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Quit Vaping. Holy shit nicotine does a number on your mind.
Quit drinking. Alcohol does a number on your body.
Started working out, even a little goes a long way towards feeling better mind AND body.
Got boner pills. I'm really tall and only in my mid 30s, but have struggled with ED my whole adult life. Amazing how much you can beat yourself up over something so silly, or how much satisfaction you can get out of just being able to fuck like an average cock-haver.
I stopped drinking energy drinks because I have ibs and they worsen my gut symptoms. Since then, my digestive issues have improved a lot. I've also discovered that I can't drink coffee either :/ So I believe that all caffeinated drinks trigger my gut problems. That sucks because I'm addicted to caffeine, especially from energy drinks ... but avoiding them, my quality of life is so much better.
I think that this plus taking the ibs medication could solve the problem. I hope so.
Started exercising every day. All I do is 10 pushups, 60 seconds of planking, and 30 sit-ups. It takes less than 10 minutes and I've done it for about a year and a half and I've got a nicely toned stomach and better core strength from it. I'm pretty happy about it and it definitely makes me more confident. I also watch what I eat. I've lost about 40lbs in that time
You can now also defeat just about anything in one punch too.
Blocking name callers on Lemmy. It's a very small community and it makes a huge difference. Anyone that is hateful enough to type out useless mean things instead of just a simple downvote is someone to avoid. Charged criticism that clearly denotes an opinion, contrasting view, attempts to provide education, or offers an opportunity to educate is all good. I'm not trying to live in an echo chamber. But, if it's a simple mean spirited slur or jab even at someone else's comment - block! It really cleans up the feed fast. Most people here are pretty on edge, but there's only a handful of total assholes and they can be avoided.
Start working out. Seriously. A little cardio and a little strength training will go a long long way to improving your quality of life, even if you're not getting jacked.
Agree, and I'm someone who hates working out. Someone recently commented on exercising like "why would I choose to be miserable to 30 minutes a day", and I can honestly say it's because it makes you feel so much better the other 23 1/2 hours day. The smallest bit of cardio will make you more energetic, you don't get winded going up stairs, you can move easier, it's such a win. Yes it's miserable, but it is worth it.
Also if you find a kind you like, once you're in shape it stops sucking
Stop drinking alcohol
I stopped drinking a year and a half ago, quit vaping 3 years ago (quit smoking butts a few years before that) and in the last 5 years or so have significantly inproved my diet. Holy crap do I feel better. Less fatigued, more focused, sleep better I can go on. I still smoke more weed than I should, need to try cutting that out at least for a little bit too but its my last vice...
Installed a bidet. What a beautiful thing to always have a clean bum.
Deactivated Facebook about 6 years ago. That shit is toxic and anyone that still has an account supports it.
Label everything. Even stuff that's obvious. Idk why but it's easier for me to process that the thing of leftovers has Mac and cheese if I write it instead of just rely on seeing it. I leave myself post it notes for chores I intend to do later.
Instructions unclear
One of those is a baby, you should never listen to babies, they’re dumb af
Source: I’m a baby
Make stuff. With your hands,stuff that will last when you walk away from it. I spent a lot of time doing admin/office work, and you can be productive as hell but have nothing to physically look at for your time. I took up woodwork, started doing more building work on my property, and every time I look at what I’ve made, it makes me feel more connected to my home, and more capable of dealing with these weird times we find ourselves in. Learn skills, try different things, round out your experience in life. Make stuff you think is beautiful, or that makes your life better in some way, it’s a great feeling
Switched to a degoogled privacy ROM on my phone. Quit FB, X and any other bog tech social media Quit my previous career and took a year off. Went to a IT Boot Camp and pivoted careers. Did all of these after I got over a full blown pandemic and work induced burn out.
Coffee.
Hell yes.
Username checks out.
Gotten top surgery. I knew my quality of life was going to improve by virtue of not having boobs that gave me dysphoria, but I thought I would have to wait until I was fully healed to feel it. My mood and outlook changed pretty much day after my surgery. It feels great :)
SELF REFLECTION AND LOSING WEIGHT DURING COVID!
Retrospectively i was real scum and an asshole befor. Ye ye i was a teenager with lots of issues that made me fall this was, and growing up in a toxic, unhealthy (food and behaviour wise) parents home, did anything but help. But the confidence of lots of cycling, being out so much, having now a body you actually like, is not overrated. Reflecting, turning to better philosophie, questioning my own behaviour and beliefs. Amazing. While i still am working on unlearning trauma-endused behaviour, i wouldnt be here if i didnt start this journy in the first place. Covid isolation truely was the best thing to happen in my life.
Sailing the high seas again.
Therapy, switching to linux, taking steps to transition, coming out to a friend irl
In that order
Bought a house in a quieter neighborhood. Apartment / condo life was destroying my mental health.
Switched to Linux and set up a Jellyfin server.
Laser eye surgery. No more glasses or contacts.
Among a million other things, all rented spaces should be inspected and required to be acoustically insulated. City living is great for the environment and your quality of life and there's even nothing necessarily wrong with renting a home if you want to, but we need to regulate rental spaces where people are expected to live.
