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That’s very specific and you will probably struggle to find enough people on Lemmy to get solid answers.
The biggest community I know of is !parenting@lemmy.world (and there’s a few generic parenting ones on other instances), but it’s still very quiet.
Hate to say it, but for your specific topic you will probably have better luck on Reddit.
I’m not on Reddit, but I might try it out to see if it helps.
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How To Do Nothing With No One All Alone By Yourself.
Perfect book for an 8 to 11 year old.
If you do this, please teach them media literacy and critical thinking skills. 8 to 11 year olds is the perfect time to start these lessons in earnest. And don't indoctrinate them to any religion until they reach the age of reason so they can dispense with the fairy tales.
For summer, I usually enforce 30 minutes of reading a day and otherwise take local trips for hands-on type education. Last summer, we hit tidepools and the history museum and did some kid-friendly science experiments.
You could look for workbooks or something similar for more targeted subjects.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I have mixed experience with workbooks, do you have a recommendation?
I have have not had luck getting my kids to read consistently.
I have done outings and when they were younger I was able to get some education value out of them. As they have gotten older I don’t have as much to offer them. It’s fun, but not really much learning for them
Reading is non-negotiable in my house. His teacher this year also required 20 minutes of daily reading as homework, so it was easy enough to keep it up. I don't care what my kid reads as long as he's reading - that means it can be Dogman or Captain Underpants books or whatever he wants to read for those 30 minutes. Sometimes he chooses to write something for that time because he's found a love of writing recently.
Outings are our family time. The experience itself is enough for me, I don't push the educational angle a lot. We just talk about the stuff we're seeing and it leads to deeper conversations about the world or him or whatever he wants to talk about.
This is just to help inspire you for the summer, sorry I don't have more recommendations for workbooks and the like. We just don't use them outside of school because his classroom is already so structured.
This is why I worded my question in a specific way, my challenges getting them to read are absolutely a parenting issue as opposed to an education one.
I don’t yell at my kids, but they seem conditioned to only respond to being yelled at. getting them to do things they aren’t inclined to takes a lot of effort on my part and being consistent in that effort while working full time, cooking ,shopping and driving them to activities is more than I have managed so far. I have read how important consistently is but just have not achieved it yet.
Wrapping back around to the ‘class’ idea I was going to take them to the library for each lesson to set the environment for learning.
I appreciate how filled your time is, and I struggled with consistency myself (still do but my kids are grown, thank goodness). If possible, set a specific Silent Reading Time and sit down with them and your own book. Make it 15 minutes rather than 30, and paper not screens just so you don't have to keep checking. Don't have anything planned for the 30 minutes after, so any of you who wants can continue reading longer. Pre-bedtime is one option, unless you're already reading aloud to them because that's even better.
By the way, they're old enough for some of the Terry Pratchett books, like Equal Rites or Maurice and His Amazing Rodents. And you might find a little relief from reality with a Discworld book yourself. When you have to get up and go deal with the dishes or whatever, leave your book open in case one of them is intrigued.
I don’t yell at my kids, but they seem conditioned to only respond to being yelled at. getting them to do things they aren’t inclined to takes a lot of effort on my part and being consistent in that effort while working full time, cooking ,shopping and driving them to activities is more than I have managed so far. I have read how important consistently is but just have not achieved it yet.
I feel you SO HARD on this, truly. It's really difficult to juggle everything and still be a "perfect" parent. I lose my shit sometimes as well, it's inevitable.
The library is a great idea! It sets a good tone for learning and it's not as distracting as being at home where all the cool stuff is lol
I have have not had luck getting my kids to read consistently.
My two tricks for this are leaving out comic books (easier read, but same number of words, if they read long enough), and reading to them at bedtime (because it's just time and attention, and they love that.)
On the bedtime reading, beware - they will interrupt constantly at first, because they want the extra attention more than they want the story to move along. Lol.
Edit: Oh! And weekly trips to the library. They get a dopamine hit from choosing and checking out books, and then they revisit that hit by reading the books later. I also let them pick something for me to read to them, if they're interested in it, but afraid to try to read it.
Also, most libraries have comic books, often sorted by age appropriateness.
This would have to be a rather local community, since education is very different between coutries and regions.
Keep in mind that reducing learning loss is perhaps the most important thing to focus on during long summer breaks. American students tend to have lower reading and math scores at the beginning of a new school year than they did at the end of the previous one.
I’m specifically looking to create a short course on how to learn, focusing on evidence based learning h study techniques; spaced repetition , the ebbinghaus curve and active recall.
I’ve already been using these techniques with them, though without formal introductions, I’m looking now for them to formally think about studying as the task as opposed to a sub task,
I’ve got an idea of making the lessons 3x - week they would be layered with the first 15 minutes being the whole lesson for the younger kid and half the lesson for the older one. The second half would be the same concepts as the first with more depth.
The whole ‘ course ‘ would be 4 weeks But man oh man actually making a lesson for that much stuff, plus activities to reinforce it at appropriate levels is daunting,
I got a lot out of Saundra Yancy McGuire's books "teach students how to learn" and "teach yourself how to learn". If your library has them, that might be the way to go. Not sure they're meaty enough to justify a purchase.
But that said, her illustration of Bloom's taxonomy using the story of Goldilocks could provide a week's-worth of lessons.
Not sure if you're open to non secular options but one we tried was gather round. It would be a fun summer school one because you can choose the topics and everyone does their thing together, hence the name.
If you're looking for something more structured and free - we did easy peasy. It also has a religious tone but unlike gather round you can remove quite a bit of it if you want. Easy peasy let's you essentially build the classes you want your kids to take... So you could do a language class, and math for one kid and then the other could do typing and language arts. I have nothing negative to say about either they helped us transition in our life to a new school which I'm appreciative of.
Thanks for the gatherround suggestion. Secular is not a problem.
I haven’t yet begun homeschooling, but I did join some fb groups in my area. I like to gather what resources (eg curricula) or ideas they have and think about what I’d prefer. Some group members don’t align exactly with what I want or have questionable information, so always do your own research too.
But I have found that talking about homeschooling with friends and coworkers opened up many conversations about it, and I didn’t even realize they homeschooled. So it seems less intimidating to have some successful methods or curricula implemented, instead of the overwhelming amount of info on the web.
Like I said, I havent started yet, but I’m happy to share what I found for ideas.
I would just sit him down by the river and have him imagine seeing a family of his favorite animal, bunnies. Whether you draw the line at mice, puppies, or women, something has to be done.