I never gave HER a dime but it was the platform I met my eventual wife on. However unless you're looking to meet other ladies, it's probably not the app for you.
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I once had a date with a pole dancer off Her. I never mention it, constantly.
Yeah I should've specified I'm after guys lol I'll edit my description
I tried HER years ago and left unimpressed. I found my partner of 5yrs on OkCupid though
OkCupid is a dead/dying site. It sounds like you specifically got off it just as it started its decline.
It's probably not any worse than Tinder though. On account of match.com buying both...
I met my wife on OK cupid. 8 years ago though.
At the time, OkC was more for people seeking relationships. I did hear they took all the good features out of it though. I had used Tinder for 5-6 years prior to that without any luck because it's only for unicorns and people looking for a fling. Not sure how it is nowadays
meetup.com
I believe most apps can be used for free... to an extent. Just like mobile games they can very much be pay to win with many QoL features locked behind a subscription. I know you prefer web, so I'm mostly thinking of apps that also have a web interface. I'm also a woman and a similar age as you; I've given up on dating sites and apps to meet people. I do have friends that have had decent success with Bumble, Hinge (no web interface), and Boo. I've not looked into the full web-based ones in a long time, but even then I remember them being very limited without a subscription; I can't imagine that's changed. Best of luck girl ๐ฉท Online dating is a complete drain!
It's called outside!
Joking aside, its fundamentally unlikely as if you're not paying you're the product and maintaining a dating network is a lot of work both in admin tasks, technical tasks and legal tasks.
What differentiates a dating site from something like Lemmy? The secret matching algorithm?
You could definitely use lemmy for dating if you wanted to. But dating apps offer eg. geographic filtering and (at least should!) do a much better job of guiding users to make meaningful profiles. Lemmy has no need for such.
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Orrrrrr, alternative option......how about we go watch fireworks tomorrow? It'll be a date. We'll grab some food, and then go see the new Jurassic Park movie, and then go see the fireworks!
Uhhhhh, just be in Cleveland tomorrow at 5pm. Just, anywhere in Cleveland. I'll find you by roaming the city and yelling "YOU SINGLE??? HEY!!! YOU SINGLE???" at every woman I see on the street. I'm sure I'll find you EVENTUALLY!
Just don't stop in East Cleveland. That is a seperate city, and we in Cleveland don't recognize them as anything more than an active war zone. You WILL die if you stop there.
Soooooo, what are you thinking? Drinks? Yay or nay? Aw who am I kidding??? OBVIOUSLY we're going to drink!!! This city is BUILT on alcoholics!!!
......wha? Where are you going??? Come back!!! I haven't even shown you our massive free stamp!!! Thats not a penis euphanism! We really do have a massive free stamp here!
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