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I get teary eyed, but I rarely cry. "The penguin of my life" was my last big challenge, so mean. Great movie though.

And yes, at some point you really want Red to have his little piece of heaven.

I think I am more open for this since I'm older (40s), when I was young I would've never let myself be that open.

Ich bin freiwillig in der GKV, weil ich gesehen habe, wie Leute sich verrenken, um vor dem Ruhestand noch schnell wieder in die GK zu wechseln. Das kann aus meiner Sicht nicht sein und ist das, was unser System überfordert. Eine Versicherung für alle, vielleicht mit optionalem Zusatz (Chefarzt, Einzelzimmer, Zahnzusatz, Brillen, ... ) wäre insgesamt funktionaler und günstiger, ohne dabei diese irre 2-Klassen-Medizin zu erzeugen, wie sie aktuell besteht (Hautarzttermine, super Sache in der GKV).

Eine Angleichung der Beitragsbemessungsgrenze ist ein Schritt, wenn auch nur ein kleiner.

I think I'd like myself as another person, but am still properly critical of myself as me.

Absolutely is. Had a colleague who also looks like a sad puppy when just looking normal/serious.

Hmm vielleicht bin das nur ich, aber da ich immer auch mindestens einen Freund hatte, der gern mal Röcke trug, war das für mich nie ein Thema. Wenn du dir das Teil über den Arm hängst, muss es schon ziemlich girly Farben haben, damit es als Frauending auffällt.

Aber jetzt mal ganz doof: Scheiß drauf, du stehst da mit den Klamotten, die dir gefallen! Meine Mutter musste noch um ihre Jeans kämpfen und ich erinnere mich an Jobs, die ohne Heels als Frau nicht gingen. Du bist mit deinem Rock Teil der allerbesten Tradition!

Da gibt's ja aber einen Grund für.

Anekdote/Eigenerfahrung: Wenn ich den Eindruck hatte, vom Arbeitgeber ungerecht behandelt zu werden, dann war ich weniger engagiert, weniger zuverlässig und öfter krank. Das natürlich auch zu mir bequemen Zeiten, allerdings bin ich eher Montags als Freitags krank.

Natürlich ist "Wie du mir, so ich dir" immer kacke. Trotzdem ist es eine naheliegende Reaktion, wenn man sich nicht so einfach wegbewerben kann. Die Mitarbeiter besser zu behandeln ist da vielleicht tatsächlich ein Weg zu niedrigeren Krankenständen.

Hey, sorry it took me so long to respond.

I mostly meant the whole rejection/people being mean about it thing.

I get where you're at, I'm 40ish and had the same problems a few years ago. Please don't try where they work, that's not cool, but other than that ... why not, as long as a no is cool.

I used bumble at the time but ultimately the person I'm with now was someone I already knew. I don't believe in apps, but it's a way to get a feel for someone else, filtering out anyone who doesn't want to meet someone at all.

I think meeting through hobbies (I think library or bookstore are kinda okay, particularly if you have a recommendation for the book they're looking at) is the way to get to know someone, but whatever you try, I wish you good luck!

Since attractive just refers to outer features, if you're interested only physically, that's fine. If you want a relationship, pick something that describes your person of choice better or encompasses more features.

"I think you're amazing, would you like to grab a coffee/dinner with me sometime?" would probably work.

If you choose to be this direct, make it clear you don't need an immediate response. The other party didn't have any time to prepare for this, so they may actually need to think about you in this way first of all. This may be the hardest part, because you will not know if you'll get a reply (depends on maturity and courage). You could ask them again once, but then I'd drop it and just assume it's a no, otherwise you may come across as pushy.

The reason most people don't do this is, that they're scared to be turned down or ridiculed (teenagers are assholes). I think from 30 onwards it gets a lot clearer and easier.

Good luck!

Cute used to describe a person? May work out in some cases, but in most it really will not for various reasons. She may feel you're infantilizing her, you don't find her appealing as a woman or appealing for the wrong reasons, you belittle her ...

As many wrote, used to describe her choices it's perfectly fine though.

If you're looking for a way to express how this person makes you feel - for example a continuous stream of "awwwww" may be expressed by calling someone cute - rather describe your feeling: "I could fawn over you all day." Ideally you also explain why, so it's clear where this is coming from: "The way you dress is a perfect compliment to your outgoing personality. I really enjoy just watching you exist."

Depending on who you want to be to this person and how far along on that road you are, my examples may work or be entirely out of question.