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transcription: women be like "where can i find a goth gf?" my sister in christ we killed the american shopping mall and the goth girls lost their natural habitat

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[–] abbotsbury@lemmy.world 5 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

the idea that goth girls are dependent on a consumerist habitat feels offensive

[–] bstix@feddit.dk 5 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

I'm sorry to tell you that hair dye, plastic glitter and make-up does not come from the ecologic goth homestead.

It came from the mall. Sorry.

[–] abbotsbury@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago

you don't need malls for hair dye and makeup, plus DIY goths always exist

malls tap into the goth demographic, not create it

[–] thespcicifcocean@lemmy.world 2 points 14 hours ago

when was the last time you managed to set foot in a hot topic or spencers?

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 4 points 20 hours ago

Goths are still extant in bdsm clubs and certain bars

[–] TargaryenTKE@lemmy.world 2 points 21 hours ago
[–] abbiistabbii@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 1 day ago (3 children)

The idea that the only Habitat of the Goth is the American Shopping Mall is a misunderstanding, as it is the habitat of the American Mall Goth. Here's some other places where you can find Goths:

  • New Age/Witchcraft shops (The Witchy Goth).
  • Metal bars/Nightclubs (The Metal/Tradgoth).
  • Medieval/Victorian Old Towns (The Lesser European Dark Academic Goth, The Greater European General Goth)
  • Second Hand Bookshops (The Greater European Dark Academic Goth).
  • Museums (The Medieval Academic Goth).
  • Glasgow Central Station (The Glaswegian Cathouse Goth, also sometimes hybridised with the Electric Trainspotter due to interbreeding).
[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 20 hours ago

Rural Walmart has plenty of hick goths

You've also got the pain goths at bdsm events

[–] PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

As a 'murican, are there Museum Goths of the New World?

[–] figjam@midwest.social 3 points 22 hours ago

Of course. The goths are an adaptable people.

[–] ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Klear@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago
[–] RedFrank24@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

When I was growing up I knew exactly one goth, and he stank because he never showered. There were no goth girls, there were only grebs.

[–] fireweed@lemmy.world 68 points 2 days ago

If the ship of Theseus were a meme

[–] WrenFeathers@lemmy.world 20 points 1 day ago

When I was growing up, the goths I remember wouldn’t be caught dead in a shopping mall.

[–] Turret3857@infosec.pub 28 points 2 days ago

I know a lot of the reason people say malls are failing is the internet but I also feel like its due to rising inflation. The malls that still exist near me are so fucking expensive. Most of the stores you can't even get a T-shirt for less than $20.

Not to mention the privacy concerns. The local mall near me has banned face coverings and hooded jackets. I have no doubt's that somewhere along the line footage is being sold to data brokers

[–] Xanthrax@lemmy.world 46 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

Hot Topic and Spencer's are both still running. Also, there's Dolls Kill in LAX.

Also, get a seasonal job as a scare actor. I helped run a haunt, and goth girls were honestly our backbone.

[–] Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 16 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Hot Topic is losing its edge (seriously there was like one rack of fishnets and the rest was branded stuff including Bluey branded stuff) and Spencer's has been reducing locations.

[–] Doc_Crankenstein@slrpnk.net 7 points 1 day ago

Yea. The Hot Topic of today is nothing like the Hot Topic of 10 years ago.

It used to be a "counter culture" store but when the Mall era started dying they changed into a "pop culture" store trying to chase profits.

[–] chrislowles@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The longer Hot Topic sticks around the more likely they're gonna end up like the merch side of an EB Games (any Aussies will know what I mean)

[–] tempest@lemmy.ca 4 points 17 hours ago

EB Games is Canada as well and I know exactly what you mean.

I feel like Funko pops are like an opportunistic infection. When ever you see them it's not a good sign for the host.

[–] Xanthrax@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

They're definitely waning, I agree. They're still around, though. I still go there every once in a while for cheap, body safe jewelry and band t-shirts.

[–] Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 4 points 1 day ago

I appreciate that they at least save the really "safe" stuff for their other brand Box Lunch, but they need to let Hot Topic be edgier

[–] erotador@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 2 days ago

get a job? scaryyy

[–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 days ago

Burn down, down, burn down Hot Topic

[–] ShittDickk@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

Gotta get a job at a coffee shop but not some corpo chain one of those fucks like black mud, or morning muck or some shit.

