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Menopause doesn't hit before the 40s or so. Plenty of women have children in their 30s. At that point, they have had time to mature, get an education, and build stable circumstances to raise children. Yes, the consequences of the industrial revolution and so on, but those consequences also basically eradicated the child mortality we had before, for instance.
If someone knows they want a family early, good for them, but I don't blame anyone wanting to experience life before passing it on.
No doubt. I'm glad I had my 20s to roam around before getting kids, but I'm even more happy to still be young enough that I can travel the world and participate in physical activities with my kids as well. Having kids doesn't have to mean giving up on experiencing life. They're part of it, and they're the best people to share it with. In hindsight, I probably could have cut my party years short by five years without missing a thing. Having kids was the best thing in my life. It might not be for everybody.
I'm in the late 40s now, and I feel it's too late to have more by now. I know people who do in that age. Divorced couples going for the late common child or DINKs who finally made enough money. It looks really tough for them. It's temporarily hard work for a couple of years. It's hard if you're young and don't have money, but it's also hard when you're old and less agile and physical on top.