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- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
A working uterus.
Oh, and laser eyes.
Before I accepted myself, I used to dream of this sort of post singularity future.
But now... Being in the human body I was born with caused crippling dysphoria until I was able to do something about it. So now, I wonder, what most of those bodies just end up being uncomfortable and triggering dysphoria again?
Obviously, there would be some choices that wouldn't, but I have to wonder, if the further away I got from the "base model", the more dysphoria might come back to say hi
An internal data storage space that is more reliable than my brain. Need to look up some iso standards for screw sizes? No need, I have the wikipedia page in my head, word for word.
Add a built-in calculator so my mental math can be better
A proper CPU so i can calculate the repercussions of the mistake I'm about to do
Honestly, just a vagina, normal B-C cup breasts, feminized facial features, more feminine vocal chords so I can sing in a feminine range (my speaking passes but def not my singing), no body hair or facial hair, smaller rib cage that tapers more at the bottom for a thinner waist, wider hips, fat redistribution away from waist to my butt, hips, and thighs, shorter clavicles, smaller hands, and like 4" shorter. I wouldn't change numbers of body parts or add anything extra, I just wanna be like any other "average" woman.
estrogen can accomplish a surprising number of those things on your list 😅
Yes, and I'm currently on it, though I only started in January so I still have a good wait for a lot of it
congrats 😊 I hope you enjoy the magic it works on your body
Both sets. Also fuck it just make me my fursona. I don't care what the implications are it's gotta feel amazing to have wind flowing through fur
This Literally just this lol.
I'd take fur just to be warmer. I'm cold ALL the time.
If we are talking like. Any conceivable body modification is possible, then I'd like to be able to conceive my own children and undo the effects of testosterone on my vocal chords. Ive grown pretty attached to my body after getting bottom surgery 2 years ago. There's not a lot else I'd like to change about it. I'm tall and my hands and feet are sorta big. My shoulders are sorta wide. But I dont mind that stuff as much. I think I'm pretty even with those things.
So I guess I'd mostly have the same body I already do have. But I wouldn't turn down fancy nanobots that could like. Prevent cancer and stuff. I think that'd be pretty sweet. Getting breast cancer is a very real fear of mine, so the idea of a world where that doesnt exist anymore is pretty significant to me.
Both sets of genitalia for the purposes of versatility, 6-8 tits like a cat, retractable claws, the ability to see in Infrared and UV, colour changing skin like a cuttlefish, a longer and more agile tongue, and at least 4 tentacles for.... Reasons....
Phallus-preserving vaginoplasty currently exists. If money were no object, I would like to get phallus-preserving vulvaplasty.
Damn! I thought I had to choose. Thanks for pointing this out.
Now about the tentacles?
Edit: just looked at pictures. I'd get damn good at tucking lol
hmm;;; not suwe whethw t be scawed or awousd...,,
Why not both, baby?
Found Heather Morell’s account.
~I realize that on second take, by googling her name, it comes up with a whole big old list of actually living or dead people. I mean the Heather Morell from Katalepsis, which honestly every trans girl should read, full stop, bar none.~
I had to look for a bit but I worked out what you meant. It's been added to my reading list.
Nah. I have spent a lifetime wishing for unrealistic transition options. HRT, SRS an FFT are close enough to magic.
A simple fuel/energy exchange system would be nice. Something along the lines of how my car works. Combustible material goes in, is turned into kinetic energy, repeat. So none of this "you consumed too many carbs and didn't burn enough off so I'm just gonna store that as fat rolls for you" bullshit! If I'm not using the fuel, you keep the fuel there in its raw form until I am using it.
While we're at it, if I've just put viable fuel in, and I have stuff to do, I expect to feel energetic! The onus should not be on me to precipitate that energy by forcing myself into the activity that feels impossible because of the endless, oppressive lethargy that plagues my every waking minute. No. Fuel in, BING, energy go!
Yeah I don't know if this is within the scope of this question but I am SO FED UP with my body being like "naaah, still don't feel like it" when I am treating it better now than I ever have before in my life.
