If you shit your pants, do you keep going with your week or is your week over?
If you shit your pants, do you keep going with your month or is your month over?
If you shit your pants, do you keep going with your life or is your life over?
I clean up and do whatever I still feel like. The arbitrary border of "day" means nothing to me, same as any other arbitrary border.
But if you can analyze the content and reject the nonsense, then you didn't need it in the first place, because you already knew enough about the topic.
And when you're using it for things you don't know enough about, that's where you can't tell the nonsense! You will say to yourself, because you noticed nonsense before, that "you can tell", but you won't actually be able to, because you're going from known-unknown into unknown-unknown territory. You won't even notice the nonsense because you don't know what nonsense could even be there.
Large language models are just that, they generate some language without sense behind it, if you use it for anything at all that requires reasoning, then you're using it wrong.
The literally only thing LLMs are good for is shit like "please reword this like that", "please write an ad text praising these and these features of a product", stuff that is about language and that's it.
Oh and as for reasoning why, another few points, all projects I've been in just kept being worked on and had constantly changing requirements. There was no real need to plan very much except maybe some rough estimations, that were allowed to be wrong.
There were like some very rough aspects of scrum in professional development, but only in the sense that we'd talk about what we'd like to do in the next sprint, we didn't do multiple plannings or estimations or cared about our velocity or did retrospectives often, and even the sprints were adjusted to last longer or shorter based on what we're going to do, there were a couple of roles people should have missing, and idk what. In the end, the resulting system was just something in the direction of agile/kanban, work just came in, and was handled based on some prioritizing by someone.
My personal projects could be really close to waterfall as well, I thought about a problem, made a rough plan on how to solve it, then just kept solving until I was done. Open source projects, no one organized anything, everyone just works on whatever they like.
Basically, you're the expert in software development paradigms, I'm just a developer that works on problems with code until solved, either given to me by someone or myself. The only ones who care about the paradigm are the business guys who wanna plan some shit.
As long as it is clearly communicated by him what he's doing and why, any approach is fine really. So as long as he tells her his exact purpose of the break and what he needs to stop it, all good.
If that is not done, and it's just a one-sided decision of his to stop talking, not even explaining anything, then it is very bad. It'd basically be like a parent punishing their child and not telling them what for, mentally very problematic. Of course it should be able to be implied by her in some way, but it's very easy to come to the wrong conclusions.
Second question, you simply don't let them. You calmly keep repeating your question, pointing out their intentional ignoring, stating that you will only talk with them about anything else after this question is answered, until they either get so mad as to run away, or they respond to it. But you have to actually stay strong, and not allow them to do it. Depending on other things that need to be communicated, and how stubborn they are, that will hurt yourself as well as them since other important stuff for you might not get communicated. But that is something that needs to be tolerated, because breaking from the original intention is worse for the future, it shows that ignoring the question works, and they'll repeat it.
I mean, they already said they're being harassed.
In general and another situation, I can fully see how someone might add someone to group chat in a way of "hey guys I found another one to add to our chat, their kink is to act all indignant about noticing us sexting, have fun".
I already said my most likely scenario is one person playing two sides.
This is a false view of humans behavior. All human behavior is logically sound, if you can't figure out the logic in it, that's on you, not on them "being illogical".
Trump certainly has motivations and subconscious thought processes that can be reasoned about. They might not be based on true views about reality, which makes them "sound illogical", but once you change your logical reasoning to not be based on an accurate depiction of reality, but based on the delusional version of reality inside Trump's brain, then his actions do start to make logical sense within that framework.
The problem is accurately figuring out his views on reality and actually putting yourself in his delusional shoes. This is incredibly hard, I certainly can't (and don't want) to do it, I just don't have the necessary information and way of obtaining it.
But also, regardless of that, Trump itself is mostly a puppet. There are people behind that actually work on more sound logic, but also have very false views of reality. Figuring out who is influencing what decision of the administration in exactly what way makes this whole explanation thing even harder.
You correctly identify it as futile, but for the wrong reasons, not because it's illogical, but because too much information is hidden from you.
he was sort of always pushing her daily.
This is exactly what it sounded like. Glad you've got this information, now I've got more things to say.
What he's doing comes from a perfectly nice and helpful place. He actually sees her behavior hurt herself and wants to help her hurt less.
But you should never "help" someone in this way. It's the worst thing he can possibly do, it actually only makes things worse.
The only way you can help people is by being there for them and assisting them on their own path. In other words, the only way you can be a positive force is by letting them do whatever the fuck they want, and helping them with that. If "whatever the fuck they want" does not include "getting out of the depression" and "getting rid of anxiety", then there's literally nothing you can do. If you try to get them to do actions that you think might be good for them, even if they actually were good for them if they wanted to do them, if they don't want to do them by themselves all you're doing is just making them feel worse for "being wrong".
It might even be the case that she wants to get out of depression or get rid of her anxiety, but she's taking the wrong actions for it. And he may be trying to get her to do "better actions", that actually accomplish what was set out to do. Even that doesn't work. She has to get to the "better actions" herself. You can maybe ask questions, or point out that the "current action" doesn't seem to be working, but the idea to change her actions has to come from herself.
That is the only way people change. People change by their own will, or they don't. As another person, you can basically just be with them and watch. Anything much more and you're starting to fuck things up more instead of help.
but told me she won’t do anything if he doesn’t stay on about it until it’s done
Then she should be doing nothing. He should be doing his own thing. She either comes out of it by herself, or doesn't. "Staying on about it" gets things done, but it also makes them both more miserable.
For productivity, I'm just not productive. I don't care about productivity.
For wasteful spending, I just don't have money to spend. I don't care about having money.
Sorry if my solutions won't work for you.