[–] dylanmorgan@sh.itjust.works 26 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Don’t ask how I know but the one on the left is pretty insistent he’s a boy who just likes cute goth girl clothes.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Well NOW I'm jealous. (I assume he's not lying, and doesn't do stuff like taking hormones or getting plastic surgery specifically for crossdressing)

[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

That just makes him a cute goth guyfriend

[–] dylanmorgan@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 days ago
[–] Sergio@slrpnk.net 25 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

If you're in Europe, Castle Party is next week, Amphi Festival is the week after that, and then M'era Luna is in August!

If you're in the US.... uh... the Gathering is in August? I dunno, I've been posting tour info on !gothindustrial@lemmy.world as I come across it... (edit: see here for a collection of tour/festival dates)

[–] Szyler@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What would you call festivals that are emo themed like the ones you linked? Rock?

[–] Sergio@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 day ago

I've seen emo-themed nights advertised at clubs, for nostalgia. So they might just be called emo. Tho to bring in larger crowds they might use different terms, yeah.

[–] rtxn@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

Goth girls were hunted to extinction by the rolling giants and the mall ecology collapsed as a result. The niche is now occupied by urbex enthusiasts and Julien Reverchon.

[–] TanteRegenbogen@feddit.org 5 points 1 day ago

In winter, I turn into a goth enby or a dark mori kei enby

[–] NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The goths are all at Affleck’s Palace, as they always will be.

[–] copd@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I've been too old to go in there for a decade now my manc brotha

[–] Zizzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 2 days ago

Sorry for the reddit link, but theyre being pushed into grocery stores!

https://www.reddit.com/r/Seattle/s/XX0W16OdUo

[–] sunoc@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago (5 children)

Wait, malls died in USA? Wtf happened? I thought these were supposed to be temples of consumerism!

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

What happened was same day delivery.

On kind of a weird note, a kind of bright side... a number of former malls are basically being converted into... sort of really slapdash, improvised arcologies.

Most of the stores get resectioned and converted to basically apartments or condos, and sometimes a few are kept open as actual stores.

So... you can now, theoretically, be a goth girl who actually literally lives in a mall, possibly even directly inside a former Hot Topic or Spencers.

Here's Forbes laying out the case for this potentially making financial sense:

https://www.forbes.com/sites/chriswestfall/2024/12/09/from-retail-to-rentals-how-empty-malls-became-housing-solutions/

Ironically... the original intention of the guy that came up with the concept of a shopping mall... was that they would actually be much more like this, intentionally planned, walkable, largely self-sustaining, utopian communities, dreams of the 1950s/60s.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victor_Gruen

The mall was commercially successful, but the original design was never fully realized, as the intended apartment buildings, schools, medical facilities, park and lake were not built.

Yeah.

Malls were actually always supposed to be this way.

But we decided to build suburbs and highways instead, fundamentally missing the entire point, because Oil and Gas profits must go BRRrRr

[–] chrislowles@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The homely feeling some shopping centers/malls have make sense now, not surprised that was supposed to be the endgame.

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago

Yep.

Fundamentally designed to be inhabited, not just visited.

[–] Baggie@lemmy.zip 17 points 2 days ago (2 children)

They've been dying for a while. COVID was a bit of a deathblow, but the rot was setting in way before that. A combination of online marketplaces becoming the norm, and the progression away from people ever leaving their houses really ate away at American malls over the past two decades.

I don't live in America, but I spent a decent amount of time on r/deadmalls back in the day and found the factors behind these monoliths crumpling fascinating.

[–] myrrh@ttrpg.network 3 points 1 day ago

...big boxes killed malls in the 2000s, the retail apocalypse killed big boxes in the teens, and covid put the nails in big retail's coffin...

[–] Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 3 points 2 days ago

Honestly my interpretation is that many of the malls that were either built in places they shouldn't have been or built too large are finally dying off but I've still been some absolutely popping malls as recently as last week

Basically any mall that continues to rely entirely on a big box store or 4 to sustain themselves is crumbling but those which have refocused on smaller stores are in much better shape

[–] skulblaka@sh.itjust.works 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Zetta@mander.xyz 4 points 2 days ago

Yes, but at least in my area, which is a mid-sized city, shopping malls are still alive and well.

[–] BigBananaDealer@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

mall of america is still packed pretty much everyday

[–] bdonvr@thelemmy.club 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Most of them. Now the only ones around are the high-end ones in sizeable cities

I mean there's still a lot of old malls around but they're really pretty sad and most of the stores inside are dead or shuttered.

[–] BubblyRomeo@thebrainbin.org 7 points 2 days ago

#BringBackShoppingMalls

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