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Cross-posted from "Do you agree?" by @LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone in !autism@lemmy.world

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[–] Slotos@feddit.nl 37 points 6 days ago (1 children)

That’s everyone’s brains. Emotional (and physical) intensity is the strongest reinforcement signal to any learning.

What is wild is lack of factors commonly assumed to be normal.

E.g. it’s fairly normal to have a timeline of your life available for recall at the moments notice. I, on the other hand, sometimes randomly remember a year I totally forgot I lived through and just sit there overwhelmed with no clue how to deal with the revelation.

[–] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 12 points 6 days ago (1 children)

it's funny, I don't classify by date. I couldn't recall something that happened specifically in 2017 or 2018. But I can recall exactly what happened in a given place. I expect this to be "normal" but I've been surprised before by the degree of variability in each one's mind

[–] criticon@lemmy.ca 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I am/was like that but I feel like I am not able to create those kinds of memories anymore. I can recall what song was on the radio when I went with my parents to some restaurant 20 years ago and what we ordered and how was the weather but for things from around 5 years ago I don't recall a lot of stuff that precisely

[–] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 2 points 6 days ago

Me too, older memories tend to be stronger. I would also expect this to be widely experienced, but can't say with any certainty. For me it depends on the spatial dimension really. Does the vision of a particular place bring up the memories associated with it ?

[–] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 30 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Truth is ADHDers just have a shot working memory. AFAIK Everyone remembers high emotional intensity memories, AKA "core memories". We all remember those fucking cringe moments 5 seconds before sleeping. Its just ADHDers just can't remember anything else :D

[–] Acamon@lemmy.world 12 points 6 days ago

I basically agree with you. But I will say that there's increasing research on the role of emotions in adhd that suggests that we are prone to having more extreme reactions. Everyone remembers the cringe moments but maybe we get more embarrassed about smaller things, and they stick in our mind. Similarly, everyone has difficulty moving on from something that enraged them but people have different thresholds for what throws them into that heightened state.

[–] Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 14 points 6 days ago (1 children)

That is the basic function of every brain. Strong feelings are an important factor in assessing situations. Those are moments that are necessary to remember. This is paramount to survival. Like great moments of fear.

Not a formula or some rules. Those we learn by "tricking" the brain, unless we're really emotionally invested into that topic 😁

Yeah everyone wants to be special and also belong to some tribe, but we aren't special, noone is.

[–] Lumidaub@feddit.org 3 points 6 days ago

If this is "special", I don't want to be "special".

[–] SurfinBird@lemmy.ca 11 points 6 days ago

Also weird random things like commands I haven’t typed for 20 years.

[–] Deceptichum@quokk.au 11 points 6 days ago (2 children)

My brain works on recall.

Ask me something, I couldn't answer a thing.

Get 2 words into a story about it, and I'll finish the whole thing down to the subatomic level

[–] Brickhead92@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

My whole life I've said I have a bad memory. But in the last couple of years I've come to the realisation that my memory is no worse than anyone else's, I just have bad recall.

Like you said with, starting of a story, the trick is getting the right trigger.

Although I've also found that there are something's I have no memory of at all which is alarming and still makes me worry about dementia... Hopefully I don't remember I don't have those memories.

[–] 0x0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Ah, you are an LLM?

[–] Deceptichum@quokk.au 6 points 6 days ago

I'm afraid as a large language model, I am unable to answer that question.

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 8 points 6 days ago

Well, every brain does. But ours do it more.

[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 2 points 5 days ago

My friends: remember back when we went to see that band? That was fun.

Me: Ah yes, when so n so had a t-shirt that said => funny quote <= .

Friends: He never had a t-shirt like that.

Me: But…

[–] neukenindekeuken@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

"People will never remember what you say, but how what you said made them feel."

[–] Brickhead92@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

You're alright in my books neukenindekeuken. Keep on just being you.

[–] Lumidaub@feddit.org 0 points 6 days ago

Commenters are missing the point: the average person can remember shit other than painful memories and random nonsense that is useless in normal situations.