking it’s bullshit. And since this is a fringe anonymous communication platform, rightfully so. So idk just keep having fun

I think its way smaller than Reddit and its very easy to recognize frequent posters/commenters. You also have more impact more easily.

I would echo the others on that it is your choice on how much info you give out about yourself.

I think its crazy to get told that you are a manipulator when I think you are genuine. Especially with age I feel it can be very different how people behave in specific age ranges. If this interaction has felt like too much I think that is very understandable and its always your choice on how to proceed.

I also have to echo the others in saying that I found your postings very entertaining and would be sad to see you go, but you will always have to do whats best for you. I think the other commenter is an asshat though.

Personally I have already deleted some accounts, and having a new fresh slate can be real nice. So experiment with whatever you feel like. And thanks for sharing your silly thoughts until now. Especially a few of the hornier memes were perfect things I could forward to my friends and they also loved it.

I deleted my Reddit account and made a new one after my ex messaged me, it's a reasonable precaution and good opsec if you don't feel comfortable with people having an easy time tracking you. I want to avoid doing that here if I can though. I don't know to what extent a record of the things you've said can pseudonymously establish status as a unique person given the way AI is changing things, but the other options seem to involve trusting untrustworthy entities or giving up on the internet entirely so it seems worth trying.

My take - Start a new one. If you delete it any good advice you've given disappears.