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[+] solsangraal@lemmy.zip 75 points 7 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (5 children)

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[–] trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world 58 points 7 months ago (3 children)

It's not that uncommon to want validation from people you hate. Ask anyone with narcissistic parents.

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[–] Karyoplasma@discuss.tchncs.de 18 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I get where you're coming from but I still disagree with your position. An internet conversation is not the same as a meeting in real life. I like most people here because I don't have to see them or have to be around them.

I see it as a way to exchange information and opinions and as a way to escape from reality. Sometimes that goes off the rails and devolves into shitposting. Social media is a misnomer, it should be parasocial media.

OTOH, I don't have a twitter account (nor Insta, nor FB, nor TikTok, nor whatever-new-hip-platform), so maybe I'm just fucking antisocial and wished I weren't.

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[–] peregrin5@lemm.ee 10 points 7 months ago (1 children)

i think hating all other people is one of the things we can all agree on and empathize with.

[–] Frozengyro@lemmy.world 12 points 7 months ago

"In the beginning the universe was created. This made a lot of people very unhappy and has widely been regarded as a bad move"

[–] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Hating peoples isn't a reason to not share thoughts. That makes zero sense.

You are assume this post is validation and that sort of shit where people project their own motivations onto others is why I feel the same way as the person in the meme and can be the motivation to post.

[–] Blackmist@feddit.uk 1 points 6 months ago

I don't hate people. Just the ones I can't get away from by pressing a button.

[–] salacious_coaster@infosec.pub 44 points 7 months ago (9 children)

I actually did find that person. We're pretty happy, grumbling and isolating from the world together. There's people and then there's people, and the latter are just awful.

[–] FinalRemix@lemmy.world 9 points 7 months ago

Agreed. I think I've found her, too. I gotta tell ya. This is pretty great.

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[–] socsa@piefed.social 28 points 7 months ago

Tips fedora

M'santhrope

[–] underscores@lemmy.zip 21 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

I just gave up, it's just easier for my mental health.

To anyone that manages to work 9-5 and grind dating + hobbies. you're a god and a legend. good for you.

[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I work 8:30-16:30 and the I have hours left with my wife. We spend that time walking in parks, puzzling, dancing, debating, watching art, watching movies or TV shows... We have so much time!

I dont really have hobbies anymore because I prefer spending all my time with my wife, and I'm ok with that.

It's not that hard, really, I think. Just... Touch grass, go outside, stop doom scrolling, go find a hobby you love, find people and remember that everyone is flawed, so am I

[–] moseschrute@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Idk why this is getting downvoted. Sounded wholesome. I can see people disagreeing on the giving up hobbies party, but it’s also really easy to make judgments from an outside perspective. Me and my partner do have hobbies and we do appreciate our alone time, but I also aspire to do more puzzles and quality time things together.

[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 2 points 6 months ago

Ah sure, have hobbies, do whatever you want, do whatever you like (as long as you don't hurt or inconvenience others), just BE HAPPY. If happiness to you is being alone in a block hut on the mountain then you're different from me, and that's fine. Live and let live.

My wife and I just happen to be so close that we want to just always be together and do everything together. We love our quality time together and I prefer my time with her over my hobby time so hobbies kinda went exit

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[–] TheReturnOfPEB@reddthat.com 17 points 7 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

yeah what she is talking about is called wanting a pet dog

[–] Echolynx@lemmy.zip 9 points 7 months ago

No, cats are infinitely more misanthropic than dogs.

[–] match@pawb.social 6 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I could be her dog 🥺

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[–] Sergio@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

The Stooges - I Wanna Be Your Dog

[–] Dagnet@lemmy.world 12 points 7 months ago (1 children)

People do say its more important to hate the same stuff than to like the same stuff in a relationship

[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 9 points 7 months ago

Best to be safe and hate everything to have maximum compatibility with potential partners.

[–] Lembot_0003@lemmy.zip 7 points 7 months ago

Quite a logical wish.

[–] sunbytes@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago

It's possible. I did it.

[–] KindnessIsPunk@lemmy.ca 4 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Tangential for sure, but does anyone think the rise is misanthropy is linked to the documented increase in loneliness and alienation? It's purely conjectural but it stands to reason that a feeling of alienation coupled with the distance preventing us from humanizing others might be corollary.

[–] Manifish_Destiny@lemmy.world 8 points 6 months ago

Nope, misanthrope here.

Humans just fucking suck.

They have to kill and eat and 'fix' everything that comes in their way.

I didn't like people just as much when I was forced to interact with them more than I am now, I'd just argue it's easy to not rely on others nowadays.

[–] SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

From my personal anecdotal evidence, yeah, to an extent. I live in the States and a lot of our culture is pretty toxic. I had to find a few non-toxic, non-misanthropic groups to hang out with to reverse my misanthropy. Moving out of a conservative state helped a lot. Prior, I'd end up hanging out with other reluctantly socializing misanthropes who repeated prevalent toxic behaviors. It always resulted in a lot of unnecessary drama and hurt feelings.

[–] nialv7@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

Society atomized, third place dismantled. As an adult it's difficult to meet new people and form deep relationships. There are services that ostensibly help you do that, whose real mission is the same old thing - profit maximizing. So they all enshittify and become toxic and manipulative.

It's difficult to not be misanthropic.

[–] ikidd@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago

She seems sweet.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 2 points 7 months ago

Same. 😔

[–] N0t_5ure@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago

I think I've found my soulmate.

[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 2 points 6 months ago

So you're not people, then?

[–] andros_rex@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, my marriage ended with my ex torturing me for about three days give or take, and then calling the police to have me removed from the house I paid the bills on. The police then lied about what happened and there is no police report. I essentially don’t have rights as a human being - if a cis person rapes or physically assaults me, they will face no consequences. Kinda done with all forms of relationships.

[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 1 points 6 months ago (7 children)

Why torture yourself, then?

There are good people out there, I'd like to think I'm one, or trying at least. So there is already at least one good person out there.

Don't let a few assholes ruin your life. there are boat loads of like-minded people out there for you, find them

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