If you’re a man, you can’t download it,
How does that work?
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Your phone explodes in your hand when it detects testosterone or the patriarchy.
Rage bait. Yes, the app is creepy, but the first actual quote the article gives is in this paragraph:
And then there’s the phrase. Post after post across the app uses some version of the same line: “he collects women like Pokémon cards.”
None of the quotes truly support the headline, imo.
Also, that app is creepy af and should probably be illegal on privacy grounds.
Yeah, that part really shows the entire methodology of the article is bullshit.
And then there’s the phrase. Post after post across the app uses some version of the same line: “he collects women like Pokémon cards.” That’s not a joke somebody made once. That’s the app’s house insult, used so often it might as well ship with the keyboard. The man on the receiving end doesn’t even have to play. You could have never touched a card in your life and still catch this one.
They're proving that this instance of a negative mention of Pokemon doesn't even have to do with someone being interested in the hobby which is the entire premise of the article. But they never mention filtering for this, and then just go on to say that liking Pokemon is the worst hobby stats wise. Not that I'm expecting perfect methodology for something like this, but this is a pretty fucking glaring issue they even openly admit but somehow don't see the problem with it.
Saying someone collects women like Pokemon cards is just an insult about someone being a player, it doesn't have anything to do with someone's hobbies. It could easily be said as collecting women like any other commonly collected item.
The data these women are spilling on men is outrageous, they’re putting up full names, birthdays, photos that often identify addresses and making claims that are straight up defamatory.
It needs to be shut down as the users have no right to be sharing others information in this way.
Before anyone throws around accusations I’m married and I’m not featured on this disgusting app.
If men did the same thing to women, people would have a much different reaction.
And I get that sexism makes it completely reasonable for women to act differently and/or defend themselves but that's not what this is.
Wasn't that the app that leaked a massive database of women's IDs?
Just checked, it happened twice. https://consumerrights.wiki/w/Tea_Dating_Advice
I think that leak is probably why this kind of analysis is possible at all.
Thank you for introducing me to this website.
Pokemon - ✅
Pokemon TCG reselling - 🚩
Imagine this app existing for the opposite sex.
How is this even implemented? How do you keep a certain sex off of the app? Especially trans people, what do they do with them? And non-binary people too.
They require video or id confirmation. It's creepy as hell. Either a "video selfie" or give photo id
I don't care. Why would you want to be with a woman who isn't accepting of pop culture?
Even grandmas play Pokemon Go GTFO of here.
Be thankful that the app is filtering out the bad apples in advanced.
It's more about their hobby of defamation and libel.
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Type of girl that uses this app is not one im interested in, none of my friends do, their tea app is their gcs and it's prob more effective
I'm old so maybe not relevant, but I think all those dating apps are stupid.
One, the dating app provider doesn't want you to find a match because you'd stop using the app, they want endless engagent.
Two, I hear my younger coworkers and youth say they couldn't find a match, because none of them were good looking enough. So all the suggestions they ignored based on a picture. This really isn't how you find a good life partner, this skips interaction and personality connections that you get in live encounters.
It's not a dating app, its for like exposing men and talking about it, only woman can join and its id verified, but all the woman ik discuss all that amongst themselves and don't need an app, they already have community. I guess it is for ppl who sleep with strangers using those apps? idk, will never be my problem lol.
this skips interaction and personality connections that you get in live encounters.
See, the problem is that those people aren't going out enough to interact with strangers. Men are increasingly unlikely to make a move because there's both the fear of rejection and the fear of an overreaction.
Graded Combat Sport?
Global Cdefense Sinitiative?
Group Chats
...glasgow coma scale?
Commenting on tiktok has probably made me devolve tho, wouldnt be suprised if using that app makes you show signs of brain damage
If my point gets across, idc, if I'm using any social media (including lemmy) I'm probably high af looking for a distraction.
Is there a dating app just for geeks and nerds? Easy as hell to find like-minded men; I haven't talked to any like-minded women since high school. I don't really like hanging out with super serious people. They never laugh at my jokes.
conventions and pen and paper rpg groups are the best bet.
It has an fdroid application and their whole thing is about being open source and ad free, so I assume the people using it are one of us
https://f-droid.org/packages/com.alovoa.expo/
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the app is a waste of time, fails to create an account but you can on the website. then fails to log in.
stick to the website and create a webapp for it
Hmmm, better chance this thing will work then a lot of others.
shit attracts shit nothing new here.
Slow news day
Clearly the author pulled a Slowpoke card
The app is women-only. If you’re a man, you can’t download it, can’t search it, and can’t respond to anything on it.
