Imagine coming to Lemmy and being told you picked the wrong gender distro.
this post was submitted on 01 Mar 2026
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I think it's fine to look at general biological markers and categorize people for healthcare reasons. Most of the time being in the ballpark works for most people. Maybe in the future we can have some full body scan thing that picks up the optimal healthcare setup for each individual but in the meanwhile, we'll go with what we got.
But that doesn't have to have shit to do with their internal experience of themselves, or how the social environment should react to them. And I reiterate: "most people". Meaning there's going to be outliers and that's okay, and they'll need more individualized care. Being abnormal is normal.
This would only make sense if humans were some neutral sexless gender until they decided, which would have to be biologically enforced until the brain was sufficiently developed enough to choose.
Yea that's what I meant: If in a hypothetical alt-world, Humans were evolved so that biological sex is neutral for everyone.
But since "Gender" and "Sex" both translates to "性別" in Chinese, so when I first learned those English words, my brain kinda just mixed up both terms and encoded into my lexicon to mean the same thing.
There's an episode of TNG where Data builds his child. He specifically says that he designed their base form to be sexless and speciesless, so that they could choose it for themselves.
If only the Trek fandom at large would acknowledge how unfathomably based that episode is. I swear there's still a massive contingent of right wing boomers driving the narrative.
With only 1% trans, I think if we're just willing to ACCEPT when they tell us we got it wrong, apologize and leave it at that, that would be enough.
Is it possible that any of them ever got it wrong?
The amount of people who detransition is incredibly small compared to the overall trans population, and even then most people detransition because society didn't accept them and battered them down until they gave up.
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"Wrong" is probably not the best term for it. People's understanding of their own identity can evolve over time, but their own assessment of their sense of self will always be the most accurate barometer to go by. Yes, some people detransition, but as others have stated they're a small minority and ultimately that's their decision to make whether it's due to a change in how they identify or pressure from external forces.
But to the original commenter's point, we should just allow people to be the masters of their own identity and meet them where they are at any given point. If that were the case, the idea of getting it "wrong" wouldn't be a big deal at all, they could simply give us an update and the world keeps turning.
their own assessment of their sense of self will always be the most accurate barometer to go by.
Does this claim extend to people who are schizophrenic?
love the transphobia to ableism pipeline. Not a great look.
What? What gives you the right to judge people you don't know like that? You're literally just trying to shame me into silence, you have not said a single rational thing to me, you have not met the argument, you are arguing in a thoroughly disingenuous matter because you seem incapable of interacting with people in any other way, it's pure domination tactics and base rhetoric very much like that that is seen on the far right.
This is not a dick measuring contest. It's a forum. For the exchange of ideas.
This is just straight up immature behavior on your part. Please try and be civil.
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The "and" in the title is key. Humans can currently choose their gender expression, so that part can be stripped out with no changes to the world. Not assigning gender at birth is an interesting thought. Some people are really, from my view, weird about making sure their children perform gender correctly as early and often as possible.
Also I think it'd be neat if it was "genre" in English too. People understand there's more genres than horror and fantasy.
I think it would be more interesting if you could change at will. Wake up and pick your gender like you pick your outfit for the day.
Can't you? People literally do that. I truly don't understand this game.
Ranma 1/2? 😅
That's pretty much how it already works. It's just that the pressure to make the "correct" choice is fucking crazy.
For some of us we didn’t know there was a choice
Like, for 99.9% of humanity? How common is it to question your gender? For the vast majority of humanity the question doesn't come up just like the questions "are my legs fake" doesn't come up. Surely those people are also ok to be fine with whatever? It's ok to be man or woman and be heterosexual, too, right? Just checking.
Consider not posting in the future. Thanks.
This is a straight up childish answer. It's basically "boooo! you dumb!", what is that? Are you incapable of having a civil argument or do you simply refuse to have one?
Have I said anything irrational or hateful or incomprehensible?
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or incomprehensible?
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Do you really think people just behave in certain, sex-related ways, because they've been told they're this sex or the other? That sex-related behavioural differences don't appear naturally (and are perhaps reinforced) but are just learned? Also, you definitely can "choose who you want to be", lol, God made us all free-willed entities! But I cannot be a camel, nor can I be a non-material entity, or (ethnically) Nepali. We have degrees of freedom but we are fundamentally constrained by reality. If you deny reality (a very post modern, perspectivist approach that's been very popular in the West for some decades now), then sure, you're no longer constrained but then you lose the capacity to make any "objective" assertions about the world (because you denied an external reality).
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