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She just finished her London Fashion Week show!
she has a discord too
REAAAAAAAAL. Would kill for even some basic advice.
Though, based on what I know so far for those who may not;
- high-waisted pants accentuate waist
- tie-in-the-middle jackets accentuate "hourglass" (sorta)
- perhaps obvious, but always go for the section of clothes opposite your assigned gender at birth... How things "fit" changes
- belts help accentuate figure
- accessorizing helps femininity
- if fit, shaved, and (maybe not necessary???) On HRT, showing more skin helps femininity. Bonus points showing a bra strap or two.
Take my advice with a grain of salt. Trying to let anyone know what I've learned whilst actively struggling with exactly this myself. Albeit my current issues are mostly financial...
Edit: makeup helps too. Mascara is super easy and fast. Thick eyeliner has actually managed to get me gendered correctly to a limited degree.
Yes a little makeup goes a long way. With heavier brows, eyeshadows really don't show well I've found, so I started using bright colored eyeliners applied slightly thick.
I don't have luck with mascara mostly because my lashes are thin and too many lay against the skin and with such a heavy brow, I can't get a lash curler in there without pinching a lot of skin.
Also lips. I have thin, blue tinted lips. So a little lip stain of a berry tint goes a long way.
Also avoid dresses or long tops that are solid colored and body contouring. They are great for showing off curves, but also show off the lack thereof. Though adding a thick belt to break up the solid color can fix that some.
A simple bracelet when wearing short sleeves is feminizing, rings as well, just be careful of the finger used since some cultures a sign meaning to that. And a necklace to fill the space between the neck and a shirt neckline, especially if it's lower cut, can help feminize and deemphasize wider necks.
Body shaping wear that's meant to smooth out women's natural belly shapes helps to add some curves as well, though sizing down is likely needed and it only really works well for thinner body types. And of course isn't very comfortable for anyone who wears them and may make sitting difficult or impossible, so I only rarely use that tactic.
Alexis Blake? She, doesn't really focus on fashion specifically but does quite often do clothes and fashion reels on insta. I actually met her and her husband a month or so ago.
Hey, could you avoid the outdated language "mtf" please? They modern day words are trans woman or transfem. This is to avoid assuming any ever saw themselves as male or men and causing dysphoria, or avoiding thinking all had the same experience.
Things like mtf also excludes intersex beings and beings who are transfem but were never 'male'.
It’s the name of the community so I took it as appropriate. I’m sorry. I’ll just say women or trans women if it seems necessary.
Sadly short/community names can't be changed, but they did their best by changing the display name to Transfem.
Also would you mind changing the existing title? It causes us dysphoria. Thanks.