In the past year:
• switched to minimalist footwear (so many physical ailments eased/disappeared)
• downloaded an app that reminds me to stand up & walk for 5 minutes every half hour
• got rid of all social media except the Fediverse
• got FL-41 glasses to help me function with migraines
• got an RSS feed app to let me keep up with all media & creators I want to keep up with, without the mental health strain of endless scrolling, algorithms, & toxic comments
So besides the obvious of transitioning and meeting my wife, the big one is getting comfortable socializing and becoming part of communities.
I used to have crippling social anxiety, like, I felt like an intruder with no right to be there going to the grocery store (and I still struggle with that instinct). But I made a point early into my transition to start going to events I was interested in. It was college so it was easier to find them, but events still happen outside college you just have to look harder for them.
I made friends, and those friends dragged me to stuff. I even worked up the courage to go to a social meetup for the local bdsm community, which I'd been interested in. And slowly but surely I learned that there's a lot to gain and little downside to going to an advertised event that seems fun, and that if I'm interested in doing something I should look for it. This is everything from meetups to classes to whatever. If I won't know anyone that's ok, I can just say I'm new and interested in it.
I've moved time zones away and within a year built community and made friends in my new home. I've run groups solely because I was tired of waiting for someone else to run them. I met my wife while attending an event alone (she was too) and just flirting with her.
I'm still fucking awkward irl, I'm still nervous going to something new or where I'm not well known, I still get a rush of fear going into some public spaces. But I know I can handle it, and I know how to make friends, and I know it's not going to be a catastrophe if things go wrong or I screw up. I also know I'm much happier when I leave my apartment and meet up with people.
I think this is a skill a lot of people really need to learn.
Other big ones are getting into cycling and going pescatarian.
I was out of shape, focusing on strength training for attractiveness over the pandemic when I had an incident of getting embarrassingly winded in front of friends, one of whom was a nurse that was concerned for my health. So I started running, but running fucking sucks even if you get a runners high, I'm sorry to those that like it, they're wrong. My wife then told me about a bicycle co-op she knew about and we got me a bike. It's fun to ride, it's fun to work on, and it keeps me in shape. But even more importantly it does wonders for my energy and mental health when I bike regularly, as well as giving me a fun exertion activity when I need to process stuff. And there's the added bonus of it making my butt and thighs look fucking amazing.
Pescatarianism (with a plant and dairy focus) helped with my anxiety, improved my mood, and improved my bowel movements. And on that note fiber supplements have been a wonderful addition to my life, has been my bidet. I really can't recommend psylium husk highly enough.
Made an effort to say "yes" when people invite me or are making plans. It's meant I get more invites, and have done and seen many things that I would've have otherwise. Picked up some new fun hobbies along the way too!
Gave up pretty much most of my free time to work at a series of meaningless jobs that eventually made it a bit easier to hunt for bargains on potatoes in my old age.
stopped trying to discuss things with idiot fundamentalists on lemmy
it's a waste of time, these people are stupid
Rewired, replumbed, insulated, and reroofed the house. Installed an Enphase System Controller 3 along with an IQ Combiner 5, and a pair of IQ5P batteries, have three IQ8A microinverters hooked to 400w bifacial panels so far. Have a total of 18 panels to install as I'm working on the racking. Also need replace the windows and a few other things but there is a lot of stuff in progress. Been a huge benefit and QOL boost overall.
Learning to Scuba dive helped my mental health a ton after becoming a widower. Diving in general had been great for me, I just wish I could go more often.
I lived in the deep south my whole life. Almost everyone I knew was conservative. Parents, siblings, a grandparent, friends, neighbors, colleagues and almost everyone else in my life was conservative.
After I retired and Trump won again, I decided to disown them all. I politely said goodbye to everyone, explaining I will be difficult to contact for a while, but not to worry. I then moved 1800 miles away to a nice blue part of the country. It was physically and financially very difficult. I changed my phone number and email and gave no one any way to contact me, except the few non-conservative friends I have. I have no plans to ever speak with any of them ever again.
It's been almost 2 years now. I couldn't be happier. My stress is significantly lower without conservatives in it. I now wear my politics on my sleeve, which has resulted in a large number of new, high quality friends. I no longer feel any desire to drink and truly believe my depression is gone. I really do enjoy life right now, despite my concerns that civil war and genocide are upon us.
Disowning conservatives is the absolute best thing I have ever done to improve my quality of life. I highly recommend it.
In no particular order :
Went absolutely ham with cycling in January, down 30kg as of today, still 5 to go. Trying to reach that 4W/kg FTP eventually 😅
I stopped smiling and catering to rapists and nazis (republicans). I tell them exactly how I feel. really helps my mental health.
I have to agree. Its not like most people I know are republican but at this point I can't even pretend they are a legitamate party any more than qny other nazi type flavor. Its not even acceptable if someone wants to treat them as having a legitamate standing in any way for me.
Started taking a class. The people I'm hanging around now are slowly restoring my faith in humanity.
Mental healthcare provider hopping. You don't really know what a good one is like until you've had one. A lot of people try one, work really hard and get nowhere, either because their therapist is a crank, or maybe they're a competent professional that just doesn't work for them for whatever reason, so they conclude that therapy is a sham and they stop pursuing it.
I think it's good practice to evaluate whether what you're doing in therapy is helping at regular intervals. If it ain't, talk about it with your provider and if y'all can't fix it, hit the bricks and find someone who can. If your therapist is worth their salt they'll be happy to provide you with a reference if you ask. If they aren't, all the more reason to find someone better.
Started lifting weights.
