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[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago

Ok she is more attractive for sure, but that's partly HRT, and partly a combination of better style, clearly being happier, and better lighting. That said, those are also effects of HRT in my experience

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 63 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I'll only date YT-DLP tho, unless you're a GUI for it like parabolic 😘

[–] A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago (3 children)
[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 19 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

program that downloads YouTube videos, here's the GitHub: https://github.com/yt-dlp/yt-dlp

It doesn't come with a GUI and is just terminal based. Basically every other YouTube downloader program/website/app is either YTDLP with a GUI, or YTDLP with a GUI and a bunch of malware.

I use and recommend Parabolic for desktop use or Seal for use on my phone.

My most common use is probably to download the audio of a YouTube song and have it added to my Spotify playlists as a local file. That way I can have niche YouTube music that isn't on Spotify still be in my playlists :)

[–] celeste@feddit.org 1 points 6 hours ago

Thx for the recommendations and explanation

[–] ericatty@infosec.pub 8 points 1 day ago

A you tube downloader program

[–] gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

linux command line tool to download youtube and a lot of other videos

[–] pleb_maximus@piefed.zip 6 points 1 day ago

It works on Windows just fine, too.

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 42 points 1 day ago (5 children)

what the fuck

they mustve properly dosed because i def dont look like that after a year. Or maybe im trying to gaslight myself into believing;;;

Surgeries, anything? i'm jealous.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago

As has been said, haircut and lighting are doing quite a bit. She also clearly didn't lose weight in that year (many trans women will attempt to lose fat during transition or to actively maintain it, but a lot of the effects are fat redistribution as is visible here). She also is pretty young, and that could play a role here.

But also, yeah different people get different results from hormones.

[–] carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone 62 points 1 day ago (1 children)

lighting, the haircut and probably makeup are doing a lot too tbh

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

i don't want to smell like estrogen. i want to absolutely reek of it. I want it to be like cartoons where there's a visible scent trail coming off of a pie and a hungry character starts floating towards the pie when they smell it, except I'm the pie. i want to look like i'm dropping off the formula of estrogen and people are crying that their family is transed.

i am the trans. you are the wall and i'm around you. i am the estrogen and you shall not shame my name. i shall bless all who need their hormone and i shall be the definition of makeup everyone will point at.

i shall make people cry for they cant get light angles well enough to rival me. i shall make people overjoyed when they see me and saddened when i leave. i shall disappear insecurities and let the haters drown in love, as swift as a coursing river and fair as a terrible maiden, as the undefined void that gives light. you who read are welcome and in time shall find your happiness. seek the light of friendship and queerhood and we shall live to thrive in a trove of blåhajs.

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 13 points 1 day ago

I want it to be like cartoons where there's a visible scent trail coming off of a pie and a hungry character starts floating towards the pie when they smell it, except I'm the pie.

I don’t know if the sexual innuendo was intentional or not, but I love it!

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

here's my 1 year difference, though I'm about 10 months on E and wasn't on when the bottom photo was taken


why didn't I smile for this photo lmao

I like your anole, but I'm sorry you're stuck living in in a place with anoles and certain regional retailers.

[–] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago

wow you have amazing skin, even before hrt

In addition to lighting, makeup, haircut, and skincare, HRT has redistributed fat on her face, giving her fuller cheeks. She also has subtle on the left which highlights less feminine contours. It's a huge glowup, but not impossible by any stretch. I bet you look more similar than you think.

[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 day ago

It's quite possible they used a different camera/lens because of how the proportions of their face also changed. But also makeup and good skincare can go a long ways as well.

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 20 points 1 day ago

obscure reference but omg this is so funny I need to make it

[–] Chezus9247@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'd buy you a regular monster, because it's the best. But I don't wanna get sucked dry, after all we're pretty much made out of water and I don't wanna look like an empty potato sack.

[–] ChicoSuave@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago

It's about the journey, not the destination

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Serious question from someone uninformed on the topic: is it just a photography thing, or can HRT actually change the shape of your skull?

[–] Filetternavn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 41 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

HRT does not alter bone structure (in those who have fully developed bones). What it will do, however, is alter fat distribution in the body and face, giving a more feminine appearance. Also worth mentioning that it can affect pelvic tilt, which may appear like a bone structure change, but it's not.

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ah. Okay, thanks! I didn’t consider fat distribution at all!

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Fun fact! The same thing happens with bodybuilders take steroids. It changes their face look so much!


(couldn't find a better photo so I used a YouTube thumbnail lol)

Actually, steroids are essentially my HRT in reverse. It makes me look younger, softer skin, less muscle, less acne, etc. whereas body builders who take gear look older, have thicker skin, more muscle, more acne, etc.

Women who get on steroids and take testosterone is LITERALLY the same thing as FtM HRT.

I've been watching an ex bodybuilders YouTube who does a lot of activism against unhealthy steroid use and it's REALLY fascinating to me how gender expression can be so opposite but still so similar.

Men taking steroids is (more or less) essentially DIYHRT just for cis men instead of trans men. Same testosterone coming from the same oversea suppliers. (ignoring that testosterone is only 1 chemical bodybuilders inject, there's a LOT of others)

I've literally recommended someone doing DIYHRT to get blood work done by a company that the YouTuber recommends to people on steroids to get their blood work done.

[–] hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Not like, estrogen literally is a steroid. If you're taking HRT you're doing steroids.

Most laypeople mean anabolic steroids when they say steroids. Those are the masculine ones that build muscles, but steroids as a category includes much more.

All sex hormones are steroids. Estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone are all steroids. So is cortisol, and many others that regulate many bodily functions. Steroids are a biological communication protocol used to control many things.

Maybe I'm just being pedantic, (probably) but far from steroids in reverse, estrogen is the best steroid of all.

But that picture also has very different framings. The steroid picture is taken from much further away with a lot of zoom. His face looks flat and you can see both temples simultaneously. Faces change dramatically based on how you photograph them.