Men's Liberation

Hi, I'm a canadian woman. This community, well, caught my eye, when I was browsing the list of communities on lemmy.ca. Anyway, given how toxic lemmy is as a whole, I'm really impressed that this is a very nice space you've made here. You guys need to spread the detox around more.

Lemme know how I can be an ally I guess

cross-posted from: https://sh.itjust.works/post/36418433

With surveys reporting that an increasing number of young men are subscribing to these beliefs, the number of women finding that their partners share the misogynistic views espoused by the likes of Andrew Tate is also on the rise. Research from anti-fascism organisation Hope Not Hate, which polled about 2,000 people across the UK aged 16 to 24, discovered that 41% of young men support Tate versus just 12% of young women.

“Numbers are growing, with wives worried about their husbands and partners becoming radicalised,” says Nigel Bromage, a reformed neo-Nazi who is now the director of Exit Hate Trust, a charity that helps people who want to leave the far right.

“Wives or partners become really worried about the impact on their family, especially those with young children, as they fear they will be influenced by extremism and racism.”

It drives me nuts the kind of things guys think they can share with me. "Women should be seen, not heard" and so on.

cross-posted from: https://programming.dev/post/28911465

Jack had heard a lot about the invite-only social media group Blokes Advice when he decided to apply to become a member. The group pitches itself as a place men can go for support when life gets hard and is affiliated with Better Bloke Project, a men's mental health charity.

But Blokes Advice has also been accused of harbouring a culture of toxic masculinity. It didn't take long for Jack to experience the group's dark side firsthand.

When Jack was accepted into the group, he found all members were required to post a photo of a woman they rated a "10" for attractiveness before asking a question on the chat. He noticed the thread sometimes contained comments that were misogynistic and degrading towards women.

I heard the term "sapphic-coded male" the other day and it hit home in terms of accuracy, and highlighted for me how such a possibility really isn't acknowledged by a part of the left.

There seems to be an association that to be a man you can't value things that women do, or have feminine traits or behaviors, and still be a straight man.

The right is very open about this in a hateful malicious way, the left less so, it's incredibly present in the language used and for more practical examples look at some well known trans women like Contrapoints, Abigail Thorne, and November Kelly. Their ability to present as sexual beings and say suggestive and explicit things is way different as women than it ever was as men.

If a guy openly talk about his love of bondage and kink and just being horny they're either coded as on the right or a creep if they're talking about women (being a thirsty gay guy is ok because they're not straight) but if you're a woman who likes women then culturally it's fine.

To be clear I don't think there's anything wrong with the above individuals and I'm a big fan of all three, which is how this observation came about.

Similarly going on Tumblr or bluesky and seeing posts by women about how they don't get why heterosexual guys don't like cutesy things or behaviors or relationships like bi/gay women do and I want to scream because those guys completely exist and want those things, the division of men into the groups of "stereotypical masc hetero guy" and "gay or non-binary" isn't real and a the left helps perpetuate it by coding heterosexuality as bad or conservative. Also yes I'm saying the left but more accurately mean whatever we're calling the 2025 descendant of Tumblr feminism

I haven't seen this show, but I read two articles in The Conversation about it –‘Adolescence’ on Neflix: A painful wake-up call about unregulated internet use for teens

I don't know where to post my frustration.

But yes, I'm a man and I've my plans and dreams and they absolutely do NOT look like the top picture. It was fun initially like "haha some men happily live like this" but the joke got old. I'm absolutely sure most men want something more from their life than the top picture and the stereotyping helps no one

Cool discussion of fragile masculinity

Mirror: https://archive.is/2025.03.01-182028/https://www.thetimes.com/uk/society/article/the-lost-boys-how-a-generation-of-young-men-fell-behind-women-on-pay-8rc3mmvt0

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/24620226