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[–] SirSamuel@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago (2 children)

What does it mean when you feel 1 most of the time but occasionally instantly jump to 4/5 as stressors built up without your awareness?

Cause that's me. Everything's fine till it isn't and I don't see it coming

[–] DeceasedPassenger@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

For me, that feeling comes from dissociating. Anxiety is so viscerally physically uncomfortable that i try to avoid it at all costs (which leads to feeling anxious about feeling anxious lmfao meta-anxiety ftw lol). Part of that avoidance entails not even mentally getting close to the triggers. So when they become unavoidable or pop up unexpectedly, it can feel pretty drastic. I feel like my avoidance of thinking about things is probably affecting my ability to understand, and the unknown is a wellspring of anxiety. Maybe it's different for you, or maybe this helps you understand yourself better. Either way i hope things get easier for you.

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago

That's how they describe panic attacks. If it happens enough that it affects your functioning, it could be panic disorder. It's a form of anxiety disorder.

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 week ago (2 children)

6 years ago I was at 5. But I've slowly but surely been climbing. Today I find myself slightly above the chart, and I've been here for a year or two. Looking back I find it unbelievable that I lived at stage 4 for four years straight.

It gets better.

[–] DeceasedPassenger@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

Been living in stage 3-4 for too long now. Comments like these are one of the only things giving me hope. Used to be a lot more cynical but now i'll take anything I can get. Thank you

[–] tissek@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 week ago

Been doing the same journey and want to chime in that it be better. Still have my dips but they are so fleeting.

[–] fossphi@lemm.ee 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

4±1. But 5 is rare

Fucking hell, I'm tired of being dysfunctional

[–] Sylvartas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

3 is basically my baseline, but I never truly reach 5, so I've got that going on for me I guess.

[–] fossphi@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

How do you cope with it? Or are you also just planning to get used to it?

[–] Sylvartas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

To be fair it is more of a 2 when I'm doing good, but with the amount of shit going on lately I rarely am. So I'm planning to get used to it and maybe see a shrink to get some meds.

[–] fossphi@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago

I hope it gets better soon! :)

But yeah, can't hurt to talk to professional

[–] Dillenger69@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Buspirone is a miracle drug. I used to think anxiety was just life. Now, with medication, I can stay around 1.5 or 2. For years I was way higher until my doctor said "No, that's not normal."

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

love buspar. such an interesting drug. doesn't mess with anything, non abusive, non euphoric, non benzo anxiolytic.

oh yeah and you can fuck on it.

[–] wischi@programming.dev 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I get anxiety just by looking at the awful job someone did filling the title background.

[–] caseyweederman@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 week ago

It's a style. I don't personally like it, but it helps to know that it was deliberate.

[–] Lemonzinger@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

Thank you for this. Weekdays are average of 3 with peaks of 2 and valleys of 4. Weekends and average of 2 with same +-.

[–] CodeHead@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Anyone notice their is no 'zero' in that scale.

There's no zero... :(

[–] surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Zero anxiety and you'd never leave the couch

[–] Matriks404@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

1.25.

Had some mild panic attacks for some reason recently though. It was maybe a lack of sleep.

[–] andybytes@programming.dev 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] dubyakay@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

How do you go through life like that?

[–] Thanatos761@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 1 week ago

Not the original commentator, but: barely

[–] madeinthebackseat@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

2 or 3

May your next day be better than the last.

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago

High enough on the scale that thinking about where I am on the scale is mildly anxiety inducing lol.

Some day, I gotta just box that stuff up and shove it in a brain closet with locks on.

Which, I'm not complaining about the post, please don't take my abnormal form of joking about the matter as anything like that.

I'm using it as a sideways approach to saying it's been a bad anxiety day, trying to use a little humor to take the edge off while also venting a tiny bit.

Hell, it's been a bad week, a bad month, and a bad year. World be crazy, and it grinds. Hard not to have anxiety spirals when there's real world evidence that shit is pretty bad.

[–] aeternum@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

until recently, I was a 7 or 8, but now I think I'm about 2

[–] Oka@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I have been at 4 before. My problem was I didn't even realize it was anxiety.

[–] celeste@kbin.earth 2 points 1 week ago
[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Most days it's a 3 or 4. Today is a 1.

[–] laranis@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 week ago

Celebrate the little victories. May you have more.

[–] Snowclone@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

I've been at 5 since I was 12.

[–] chiliedogg@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

In ER because I thought I was having a heart attack, and it looks like it was a panic attack instead.

Benzos are nice BTW. I can see why the docs can't and shouldn't prescribe them for regular use.

[–] b34n5@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I've been between 3 and 4. This week I felt a greater intensity of discomfort. It's hard for me to get out of bed. Despite that, I've been going to walk every day, at least 1 hour... and I've read a lot: in the last 30 days I've read about 6 books. Still, my activity beyond that is zero, so I feel certainly bad about it. The "work society" drags you down, whether you're part of it or not.

[–] 257m@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago

It is just me or is anyone else bothered that the color scale is backwards?

[–] SidewaysHighways@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

notice how it's never fully gone. yep

[–] HurlingDurling@lemm.ee 0 points 1 week ago

3-4 yesterday the whole day... seemingly for no fucking reason and knowing that made it worse.