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I assume years of collectively crying about it online has made something as simple and natural like dating seem like this unachievable task.
Not sure if it’s just me, but I feel like young people are less capable than ever to socialise. I thought I was a social pariah, but I don’t have shit on some people out there.
There's no third places where you can just loiter.
I was a complete social reject in middle and high school so I don't even know how to people but I just assumed that was just me and my miserable circumstances apparently a lot of people have the same problem?
Same, I struggle with people. I think it's just that our kind of people are more active online.
Well when men keep hearing “don’t approach us”, we shouldn’t be shocked when men don’t approach people.
At the same time, lots of men are really shitty when they "approach" women.
"Don't approach us" is a response to men's behaviour, not the other way around.
Step 1- be attractive.
Cry me a river. I've never heard a women say "don't approach me", but I've heard many say "don't be a douche" and "stop thinking you're a fucking victim".
You already forgot the bear in the woods?
Apparently you already forgot their reasoning behind it. A bear is a known quantity. Humans can lie to gain your trust, then turn on you. They weren't saying all men are bad, they were saying that meeting a stand man alone in the woods - you have no idea how this person will act.
IDK women are not scared of me. Maybe the problem is you? Maybe you're not the victim you think you are and you're just an ass?
These guys are forgetting that you were the only man that they would prefer over the bear.
Congratulations
Geez you incels are stupid. Between victims like you and wannabe "alpha males" who wanna jerk one another, I agree mens are now a bunch of losers who wont ever get laid.
VR porn and furry conventions
Men don’t want to be branded ‘creepy’ and women have constantly stated they want to be left alone. Men listened.
Man vs bear debate sealed the deal for a ton of guys
It made me decide the world would be a better place without us. What right do we have to exist if we make 50% of the world so frightened just by existing?
Even if true and you're serious- it's irrelevant anyway. You're still a person and it's your fundamental human right to exist.
Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise. Either we humans all get along together, or there shouldn't be any humans.
Women don't want to be approached in public.
Men learn this quickly.
Also that speed dating stat is totally a lie, every dating event is a sausage fest.
Women don’t want to be approached in public.
I think the problem is that men don't want to be approached in public. Or in private, for that matter. Half the joke of this is how antisocial, short-tempered, and easily discouraged men are.
Please, approach me in public. I'll be flattered even if you're not my type and will treat you with the utmost respect. It happened in the past.
45% of men 18 to 25 have never asked out a woman in person
I can't speak for the whole 45% but some of us have heard stories from women about how that other 55% can behave. I think I'd rather wait for a lady to (never) ask me out then put someone in the position of thinking "Oh, is he gonna take it bad if I say no?"
This is it. I feel like I am inflicting myself on women. That I am a problem for them simply for existing. Why would I do something like that to someone if its as bad as we are always being told?
Get out and ask some people. Plenty of women like it as long as you're polite
"Polite" implies that if you're agreeable and friendly women will understand that you're interested in them and not just being agreeable and friendly.
I think part of the problem is that what we're all really after is fucking, which isn't polite at all. Being polite about it just makes you look weak and ineffective at the thing that we all say we want but can't mention.
If any mention of sex by a man is considered inappropriate, how is a man supposed to negotiate sex?
This is a big reason why I'm engaged: We got the impolite part out of the way first.
The "sex is impolite" thing... I think that's a lot bigger than a lot of people give credit. I grew up in a non-denominational Christian house in the deep South. The only sex education I got was abstinence only, if you have sex with someone it's basically the same as having sex with every person that person has ever had sex with. Your penis will fall off, her vagina will fall off, and you'll have 37 babies.
Obviously, on an intellectual level, I've rejected all of that. Sex is fine and normal, having multiple partners throughout your life is normal. Your penis and her vagina will be fine, as long as you're careful. No kids if you're careful.
Despite this, for my entire life, sex has just been a thing that you don't talk about. You don't ask for. You're not a friend if you want sex, you're a pest. But also, you can't want sex from someone you've just met, then you're a creep and a pervert. You have to be their friend first, build a relationship and then you can want sex, but remember - you're not a friend if you want sex, so you're just living a lie to get sex. It's a vicious catch 22. One of the biggest driving factors in all animals - sex - and we've moralized it so that we both cannot seek it and must obtain it.
I've got a fair few female friends. Some of them I would not mind having a deeper relationship with. But there's always the struggle. Am I just being nice to get with her? Well, I can't do that - I'd feel like a horrible person. So let's just be friends and ignore the feelings for too long. Let's let her believe we're just friends, nothing more, until I can't ignore it, confess feelings, and - shocker - that's not a recipe for a relationship.
We're all products of our environment. I can recognize a lot of the factors that have led me to having the mentality that I do. Unfortunately, the environments for so many of us are just not good ones. It feels like every major force in our lives is pushing us towards isolation. The problem isn't men, isn't women, it's all just fucked. The whole thing needs an overhaul.
Thanks for this because it is exactly what I'm talking about. I wasn't raised in a Christian house, but anything that was even vaguely titillating was considered obscene. When your mom angrily throws out a Victoria's Secret catalog calling it "disgusting" how are you supposed to feel about liking the pictures?
If someone thinks their physical attraction is disgusting, perverse, or annoying how are they supposed to negotiate a relationship?
And unfortunately, one of the only places that are consistently telling young men they AREN'T disgusting, perverse and annoying is the same place that actively makes men into annoying, perverse, disgusting people. For a lot of young men, the only consistent positive reinforcement they receive is from Tate et al. The only ones teaching men (poorly, but still) how to navigate these interpersonal relationships are the ones turning them into pests.
