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He's my best friend. My brother from another mother. I think he's in love with me. We've been through everything together: moving, debt, breakups, parties that ended in the hospital...

Having sex with him was weird at first, but over time I even got a taste for it. It's not that I'm attracted to men, but with him there's something different. Trust, chemistry, excitement... I don't know. It's not the same as with a woman, but it's not bad either. It's like a genre of its own.

The problem started when I met a girl.

We've been dating for two months; it's not official, but the connection is incredible. Sex with her is different—more intense, more mine—and I feel less and less like recording with my friend. He notices. And it hurts him. He says things like, "Are you going to sleep with her again? You forgot about our business so quickly."

Or worse:

"I don't understand how you can be with me and her at the same time. If you like her so much, why do you keep hooking up with me?"

And that's the problem. She's not my girlfriend, so technically it's not cheating, but he sees it as a betrayal. To him, if I'm with someone I care about, I shouldn't keep having sex with them. But it's not that black and white.

Yesterday we argued a lot. I told him I couldn't demand exclusivity if we're not even a couple, and he said,

"For you, it's just sex, for me it's not."

That's when I understood.

For me, it was always sex between friends (and a business). For him, it clearly wasn't. And now everything is going to hell:

Our income is declining because we don't record as much anymore.

Coexistence is tense; we used to laugh all the time, now she avoids looking at me.

She doesn't know any of this (I won't tell her).

But what I love most, It hurts because I'm losing my best friend.

I don't want him to think I'm replacing him. I don't want our business to ruin years of brotherhood. But I also don't want to stop exploring my feelings with this girl. Last night he got drunk and said, "If you choose a girl you recently met over me, then you were never my brother." How the hell do I respond to that????

Any advice? I'm between a rock and a hard place.

I've already accepted that I can have sex no matter who it is with. I think that to have sex I need to have a good bond with that girl or boy in this case before having sex.

It took me a while to realize, they sent me links to articles about different types of labels and I realized that I identify with demisexuality.

I am straight, gay for pay and demisexual.

I told my friend about this and he thought that when I said "I'm demisexual, I discovered I prefer having sex with people I'm in a relationship with" I meant in a romantic way. He said "Are you saying we're boyfriend and girlfriend?" very excitedly. I told him that I didn't mean that, I meant a relationship in general, getting to know the person. And I could tell he felt a little bad.

I feel like he has other feelings for me, he's 2 years younger than me, I was a little afraid of doing things with him for fear that he'd fall in love and I think he fell in love with me.

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I already told you how it all started in my previous posts, but now it's different because I started having sex with him, before he only gave me blowjobs and now I started fucking his ass. I have to admit that it's a very nice thing to do, I've never fucked a butt before, I've always fucked pussies.

and I'm a little confused, because it started for money [not counting the jerk off we did in college watching porn] and I feel absolutely nothing for him other than friendship and brotherhood, he doesn't attract me at all but I enjoy fucking him, although it's not as satisfying as doing it with a woman.

and I realized that what I enjoy is having a man on a par dominated and in my power. that makes me horny and I don't know why.

Hope this is allowed here. I couldn't find an lolgrindr type community.

I wanted to share a personal experience I've had with my roommate and close friend, to see if anyone else has been through something similar or has advice on how to handle this situation.

It all started in 2023, when I entered college. My friend (let's call him "Alex") and I became roommates from freshman year. Alex is bisexual, although I didn't know that at the time. We got along really well from the start, and living together was pretty normal. Back then, I had a girlfriend, and Alex always gave us space when we needed privacy in the room.

My girlfriend and I broke up. After that, the dynamic between Alex and I changed. We spent a lot of time together in the room, and over time we became more comfortable with our intimacy. There were a couple of times when we caught each other masturbating, but instead of it being awkward, we talked about it and normalized it. By the end of 2023, we were already so comfortable that we could stand in our underwear in front of each other and even change clothes without any problems.

In 2024, things took a more intense turn. One night, after a tiring day of studying, we decided to smoke weed. It was my first time doing it, although Alex was already experienced. We were watching an episode of Game of Thrones when suddenly, we ended up watching porn together. We started masturbating at the same time, and at one point, Alex touched me and I touched him. He ended up masturbating me until I came. The next day, we talked about it and we both agreed that it wasn't awkward, although it was a little weird.

After that, we started watching porn together more often, but without touching each other. However, our senior year of college, we decided to become roommates again. During that year, the dynamic intensified. We started masturbating each other from time to time, and while it was sporadic at first, it eventually became more frequent.

After graduating, we decided to continue living together to save on rent. That year, Alex confessed to me that he was bisexual, although he clarified that he was not attracted to me. At the time, I felt a little rejected, I don't know why, but we talked about it and got over it.

We decided to do adult content together again, but this time more explicit. We recorded videos of each other masturbating, and on one occasion, Alex gave me a blowjob. While I enjoyed the experience, I still don't consider myself gay or bisexual. I don't feel romantic or sexual attraction towards men in general, or Alex in particular. He's also made it clear that he's not attracted to me, and we've both set clear boundaries in our relationship.

Now, in 2025, we still live together and occasionally make content together, but always respecting our boundaries. However, Alex recently made me a proposition that has me thinking. He told me that we could do anal penetration content, and that he'd be willing to have me fuck him. For me, that's already a boundary I'm not sure I want to cross. While I enjoy the dynamic we have, I feel like this could change things between us.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How do you guys handle the line between friendship and physical intimacy? Do you think crossing this boundary could affect our friendship in the long run? I appreciate any advice or insight. Thanks for reading.

So for the longest time I used a douche with a thin, hard plastic nozzle. But recently some friends mentioned they used the pictured douche which has a much thicker but softer nozzle. It also sprays to the sides to prevent the water shooting up too high.

I have a couple of questions - how deep should I be inserting the nozzle? With my old one because it shot water straight up, the depth wasn't an issue. But with this one I'm having a bit of a problem with water trickling out my butt. It's possible I'm not pushing it quite deep enough.

And the nozzle has a slight curve. What direction should that curve be facing? Towards my stomach?

Thanks for your help!

mine was when i was 13. i always thought one of my friends in middle school was good looking…too good looking. a month later we had a sleepover and he took his shirt and shorts off to change… and that confirmed it. side note, did anyone else find the guys on underwear really hot? when i get new underwear, i kinda can’t help but stare at it for a bit until i remember that i’m in public and people could notice that i’m staring. also, i’ve recently fully accepted myself as gay and that’s really helped me mentally. for a few years i would beat myself up about it out of shame. anyways, i was just curious about when and how you found out you were gay?