So ... what's stopping men from setting up a burner device, pretending to be a woman, and using the app?
Hell, for that matter, it would probably be very beneficial to set up some sock-puppet accounts to post glowing 'green flag' reviews of yourself.
likely only way is using your ID/facial recognition.
I guess, if you're that into the waspish drama-queens that gossip more than breathe, sure. Got a thing for Karens, Jessicas, et al?
It would be really nice if this could exist without being petty. I dated a guy who lied to me about having been in jail for nearly two decades for beating his mother to death, and I would love to be able to warn others about him. I have a google alert set up for his name and got a ping a few years ago that he was arrested for violating a restraining order taken out by the woman he dated after me and felt awful that I wasn’t able to warn her.
It’s both predictable and annoying that people are using it to be petty, but the concept is still useful, even if some use it in a way I find shallow. I don’t think it’s wild to imagine that some women would see this report and take it as a green flag. I met up with my husband for the first time after we matched on a dating app to play magic the gathering with him, so I know that some women look for nerds when dating. I previously went on a date with a different guy to play magic (I like seeing how someone plays, wins, and loses, plus it’s a low pressure first date activity that helps ease conversation), and he showed me his Khorne tattoo. He said he just really identified with the character when I asked why he had chosen Khorne, and I absolutely took that as a red flag, not because it’s nerdy, but because I don’t want to date someone who identifies with Khorne.
I would 100% support a twin app for men about women, to be clear, and I don’t know what the solution would be for non cishetero dating, but I wouldn’t be against any of them.
I’m not sure how to do it in a way that can’t be abused, sadly. My instinct is that maybe domestic violence (DV) crimes should be public knowledge - i.e. offenders, offences and sentences (but not victim information) should be on a publicly searchable database - but I’m not sure what unintended consequences there might be to this. My gut tells me that women reporting DV might experience more backlash from violent partners because reporting the DV puts the offender on a ‘list’, and that maybe it could encourage some abusers to vexatiously make false accusations to try to get someone on the list, but I don’t know how likely either of those would be. There’s not a simple solution, but we need to keep searching for the difficult solution because the status quo leads to way too many women dying at the hands of current or former partners.
In my country, an influencer set up such a website. Posts are manually reviewed and will link to the conviction decision. You can post domestic violence and sexual abuse perpetrators who have been committed. The court decisions are actually public data anyway, just a bit annoying to search.
Now, to fix the court system so that certain people don't file a DV claim to fuck with someone, knowing full well it'll get thrown out at best, but without any blowback on the perpetrator. 🤢
The system is not made for serving any of us —it was designed to incarcerate our population in record numbers, and with impunity.
ACAB, the whole way up.
Show me a reality where it doesn't devolve into a platform for stalking.
I can see that, and if this were the only way for people to look up a member of the public without them having created a public profile, I wouldn’t support it. It would be much easier to stalk someone through the websites where you can input a phone number and get all the associated addresses and additional contact information, though. In jurisdictions where those are allowed, I think the information shared on this type of platform is much less useful for stalking and more useful for legitimate purposes.
Although I would be curious about how a platform like this would work legally in a jurisdiction with solid privacy laws.
Nah, sorry. The excuse women use is safety, it's just gossip at industrial scale.
I'm gonna build a men-only app for libeling women. We'll call it Dox.
From my original comment:
I would 100% support a twin app for men about women, to be clear, and I don’t know what the solution would be for non cishetero dating, but I wouldn’t be against any of them.
I’m not bothered if you build an app, though I don’t know why people would want to use it if it were intentionally libelous.
Why do they use Tea? Gossip. Gossip doesn't have to be true, just interesting.
Maybe some, but that’s helpful, because people who use it for gossip will self select out of dating people on it, and the people who use it for safety reasons won’t be scared off by gossip.
It’s definitely not why I would use it if my ex weren’t in jail or I were dating. It’s easy to verify claims that people make, but sometimes it’s hard to realize that something needs to be researched at all.
I was about to do an apprenticeship as an instrument maker with someone I knew tangentially through a network of related hobbies, and a woman in the same network approached me and said she didn’t believe the gossip [that I’d never heard], she knew he was a good guy and I could see for myself if I used an alternate spelling of his name that I’d never encountered. I googled that spelling and found several articles including pictures about how he had raped and beaten his step kids. I still don’t know what her motivation was, because she really did seem to be friends with him, but I noped out of that apprenticeship real quick. I would never have known to look that up if I hadn’t been tipped off.
Don't take the actions of random bitches on a social media site any more seriously than their existence on any other site
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