Lesbians

I remember when I was moderating a Reddit subcommunity about NSFW all-women clips, and somebody left a rude comment on a butch lady’s submission because of her appearance. She tried to be diplomatic by telling him(?) that “it’s not for everyone”, and I joined in with “Have you ever heard of the expression ‘If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all’?”, but this guy wasn’t having it.

While I think that the rude commenter was a guy, I’ve seen this sentiment from other types as well. When I lurked the nauseatingly toxic L Chat forum, there were anonymous users dissing butch women by calling them cliché or unattractive, saying “I want my women to look like women”, and so on.

Let me be clear: if the femme aesthetic is your personal favorite, then cool. I tend to prefer femme looks myself. But being elitist about your preferences and dissing butch women — as if they all had an obligation to look “perfect” for you — is as utterly unnecessary as it is unpleasant. This may be surprising to read, but not every single woman needs to turn you on! You can appreciate them for reasons other than their appearance! And you can keep your unsolicited feedback on their appearance to yourself! It’s so easy that even I can do it!

I know that I should have let these memories go, but maybe expressing how I feel about them would help with that. That concludes my rant.