Your entire rant should be required reading for kids entering high school in the age of social media.
TheDoozer
There is a huge difference between "you're pretty and that's the only thing I know about you, want to go on a date?" And "Hey, we share a few similar interests and you are pleasant to talk to, and attractive, would you like to go on a date?"
You should have a baseline beyond simply looking at them. A date is where you get to know them beyond that baseline. If it's a stranger, it isn't unreasonable to say you should have at least a few minutes of conversation before asking them out.
It's pretty simple. If they can't just walk away and choose not to talk to you, don't shoot your shot.
If they are going through security to get on a scheduled flight, and you are security, do not shoot your shot.
If you are their boss, in your office, do not shoot your shot.
If you are purchasing something from them, do not shoot your shot.
If you are at a bar, and you are polite, shoot your shot. And accept a no graciously.
If you are at a park, and you are both walking your dogs, try to start up a conversation (not shoot your shot). And accept a no graciously.
If you are the President of the United States, and you have a 19-year-old intern in your office, DO NOT shoot your shot.
Seems pretty simple to me. I'm a man in my 40s, have started plenty of conversations with women (and men) in public, and have never had any negative experiences from it (other than coming across some VERY strange people). Weird.
Huh, that comic and the responses makes me realize how much people can't notice their own blind spots, including within the comic itself.
Like in this section with people saying it's exaggerated or nobody actually talks like that (because they don't ever perceive it in real life and it seems to ridiculous to be real), and the comic referenced in your link where she says if men were responded to that way, because she apparently can't see that it is how men are responded to for many of those things, because she's so used to seeing women as the victims of that stuff perpetrated by mostly men (which is reasonable! What situations would she see the opposite?). What's telling, though, is the way one side pegs her as a misandrist for it and shit on her work and herself for it, and the other side pegs those for being misogynist for taking issue with her (though, in fairness, some are and will hate on anything by a woman discussing problems for women).
Basically, I feel like this is two groups yelling past each other and being upset about the same issue: gender-based mistreatment. But another key thing is... well, the guys who happen across her comics should recognize that it's a comic equivalent of TwoXChromosomes from Reddit: it's by a woman, largely for women, and you should either skip it or read it for a glimpse of a perception you normally don't experience, not something to argue over. And the women, just like with 2X, should take this stuff with a grain of salt (especially when someone presumes to know what men's experiences are). Stuff is exaggerated to pinpoint an issue, but you shouldn't let it poison your view of the world (or men).
Basically, I feel like there's value in comics like PizzaCake's, but the heavy commenting should be expected, not hated on. The most value people can get from it would be hearing other perspectives without insulting them for having a different one than your own. Except the actual misogynists (and misandists), they can fuck off, but I think it's worth giving the benefit of the doubt to start.
I am convinced that vegans today will be like we look at abolitionists like Alexander Hamilton back during the 18th century. People will be horrified that we treated animals so abysmally for convenience, and some will say it was a normal and accepted practice, and people didn't realize how horrible it was, and others will point to the vegans of today.
Thoughts like those make me a little more understanding of people like George Washington. He recognized it was bad, tried to mitigate it, but still perpetuated the practice. Just like I switched to Impossible Beef and chicken, do my best to buy local family eggs, but buy cheese and milk and ice cream from big name companies like Tillamook and Ben & Jerry's.
"We need Jesus in schools!"
No joke, I've heard people say that exact thing in response. That taking God out of schools is what started all this, so if there was more prayer in school, we wouldn't have shootings.
Yeah, because nobody does mass shootings in religious places.
I have been exceptionally lucky by being in the military because our housing allowance matches the local area (generally slightly behind big market changes, though) or am just given housing with utilities paid and they take the allowance away. Also, VA loans allow for 0% down loans, which means for the same as (or in my experience, less than) rent, you pay mortgage. And the house I bought in 2017 for 180k sold for 300k in 2022 and I did little more than live in it.
Now I'm buying a house where I will be retiring, and it's 750k. Vicious, but doable. I don't know how other people live here (VERY high cost of living location in Alaska).
Edit: forgot to add, I'm 41, so working on buying my second house. Hopefully I'll still be able to afford it in 4 years when I retire.
You're focusing too much on the "rights" and not enough on the "Mah." Not "Our rights."
It was never about universal rights. They were pretty clear about them caring specifically and only about their rights.
90s Dominos was trash. Even Dominos recognized old Dominos was trash.
Thank you for this. It seems more in keeping with the original idea of the US, a federation of states.
Can you give some examples of how that works? Like, who pays for roads, who handles environmental regulations (or are there any), who establishes education standards (or are there any), etc. I'm not trying to argue, it just seems like on the internet people referring to "state authoritarianism" and "central government tyranny" ranges from "adults can't be transgender" to "I have to pay taxes and the government won't let me own slaves."
Y'all are crazy. Grown adults going on about silly ponies.
The real G.O.A.T. (and I don't mean Grogar) is Pinkie Pie. She's fun, chill, suprisingly powerful, and got real backstory depth.