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I've thought of having kids occasionally, and have largely decided it is not a good idea. However, I decided that if I ever did have kids, I would need to meet a number of requirements first.

Beyond providing basic necessities like food and shelter, the most important thing a parent can do for their child's happiness and well being is be happy. The parent needs to show their child, through their everyday actions, how to deal with adversity with grace and how to enjoy normal days with happiness and gratitude. While these things may be achieved via sufficient mental training - like hours of meditating per day - likely the more efficient path is to ensure their own higher-level needs are met.

The parent should feel secure in their ability to provide for themselves and their family, even in times of economic turmoil. They should feel their work is not just tolerable, but generally enjoyable and meaningful. They should have a large support network of friends and family with whom they can interact regularly. They should be be generally physically strong and healthy, and able to maintain that level of health easily - barring outside sickness or physical trauma. They should have the time and resources to engage in enjoyable and meaningful hobbies. They should have the time and resources to participate in their larger social communities' gatherings such as festivals, time spent in the bar meeting strangers, or town hall meetings.

And then the child needs to be cared for. The child needs to be fed healthy food; be given stimulating activities to engage in; be provided with ample opportunities to interact with peers; and be given support and guidance not only with object-level tasks like homework, but with emotional issues around navigating social interactions, learning to appreciate necessary rote tasks, maintaining a regular routine, and finding what is personally meaningful to them. And the child also must be given ample unsupervised time where they can be alone or interact with peers (while not staring at a screen), so they can learn to be independent and self-motivated.

So basically my requirement is to form a commune of like-minded people that is walking distance from a small city's walkable downtown, which has a transit line to a large city's downtown, where everyone involved has a common understanding of the responsibilities of shared childcare, and also everyone is financially secure enough such that they don't need to work full time. Further benefits of community organization would include reduced food costs via economies of scale, reduced labor burden of chores like cooking and cleaning, and social support for shared activities like exercise, sleep, and focusing on mental health.

But I have to say, this seems quite unlikely, so I almost certainly just won't have kids.