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It definitely does not need to be one or the other. Oftentimes therapy could help in the relationship department considerably. Deep hurt is hard to get through alone, yet I hope more and more people understand there is help out there.
If relationships are a two way street, and one person is hurting enough to affect their role within it all there should be no shame in reaching out in that way. It could help a lot. It's a shame there's still so much stigma around therapy.

Sorry, not sorry. If he begins this with "Men do not need a therapist." (And many men do) And then declare that the women men need be soft and caring while verbally presenting the man as a hero who fights his daily battles... that's just toxic bullshit as fuck.

I'm okay with somebody accepting and wanting traditional gender roles, everyone's got their own taste in potential partners and need to find the person right for them.

But declaring what "men" need and then demanding not only traditional but toxically overblown gender roles for everyone is just... BAH! And the disapproval for therapy, or telling "men" that they don't need therapy, only a mommy, when many of us do indeed need therapy... that's just indicative of the most bullshit incel-alpha-baby-needs-a-mommy mindset.

If you're a guy and in touch with your feelings (like me, for example), yes, lean on your partner if you need to and they are okay with it. If you are an emotional person, be emotional. But don't demand or expect to just be able to vomit your shit on your partner and they being okay with it and then cleaning the corner of your mouth with a tissue... Your partner is not free therapy, do not treat them like somebody providing a service.

The guy in the screenshot is not in touch with his feelings.

See, youre actually missing one key component here. They dont think of women as people. Just baby machines made to please men.

Every woman I've ever dated has expected me to do what they call "being there for them" in what I can only assume to be situations similar to whatever he's hyperbolically referring to as "battles," and I was happy to, and they did the same for me which I appreciated. But maybe since it's just taken for granted that men do that for women (people itt seem not to realize being supportive is a bare minimum expectation for any partner), and according to the post it is mommy issues when a man wants it in return, it sounds to me like women are the weaker one.

Did I do the gender war right? Do we really have to "men bad women bad" wanting supportive partners ffs? This is why I don't talk to people anymore, cats are better.

Life’s hard when your husband has a smooth chest 😔

Ooo that's kind of a good point too.

It was definitely dunking for internet points.

What a pleasant surprise among the defensive takes. Thank you for sharing it.

The most problematic situation seems to be when not having access to all of them and trying to push your partner into fulfilling all of these roles. To be your partner, parent and a friend(sometimes a therapist even). Sure it's nice of them if they can, but it shouldn't be their daily responsibility.

How about if you're their bangmaid and therapist right back? Sounds like a good deal to me

Indeed, from "nurture energy" to "mother figure" is a leap that warrants analysis. "Muse" would be a much closer semantic association.

I'm not positive you mean this, but you're implying men shouldn't pay for their intimacy? You think it should be free? Everyone pays, but in healthy relationship the "payment" is emotional intimacy, acts of service, words of affection etc. No one is walking up to a stranger and banging them without giving anything. Heck even in sex alone there's "transactions." During foreplay, I get you a little turned on, you get me a little turned on, I escalate, you escalate.

but i’m fighting in the name of kindness, i’m so confused right now

I completely agree with you. I dunno who this alexnroberto guy is but based on a 2 second search, he comes off as one of those manosphere dudes so I guess we can assume that his comment isn't based on mutual support, but only the woman supporting the man. I disagree with that world view, but if the message stood alone, I don't see the issue in partners leaning on one another instead of going to therapy for every little thing that's wrong in their lives.

Be like going to the dentist to have him brush and floss your teeth for you.

There is also this one uncomfortable truth that the therapy crowd doesn't really want to acknowledge and that is that therapy is a luxury for the rich. Telling someone to go to therapy is actually pretty rude because not everyone can afford to throw thousands at therapy no matter how much or how little they need it.

I speak from experience. Therapy, if you are poor, can do more harm than good.

I am struggling to deal with j suicidal thoughts about how awful i must be because I am a man. Like I sometimes think there needs to be a brutal cleansing.