Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
Rules
Everybody is welcome, but this is primarily a space for men and masc people
Non-masculine perspectives are incredibly important in making sure that the lived experiences of others are present in discussions on masculinity, but please remember that this is a space to discuss issues pertaining to men and masc individuals. Be kind, open-minded, and take care that you aren't talking over men expressing their own lived experiences.
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
!feminism@beehaw.org
!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
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Generally, porn is like booze. Too much can lead to negative consequences, but a little probably won't hurt.
But there are confounding factors:
Porn isn't real. It's cartoons for adults. Building your sexual expectations around it is unrealistic.
Depending on what you watch, it can be pretty degrading. See 1.
It gives the impression that sex is the same as intimacy and love. If you don't have healthy role models for romantic relationships, this can be a problem. I speak from experience.
OnlyFans &c are built on extracting money from lonely dudes. If someone is already in a bad spot, it can exacerbate their problems.
Some of the people in porn are treated badly, and end up worse of as a result.
In terms of positives: My sex ed classes didn't admit the existence of the clit or cunnilingus. So porn has had at least a minor positive impact on my sex life (and that of my partners).