None of this is the individual woman's fault. None of this is the individual man's fault. It's a societal failing, and the only way we're going to fix it is as a society. Men's problems are women's problems, and women's problems are men's problems. We all shape the world we share, and we all have a duty to shape it into a better one, for everyone.
reading this thread I'm glad I'm a removed in a relationship. my spouse is the best. i got so fucking lucky.
there's a massive epidemic of loneliness out there. the loss of the free/cheap third spaces, lockdowns, and social media have made a fucking shitstorm. I'm scared for the generations below me just starting to enter the workforce. so many kids just unable to function properly.
i can't solve it. but I've been putting my devices down more and (trying) to get out more. get more sunlight and fresh air, even if i just sit outside and watch the ducks. it's hard out there. give yourself a break, okay? eat a snack and take a walk.
Third places
Women have been told they only need to exist to be desired and are not putting any effort at the beginning of the relationship and men are getting tired of doing all the lift without any reciprocation.
That has been my experience, anyway, and I'm getting tired of meeting women that show no effort to make things work.
Every time I see an article like this I think who fucking cares? Like what's going on with men? Its a generational and cultural thing its not men's fault. Dating sucks, people get rejected in ultra harsh ways, sometimes being filmed and then posted on social media for trying to ask someone out. If I was in the age range to be dating I wouldn't bother.
Women might care?
Didn't they explicitly ask via #metoo movement and what not for men to NOT approach them directly ever or else they screem that this is harassment?
If you mistook ‘don’t be creepy’ for ‘don’t approach women at all,’ then yeah. You’re probably in a mental place where you shouldn’t approach.
Given how a lot of women are, don't be creepy does mean "don't approach them at all. Unless I'm interested in you, which I won't tell you because men have to make the first move".
Honestly, I get it's a green text, but this is pretty easily explained. First off: dating is fucking expensive, and unfortunately standard gender roles means the dude foots the bill most of the time. Yes times are changing, but that's still pretty standard. Pair that with the fact that dudes usually have to make the first move (again, old gender standards) and the fact that social media adds another layer of risk of being ridiculed or making someone viral because they were 'crimge' or 'gave the girl the ick' and it's a pretty stacked deck. Hell, point one is such a strong weigh in that it's enough to explain all of it. People are more broke than ever, and if dating by default involves going out, well guess that date isn't going to happen.
I recently ended a 6 year relationship. I'm not going to settle down with anyone again unless they have their own stuff going on like a career and goals. I think a lot of women expect men to manage all the finances, set goals, plan vacations and provide stability but they don't want to do the traditional gender role stuff like cooking and cleaning or making a home. So what's the point? Why make someone else's life easier if they don't do the same for you? had a son young(I was 19 when I had him) and he's 11 now, so it's not like I'm dreaming of starting a family. Most women bring nothing to the table. And if you're lucky enough like me to have a good income, house, car, etc... you realize a lot of things are easier living alone.
Women want the princess treatment but don't know how to act like a princess. Beyond that, sex isn't all it's hyped up to be. I know I sound like a redpill incel but dating shouldn't be a priority for anyone. What's the rush? Don't fall for the first thing you see, make sure they're worth it first.
I get there's a bit of biterness here, but speaking as an older millennial this was my experience as well. Feminism created a weird gap of women becoming strong and independent, but with some meant 'im not going to do traditional fem, but expect you to do traditional man' with no compromise. I ended up finding a wonderful woman and we both split everything, but it took me 20 years.
It's a complicated issue with a lot of layers. Like a depressing onion.
Men were told to stop approaching women for any reason in any situation. So we did.
Dating apps and websites have overinflated women's egos and absolutely obliterated most mens egos. The average looking guy with a job and some normal hobbies is going to get very few matches where as most women get hundreds a day regardless of their level of employment or having hobbies. This leads to women believing they can find the millionaire bachelor if they just hold out for longer when in reality they are not the women that the millionaire bachelor is going to pick.
Most women still expect men to be chivalrous and pay on the first date, but they have no actual intention of pursuing a relationship with that guy. Unfortunately some women have learned they can get a free meal and entertainment for an evening at no cost if they just say yes to dates they have no interest in. Most guys have been burned by that as some point.
A lot of women are still playing games. Saying no because they want the man to "chase" them or "fight" for them. Most guys have stopped entertaining that behavior whatsoever but I still see so many women doing it. As men we can't tell if that's what you want or if you actually mean it when you say no so the majority of us will immediately stop pursuing you if you decline us. I'm 33 and women are STILL doing this. I thought it would taper off as I got farther from high school aged girls but from my experience it has not gone down in any significant way.
There are a million other reasons and nuanced details but I am tired of typing.
Myself and most men I know around my age who all did very well in the dating scene when we were younger have just completely given up on dating now. We have zero interest in putting in the time, energy and money into something that yeilds nothing in return these days.
Like most things I think this will reach a breaking point and things will shift but I'm not sure when that will be or what will push things over the edge.
Same here. Most women bring nothing to the table, so there's no rush. I'd rather save the money and spend my time studying or playing video games
If you don’t like women, then date men. You are telling us you can’t connect to women, then you aren’t attracted to them. If you were you would connect emotionally with them. You’re probably just straight because you were told to be for so long and you made it an identity. Open your mind and think about those male friends you had you made excuses to wrestle with a little bit more just so you could feel his touch. Just give in to what you know to be true.
If he was gay he wouldn't be in this conversation at all.
Weaponized homophobia is every female narcissist’s favorite tool against men.