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I don't think that would be my reaction as a straight man, but I could see why some people could be upset by others thinking that they were gay. It means you are not projecting the kind of appearance and energy you are trying to. It's like telling a trans man "oh when we first met I thought you were a woman." Maybe they can laugh that off but it probably stings still. It doesn't mean they think being a woman is inferior to being a man.
There's no difference between a gay man and a straight man, outside of specifically who they're trying to fuck. Suggesting someone might be one or the other isn't harmful, since there's no real way to tell without asking.
Telling a man they didn't pass is rude af.
I don't see how those can be equivocated. Sexual preference and gender identity are different things defined, characterized, and experienced in wildly different ways.
You literally mention the difference but then want to ignore the implications of that difference.
Gay men and Straight men generally have differences on average in what they do to attract perceived partners past the baselines of having a pulse and being a functional human being.
Yes, but that's all social and varies person to person, region to region, etc. Even if there are typical differences, that's not a rule. Which is the point.
So in one sentence you say there is no way to tell, in the next you say there are differences, then back to "it's hard to define, therefore there are no differences at all".
There's no way to definitively tell but you can still make assumptions based on appearences? Fuck off ffs
Exactly. You are contradicting yourself.
Something not being a rule doesnt make it locally insignificant. People in these various regions and cultures all have general ideas of how they would like to outwardly present themselves.