Ask Lemmy

Is your ganja good, though?

I see that you didn't say that you weren't growing pot

Not really looked down on

You mean near universally championed as cool?

How much are your electric costs for the greenhouse per month?

Apparently there are quite a few art majors who turn their "useless" art degree into a living by making hentai, especially furry stuff.

I'd go one further and say kink itself!

Sure it's not for everyone... But people act like it's some crazy abomination, when most of the time it's just some variation of sex + roleplay.

Lego is a great one, good answer.

Any children's TV show, anyone who still watches My Little Pony as an adult is seen either as childish or as a creep (if male).

The Satanic Panic never went away. I still deal with it on occasion.

I know it isn't what you meant, but my head keeps putting the emphasis on the "in private" part, like everyone is fine with it in public, but those weird-o's doing it in private are disgusting.

Like fully a third of the population is into it, but the stigma is so strong that the IRL community is tiny and weird.

Now that there are parents that grew up as gamers, it's settled down some, but many still consider watching TV or movies for a few hours more respectable than playing games for a few hours.

Yes.

The difference is between "things that are acceptable to do" vs "things that are acceptable hobbies."

It's like saying "I watch trashy tv as a hobby" - it implies that it takes up a considerable amount of your time, you put a non-negligible amount of effort or money into it, you might be trying to improve at it, or you consider this a significant part of your identity. It isn't just "how you unwind" or "a guilty pleasure" - it is a significant part of your life.

What is the difference between acceptable and unacceptable hobbies? Acceptable hobbies improve the individual engaged in them and the world around them, while unacceptable hobbies degrade the individual and the world around them (as measured by the amorphous cultural consensus of the time). Hence:

Acceptible hobbies:

• Woodworking
• Cooking
• Soccer
• Dancing
• Painting
• Gardening
• Reading
• Playing the guitar

These hobbies have the effect of making the individual more active, more social, more creative, and more learned, while also often providing things to others.

Unacceptable hobbies:

• Watching TV
• Playing video games
• Drinking
• Smoking
• Gambling

These hobbies have, at best, a neutral effect on the individual or society.

Of course, many here will be offended, and will say "hey, I use gaming as my main form of social interaction with friends who live on the other side of the country - you're making invalid assumptions here!" Well, sure - but this isn't about my personal opinion of gaming. It is about society as a whole's general perception of it. Argue with me all you want - it doesn't change the perception of all of society.

Similarly, many will rightly point out "Hey, that middle aged mom spends hours every day on Candy Crush! I shouldn't be judged any worse than her!" Sure - but again, she doesn't consider Candy Crush to be a hobby. It is just something to kill dead time in her day. She might be an addict - but she isn't admitting it, even to herself.

People get together and dance when they vote? Weird - no shade or anything but haven’t heard of that before.

Ha! Employed PHD Philosophers. That's a good one!

It’s as good as college

No, it's not. I've heard this line from a few conspiracy and woo groups like flat-Earthers and Pleiadians. I'm not saying you are one of those folks, but those are the people who are most vocal about the idea. They believe that just because the information is presented, they'll become the experts for passively consuming it. But since they've never been to school beyond high school, they're missing the entire school context, the study culture, the discipline, the challenges to prove your knowledge, the hands-on experience, the contents of the lectures from the point of view of top professionals, and the guidance that a university offers.

There may be a few prodigies out there who really learn the material on their own, and that's amazing. But for the typical person, the effort and perseverance required is so demanding that they won't realistically stick with it before it becomes incredibly overwhelming and tedious, especially while on a platform known for its distractions.

Depends a lot on what you are watching