this post was submitted on 13 May 2026
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Are you in the Bay Area where there are both more men and high paychecks? Because I’ve been all over the US and that’s the only place where I could somewhat believe this is the norm.
Meet up for coffee or a drink. If there’s interest, you can maybe extend it but this way it’s lower pressure and cheaper if there’s no interest. Nothing worse than getting yourself into something longer when you can tell in the first few minutes you aren’t interested.
Yeah, I am in Boston, it's as expensive as the bay area.
Coffee is only available during the day. Drinks are expensive.
If you hit it off, you have to keep seeing them and going on more dates... dinner dates cost $200. that's just how life is.
You can't have a romantic relationship based on getting coffee at noon on saturdays.