Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
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You can consume porn and not be addicted. But if you managed to get addicted to porn, it will be incredible hard to return to a non addictive behavior when it comes to porn consumption. Kind of the whole point of being addicted is that you can't regulate your behavior on your own anymore.
I wouldn't necessarily agree. Addictive behaviors aren't usually related to a need for the thing in question, but a replacement for something else.
I definitely did have a porn addiction at one point, maybe still do, but I think it stemmed from a lack of self-respect. I've had very few girlfriends and not many more dates in my life so I did feel like I was unattractive and destined to be alone. Porn was kind of a way to get the thing I thought I'd never really have: a sexual relationship. I still had issues even after marriage, even though we were sexually active, because it was just habit at that point. Over time I've come to see my wife as the main "cure" for my sexual desires and I usually prefer to think about her or look at naughty pictures of her when I masturbate (she can't be DTF 24/7, especially while she's working). I still look at porn from time to time but it feels very artificial when I do and my thoughts usually drift back to her. I did get some advice, not really therapy, over the years and its been very superficial so overall I'd say I kind of dealt with it myself.
I'd still say therapy is a good avenue when you have an addiction, because it usually does destroy relationships and I think deep down we all do crave them, whether romantic or platonic.