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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I have a friend who has quit porn entirely because he has felt addicted to it in the past and the only way he feels he can quit is to quit cold-turkey. I think it's possible to have an unhealthy relationship to porn and to develop a more healthy relationship to it without quitting entirely; he feels like that's not possible for him. Do you feel like it's possible for you to have a healthy relationship to porn at all?

I also wonder if pornography use is something you talk to your friends about at all. It's something that for many years was almost impossible for me to talk about because I felt so much shame around it. Do you relate to that?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Generally, porn is like booze. Too much can lead to negative consequences, but a little probably won't hurt.

But there are confounding factors:

  1. Porn isn't real. It's cartoons for adults. Building your sexual expectations around it is unrealistic.

  2. Depending on what you watch, it can be pretty degrading. See 1.

  3. It gives the impression that sex is the same as intimacy and love. If you don't have healthy role models for romantic relationships, this can be a problem. I speak from experience.

  4. OnlyFans &c are built on extracting money from lonely dudes. If someone is already in a bad spot, it can exacerbate their problems.

  5. Some of the people in porn are treated badly, and end up worse of as a result.

In terms of positives: My sex ed classes didn't admit the existence of the clit or cunnilingus. So porn has had at least a minor positive impact on my sex life (and that of my partners).