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This got me through college. As someone who gets easily overwhelmed by large tasks, saying to myself that I will only work on it for 20 minutes (I do a 20/10 split) made things manageable and also it kept me from gluing myself to the chair unless I wanted to do it which made it seem more like a choice. I would frequently get through a few intervals and then keep skipping the breaks as I got nearer to the end of the task. I highly recommend this technique to people!

Therapy? I react badly to all ADHD medications so I am not medicated for it. What has helped me the most is working through things with a therapist who also helped me with implementing coping mechanisms. Things like pomodoro method (this got me through college!), organizers at “drop spots,” and learning how to self talk made a huge difference for me. It is not impossible to do well without meds…it is just harder.

The best solution I have seen to this was the guy I worked with, sick of people shaking the doors repeatedly while we were redoing signage after close exclaimed at some door shakers: “what the fuck you doing bro?!” Those of us in the store lost it and the customers walked away embarrassed. From your comment, I can tell you have not had a job that works with the general population directly like retail. You lose patience pretty quickly with others trying to complain to get their way, push boundaries, and sometimes just be assholes. You should try it sometime. It is quite enlightening.

Shut up and take my upvote 🤣

BLAT. Bacon, lettuce, avocado, and tomato. Best with a hearty or sweet bread type. My preferred is sweet rye. No condiments needed…just spread the avocado for the texture and added flavor. Husband prefers the bread toasted, but I like it pan fried in butter.

Ahhh the unfortunate speaker placement kills me. Why do designs always seem to put them right where your hands are?

Darning is a method of mending socks. It is a nerdy pun. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Darning

Teenage engineering partnered with Nothing. That isn’t the same thing.

Last time I shopped at a big lots, the product quality was that of a dollar store or worse. The hose I purchased is the worst hose I have ever owned and the other items I purchased recently broke. I haven’t been back since because the value that they used to provide just isn’t there anymore. Big Lots used to be the place to go for cheap but still decent quality. Now it is just trash.

I have played it on the Sony Vita, Nintendo Switch, new 3DS/2DS XL, and Retroid Pocket 4. The retroid I still have not figured out how to map the controls well and it is a bit glitchy (using the android app version of Minecraft). So based on my experience…if you care about the latest OS and Minecraft version…the switch. If you don’t care about the OS or Minecraft version, the Vita was a great experience.

A lot of what you say resonates with me. Perhaps something that has helped me greatly may be of use to you.

Know and accept what you can control. It is the only way to be happy, fulfilled, and passionate. When I was younger, I wanted to change the world. As I got older, I started to be depressed (for many reasons) but this one thing really changed me long term. An individual has no control over their peers, strangers, or even family. They may be able to sway some opinion but other people in the end have full control of their own path. The only person you can control is yourself.

This idea may seem disheartening at first, but it is the truth. Learning how to work with this limitation is a sign of great self-awareness.

An example for me: I cannot as an individual save the planet. Can I take some action to do so? Yes. Can I speak to others about my concerns? Yes. Does that matter? Yes. Knowing that is the extent of what I can do is imperative and it sounds like though you understand some of the concept of the limitations of your influence and control, you have not yet accepted it.

Limitations of influence and control are not a burden, but rather is a freedom! Imagine trying to bear the weight of the world! Knowing and accepting that one individual is limited in control is a relief as worrying about others you cannot influence is draining and only will drag you down.

I hope these thoughts are helpful. It took me years to start to actually put these thoughts into practice and I have been a lot happier since. Therapy can also help if you have a good person to speak with.

Was on the way home early and was coming up on an SUV that seemed hesitant at a major highway interchange between three highways at once….they stopped in their lane towards the middle of the road. Completely stopped. On a 65mph highway. I got over since they were in my lane and of course honked because wtf? Still blown away that someone would stop on a highway. They are lucky it was not rush hour quite yet.