Do you mind telling me what age she was? My wife is suffering severely with mental health but will not see a psychiatrist. I suspect perimenopause. She does see a therapist.

[–] dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

It started in the late 40's, which is on the early side.

My wife is suffering severely with mental health but will not see a psychiatrist. I suspect perimenopause. She does see a therapist.

I'm very sorry to hear that; I can appreciate that the struggle for you both has to be very, very real. It's a raw deal and it's hard to manage. I wish you both the very best on this.

What I can share is that finding a good Gyno was instrumental in all this. We went through several practices before we found one that was sympathetic to what was going on. to my complete shock and horror, some seemed far more interested in treating reproduction and reproductive health issues than aging and quality-of-life^1^. Your town might be different than mine, but I suggest that you both be prepared to move around a bit if you can't get support right away. You might find that doctors that are LGBTQ+ friendly as more willing and better equipped to handle this kind of thing.

I really need someone with an educated background in women's issues to make exact sense of this beyond "this isn't right/fair". I'm way out of my element.