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For some background, I came out as trans to my sister in June and last month I managed to talk about it to my parents. Two weeks ago I bought these clothes and today I wore them outside for the first. It was in a therapy group where I already came out so it wasn’t too scary, but I was still kinda stressed when I got there. Anyways I’m really happy about it

Also, unrelated but I tried to cross-post this from !trans_joy@lemmy.blahaj.zone but apparently you can only do that with link posts on piefed. Does anyone know if there's an easier to do this other than copy and pasting the posts content ?

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[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 30 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Thanks, I really like it too, especially the skirt

[–] linkshulkdoingit69@lemmy.nz 15 points 1 month ago

Killing it!! 👍

[–] burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You look great, and I'm super jealous of your hair! It sounds like you've got decent support behind you, which is so awesome.

Thanks, to be fair I made sure it looked good in the picture but most of the time it's messier than that. Yeah, I'm pretty lucky that the people I talked to about it accepted pretty easily

[–] lazyneet@programming.dev 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

You look great!

Regarding your tech question, afaik lemmy and piefed are separate protocols, so if you have a multi-protocol app, crossposting might work better. (EDIT: Or, I'm told, they're both ActivityPub-based and meant to work together, but at this point in time there are differences in the details that complicate things a little.) Otherwise an instance would need to be compatible but run a bridge that handles that. I wish these things were better connected, thinking specifically of the divide between ActivityPub and Diaspora, as well as Bluesky's formerly defederated state.

[–] SatansDaughter@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Thanks

Okay, that's kind of annoying, unfortunately the app I used before (eternity) doesn't support piefed yet and is rarely updated. I'm sticking with the web app for now

[–] pentastarm@piefed.ca 6 points 1 month ago

Voyager supports both as well, although some of piefed's more unique features aren't there yet.

Also, your outfit is awesome!

[–] lazyneet@programming.dev 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

fwiw F-Droid has an app called Blorp which apparently supports Lemmy and PieFed

[–] moseschrute@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

Blorp dev here. I approve of this message, and OP’s outfit is fire

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Piefed and lemmy are both group actor based activitypub platforms, and Piefed is explicitly designed to be compatible with lemmy, simply because lemmy has the traction/momentum in the activitypub niche they both exist in.

The difference isn't protocol based, it's just a piefed design decision and one that could easily be changed if a dev gets the chance to put some time in to it.

[–] lazyneet@programming.dev 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Ah ok, then it could easily all work seamlessly one day.

[–] moseschrute@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I think they already work pretty seamlessly? They could drift apart over time, but I believe there is some amount of coordination between Lemmy and PieFed devs.

[–] lolola@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You look a lot more put together than my first time, trust me. Even got your nails all pretty, yeah? I still haven't gotten that down.

Thanks, I can't take credit for the nails tho, my stepmom did them for me

[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 month ago

Here from /all. Looks good, OP!

[–] florencia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 month ago

Congratulations!

[–] Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

So happy for you! 😄 it’s a big step

[–] cubism_pitta@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago

Awesome outfit. Great hair. Own it!

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 month ago

Super cute! Hope you have a lovely day 😊

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 month ago

That's a very nice outfit! Perfect for Fall.

[–] happy_wheels@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 month ago

OMG YOU'RE ADORABLE I LOVE IT!!!!!!! 😁😁 Rock that style!!

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago

woaaa i wana be u <3

[–] lwhjp@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 month ago

Woah, awesome fit! You look great! And I'm very jealous of your hair <3

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 3 points 1 month ago
[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago

Jeawousss, I wanna rock that look!! You look so good in it, slay xxx