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I'd guess they're stating that the semi-developed countries with high density populations and high rates pollution may not consider cycling infrastructure on their list of city planning priorities

Definitely go see a doctor anyway. Whatever the issue is, it is affecting important aspects of your life (completing your degree to securing a career in an area that might interest you long enough to find meaningful work that may or may not be related to your degree). I've found work is usually not as constantly intense as university was for me. If you can find some methods that get you through the rest of university, life will get much easier after.

Joining a club related to my degree helped me meet people in my classes which had so many flow on effects. It helped me stay interested in the degree, helped me notice when other people start their assignments, gave me a heads up how difficult and how long it would take, helped me be social which helped me relax and recharge, helped me ask questions I might have spent sleepless hours on trying to figure out by myself, and the club deadlines made artificial deadlines for assignments.

It might be a big ask, but if you don't know of any clubs reach out to your professors and ask if they know of any projects that help contextualize the material you're learning into the real world. That way it won't just be about abstract concepts. Real applications might make it more relatable, and if you're interested it miiiight help you start and finish those assignments.

Uni is an overwhelming time for many people so don't feel like you're the only one falling behind. See if your uni has a student wellness center. They'll have some resources for you to draw help from.

Another aspect you've brought up that might be affecting how you relate to the world is your upbringing. I wonder if it might be worthwhile ruling out cPTSD (complex PTSD) which can present similarly to ADHD. Some of my problems are due to ADHD but are exacerbated by my cPTSD due to growing up with emotionally neglectful parents. The terminology makes it sound like a big deal but it's just words for concepts that have established methods to help with your specific struggles. There are billions of people on this planet raised in all sorts of environments. Hopefully you can take comfort in the fact that your situation is not that unique and there's likely to be a well trodden path out of this hole. The fundamentals are to be kind to yourself and look after your basic physical and emotional needs. However saying so isn't as easy as recognizing and doing. Building small habits for taking care of your basic human needs like EXERCISE, NUTRITION, SLEEP, and things that RELAX you, will help balance your schedule and feel ready to tackle uni assignments. I truly believe everyone could benefit from some type of therapy. Remember, just because there's a name for things you're experiencing doesn't mean you're fucked up. It just gives you a better roadmap for how to navigate out of it.

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Neat, same thing happens to me but didn't know there was a treatment available! What medication is it?

Thank you for educating a non-American

I can't help but wonder if this is an assignment to "clear the wait list" for if/when Mangione gets convicted? I don't quite understand the system but it seems many people on death row spend so many years waiting for the bureaucratic processes to complete before their lives are taken.

Who reported on this? The J is uppercase as well...

And "I Want to Break Free", my all time favorite. Close second, "Don't Stop Me Now". Oh and "Another One Bites the Dust" for the vibes.

What specs should I be looking for to vet the quality?

Crackpot idea - if you're both already paying for therapy individually and had limited success with couples therapy (assuming the couples therapist was not one of your therapists), maybe your therapists be open to having a session with the four of you?

You already have rapport with them and they know your individual histories so could save a lot of time setting the stage that way. Would be interesting seeing what the therapists would say to each other. Or if meeting isn't possible, maybe could ask your therapists if they'd contact each other to help gain insight?

Sorry you're going through this. She sounds like she's being callous.

If you do decide there's a shred of hope and desire to saving this relationship and all you can change is yourself, then I can offer what has helped my partner and I. Building a habit of affection without the expectation of sex. As in, not lingering too long waiting for the other to "signal the go ahead" for sex. Just a quick but meaningful hug or kiss when nearby, then going back to minding our own business. Also keeping on top of the chores and decisions. Partial contributor to our dead bedroom was because there is nothing more unsexy than thinking of all the things that still need doing. If there's been a dynamic that she feels like she's had to run the household (making sure chores are done, meal planning, groceries are bought and put away, social things organized, birthdays are remembered, etc) then she might feel like your mother. And obviously women are biologically wired not to be attracted to their children.

Because women entered the workforce and can be both providers and caregivers, but in general men don't want to embrace an identity as caregiver so point the blame at women and/or the world.