Thanks for your thoughtful response. Transgirls really are the best. I like your kink-informed perspective, as that is how my sexuality works as well. It's hard to find people who get it, so I tend to stick with whoever's down regardless of their top or bottom roles, and I'm either forced to act like a man or constantly subjugated. (One would think a tf would have the decency to not call the other "daddy" but they were hot so I didn't let it get to me.) It takes considerable effort for me to top bc my blood pressure is low, lingering heteronormative framings of my gender role, and a little trauma. Using my dick is the hard part (no pun intended). But yeah, under ideal circumstances I would love to have long switchy sex operas with a fellow tf. <3
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I was having a rush and he was jealous of my busy schedule despite that it turned into a red flag for the roomie / his partner.
Sorry, I'm having trouble parsing that phrase. You had a busy schedule and that's a red flag in relationships, or the roommate's boyfriend's reaction to your busy schedule...?
Ideally, yes, no one partner takes priority over another. Good luck finding even one as an early-stage late-transitioning transfem where I live. I'm ready to cut my heart out and set it on a plate for someone, but if I need more than one partner then chronology alone may create a hierarchy that's out of my control, as happened very recently and was toxic because of the first guy I dated. One bad apple will fuck you up. Good on anyone for having any kind of relationship and surviving in this crazy world.
I do read into things a lot. Like how you ended your post with "someone/s" rather than "someone(s)" considering /s is internet code for sarcasm. Sorry, I've just dealt with a lot of hostility in the past so I'm on high alert for it.
"Oh you got a boner? Lol nice one dude, I do too! Oh man I'm so jealous of that length. No homo lol! Let's go warm up in the hot spring. No peeking lol"
Holy shit that is some capital T phobia. I didn't know the Nazis invaded Reddit, but it sadly seems inevitable as popular platforms age. As a pansexual non-binary transfem who doesn't wear dresses, I at least don't feel hated here. Though there are still cliques, as in many settings.
I think you're trying to help. I'll just say that cis people make relationships with those of different genders asymmetrical. I don't. I throw out the heteropatriarchal mindset along with any notion that a relationship is some kind of trade or whatever you're implying by "in return." I'm nobody's girlfriend, I'm a doppelganger for my hypothetical partner and will take exactly what I give.
Yes, casual dates are good. I need lots more of those. And cuddles.
I hope my fatigued writing didn't give the impression that I have 15 simultaneous partners! That would solve a lot of problems.
I get that you value platonic friendships. I suck at friends, better at sex. I don't know what I'd cleverly compare my relationship maintenance to. Either shooting myself in the foot or setting myself on fire. It tears me up that I can't have what I know I like - femboys and guys 10 years younger than me - without the understanding that it's temporary bs - don't get too close or you'll get burned. I hate this self-knowledge that seems to only come with estrogen. I might be more approachable but I don't have the energy to chase cute boys. And girls, well, if I don't top I'm ousted from the relationship. Sorry for the rant. You aren't my therapist. (I wish my therapist were trans though.)
I'm curious what kind of men you like (what few you do) assuming you like relationships on the physical side.
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He said it like "Can I cum on your back?"
As someone who has long had an exceptionally high sex drive, hormones account for only half of it. Never wanted kids, not into cis women, venomously jealous of grindr kids.