Wigs are unnecessary. Behold!
Edit: if you want, I'd give you mine to make a wig from (after it grows out). It's 3B curly dark ash blonde hair, pretty thick.
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I think it depends on your face and the shape of your skull - some people look beautiful bald, but not everyone. I suspect trans women in particular are going to look more like men if they are bald or keep their hair short.
I tell you what, once I've been on the E for a year ill shave my head and report back.
I did that, had fun for few days, dyed my hair pink so I still got mostly she her pronouns used until I spoke (I did not voice train 🤐), but then dysphoria kicked in and I'm still growing it out again 😓
You have awesome energy :3
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pls don't 😵💫
You're not wrong! I currently rock a shaved head and sometimes I'm shocked how femme I can look without a head covering. But I'm not exactly young, and I think my scalp needs some kind of covering most of the time.
You are so sweet to offer 😁.
The wig is well worth it imo. I'm wearing one while my natural hair grows out. They shouldn't be scratchy if you get a good one, but you also need to learn how to maintain it. I use a wig with synthetic hair and it should last for a while, but I have to be careful around things like ovens in order to not have any damage.
You could try to use fabric softener to really soften up those cheap wigs. They do tangle easily unfortunately
When you bought your nice wig did you spend time getting it fitted? Was there a fitting room and someone to help you pick one out? I feel like having a more personal touch here like you get at high end clothes shops might be useful for me.
There are places like that! One of the ones near me has salon vibes; you make an appointment, and they'll help you pick out a color, and trim the lace for you, and style it, everything.
That's what I want! I think i found a place near me, and I saw a Google review from a trans woman who said they were kind and affirmative. I'm still working up the courage.
A friend of mine has been using wigs in cosplay for quite some time, and she has repeatedly drilled into me and all her other friends that if we need a wig to get a good, expensive one, because it's absolutely worth it.
She's not trans though, so her experience may be slightly different.
I haven't personally bought or worn a high quality wig, so I'm curious to hear what others say - but I can confirm my experience matches yours: cheap wigs are itchy and hot.
I found this post and it seems like some people do find a way to wear wigs comfortably: https://old.reddit.com/r/Wigs/comments/p345ds/for_daily_wig_wearers_do_wigs_ever_get_to_feel/
Also, this resource seemed useful: https://www.breastcancer.org/treatment-side-effects/hair-loss/wigs/expert-tips
I find my wig to be itchy, especially in warm weather. How can I address this?
Carliz: Wigs are generally not itchy. It is usually the hair wrapped or tucked underneath a wig that will cause itching. An important step to keeping your wig from itching is to wrap your hair tightly and pin it down properly, paying special attention to the ends being pinned down. This will ensure your hair doesn’t move around under the wig and poke or irritate your head. There are some lower-quality wig caps that are made with hard, scratchy materials that can be irritating. It’s always a good idea to put your wig on properly and then leave it alone. Pulling at it or adjusting it throughout the day will only increase the risk of itching.
Interesting thread. I keep what hair I have buzzed close but still some good advice, thank you!
I'm still in the cheap wig stage and still very early in transition. I assume I will get more and more frustrated with the quality (right now still just happy to have hair, oh to have been on E 10 years ago). I'm also interested in what the pricey ones might be like.
Have you tried bandanas/scarfs as an alternative to a wig? They can be really cute. Still wish I could present with hair though.
I've not yet, i might try though now you've said it! I wear various cute hats and I guess I have a sortof alt / punk vibe anyway so very short hair can sortof fit.
I really feel you though sister. Male pattern baldness is really brutal for us. It was actually a big part of how I realised I was trans because the dysphoria became unbearable as it started to happen. I appreciate you bringing this question up.