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Serious question from someone uninformed on the topic: is it just a photography thing, or can HRT actually change the shape of your skull?
HRT does not alter bone structure (in those who have fully developed bones). What it will do, however, is alter fat distribution in the body and face, giving a more feminine appearance. Also worth mentioning that it can affect pelvic tilt, which may appear like a bone structure change, but it's not.
Ah. Okay, thanks! I didn’t consider fat distribution at all!
Fun fact! The same thing happens with bodybuilders take steroids. It changes their face look so much!
(couldn't find a better photo so I used a YouTube thumbnail lol)
Actually, steroids are essentially my HRT in reverse. It makes me look younger, softer skin, less muscle, less acne, etc. whereas body builders who take gear look older, have thicker skin, more muscle, more acne, etc.
Women who get on steroids and take testosterone is LITERALLY the same thing as FtM HRT.
I've been watching an ex bodybuilders YouTube who does a lot of activism against unhealthy steroid use and it's REALLY fascinating to me how gender expression can be so opposite but still so similar.
Men taking steroids is (more or less) essentially DIYHRT just for cis men instead of trans men. Same testosterone coming from the same oversea suppliers. (ignoring that testosterone is only 1 chemical bodybuilders inject, there's a LOT of others)
I've literally recommended someone doing DIYHRT to get blood work done by a company that the YouTuber recommends to people on steroids to get their blood work done.
Not like, estrogen literally is a steroid. If you're taking HRT you're doing steroids.
Most laypeople mean anabolic steroids when they say steroids. Those are the masculine ones that build muscles, but steroids as a category includes much more.
All sex hormones are steroids. Estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone are all steroids. So is cortisol, and many others that regulate many bodily functions. Steroids are a biological communication protocol used to control many things.
Maybe I'm just being pedantic, (probably) but far from steroids in reverse, estrogen is the best steroid of all.
But that picture also has very different framings. The steroid picture is taken from much further away with a lot of zoom. His face looks flat and you can see both temples simultaneously. Faces change dramatically based on how you photograph them.