YES! YEESSSS!!!! I'VE THOUGHT ABOUT THIS SO OFTEN. It has to be sooo nice to just plug yourself into a wall socket for a few hours to recharge your energy so you wouldn't have to sleep or eat. Or even better, just swap out batteries. Life would be so much easier but we're stuck in this mortal shell ;-;
Four arms. Because I can work out enough to get pecs and defined abs, then have the worlds first ten pack
A prehensile tail because I like climbing and the added balance would be wild
Graphene scales, because lord knows I'll probably need some kind of body armour
Oh and of course a footlong Hor- user was muted
Re: the last one, there's actually someone verified with that size. But another's funnier - he claims to have the biggest one. He can envelop a doorknob with his fore- user was muted
Directional smell like rats have. It would bring a new era of undeniable fart responsibility. Also high frequency hearing so bats can no longer get away with talking shit about us.
I have pretty good smell, like I can sometimes follow a person's scent trail, can tell who are related, smell cooking in neighbors houses, etc.
I suspect we would decide that farts are socially acceptable. Lots more people sneak farts than you'd think, and you just get used to it. Calling it out is crass and childish. Same with bad breath, general BO, skin, stuff on shoes. But also mold and yeast in places you wouldn't suspect. We'd instantly ban all scented soaps, dishwasher detergents, and especially dryer sheets, those smell awful.
I definitely have a higher tolerance for natural smells but much lower tolerance for synthetic smells from the average person.
Funny you say that, because one thing that always irritates me is perfumes. It bothers me when someone has been through a building within the last hour or two wearing perfume. When I ride my bike, I am frequently struck by the synthetic smells coming off the pedestrians I pass. Busy areas are really offputting because of the mishmash of perfume smells. Yet still I can't conclusively pin a fart on a culprit.
Give me modular arms and legs. Having someone be able to pop my limbs off as part of a power dynamic would be amazing, and it would be really cool to decide how tall I wanted to be that day.
I've spent decades feeling out the contours of my ideal shape, of course I'd just be my fursona~<3
- Live for as long as we choose
- The ability to shape shift at will
- The ability to become pregnant
- Wings
- Lots of eyes
- Color changing hair
A few more arms, an array of tool attachments. Normal sized feet and better eyes would be nice
Honestly I'd just slowly grow shorter and more proportional. The gaslight anyone that questions my height
Shape shifting (ghibli/Miyazaki style because why not), no aging, being able to eat as much as you want without it affecting your body would all be 💯. If we're talking animal like qualities I'd basically want everything cats have. And wings.
Dragon
More arms, self wiping anus, self healing cartilage
Maybe a samus blaster too
Just dropping solid, cubic poops like a wombat would work wonders on the clean anus front.
I find the counter-offer acceptable, begin the process.
Deffo elf ears, wouldnt dislike both sets of genitals, but remove all body hair except armpits and inguinal area pliz. And i'd like glowy magical cybernetic hair i can change color and shape with an app
Outside of bottom surgery and FFS? Idk just legs that want to function normally would be nice, also an immune system that works right would be lovely. Being shorter would also help but mainly the two other things, I can live with being taller than I want to be, I just want my body to work right.
Skin that never gets to the point that makes me want to burn it off to stop the itch would be me first pick.
opposable thumbs for my feet would be my first unusual want for sure, and maybe proportionally longer arms, and narrower shoulders. i'd also like fancy robot muscles so i'm easily strong enough to carry my partner around. once swapping chassis becomes more accessible though, i'd imagine i'd want to try out a number of different forms. might be neat to be an octopus person sometimes, or be real little, or be a bird, or a cybernetic motorcycle, or a swarm of rats controlled by a distributed hive mind.
Amorphous shifting mass as free-form as thought
And cat ears
I think I'm probably pretty vanilla, but I'd be a muscle mommy with a massive meat hammer. And claws.
I’d want four arms, infrared vision, and my sense of smell back.
If I could choose I am not sure I would have a body? Maybe I don't really know what it would be like to be fully disembodied so it's easier for me to say that - but since I was a teenager I had persistent desires to be burdened with a body at all (looking back it's probably from gender dysphoria).
At the time I figured the best would be for my brain to be kept in a vat or something, and my consciousness could interface with other people through computers. (It's not a coincidence this is how I feel on the internet - a disembodied consciousness interacting with others with computers. I have long preferred the internet to "reality".)
That said, since I've transitioned I've become more skeptical I actually feel this way - but I really don't have any strong, clear awareness of what I wish I looked like in a positive fashion, mostly I just know that I don't like how I look now.
Be a giant space station? May want to read Station Eternity by Mur Rafferty.
detachable genitals with various sizes and shapes plus an option for Barbie smooth
Completely post-human shapeshifting being made of quadrillion nanomachines that can mimic anything they want - from average human or animal, to the lovecraftian-gigerescue biomechanical thing.