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I'd personally keep it generic. I guess something like "Sorry, I just get nervous when interacting with other people sometimes. You haven't done anything wrong.". Hopefully reassures her, but doesn't make it awkward by bringing up any sexual feelings.
As a woman, I cannot stress enough how this is really the only sensible answer based on your post. As of writing this all the other comments are just objectively worse. Do not make either of you more uncomfortable than necessary and just do what this comment suggests. In general, unless you're both interested in perusing things, no woman wants to hear about your sexual feelings towards them, even if just to say you're not planning on acting on them.
Thank you for your valuable perspective. I was just thinking that I’d take it as a compliment, but then, I’m a guy.
This sounds ideal. Anything more specific suggesting unwanted attraction is just going to amplify the awkwardness.
This seems pretty great, and probably more than enough. I'd still like to bring extra options to the table, so:
You could also thank them for asking, to get some weirdness out of the way (you establish that you are happy that they are trying to figure out why there is any 'weirdness') You could also put some more emphasis on the fact that it's internal and not triggered by something they could control in any way.
It can be nice to be in someones presence that's so beautiful/attractive to you that it kind of makes you weird/glow/giddy/nervous :) . Not something we experience every day!