Wow, so being top is not gay enough apparently.
this post was submitted on 15 Apr 2026
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Modern western ideas where the most important part of sexual orientation is who you find attractive is somewhat new, and while it's gained a lot of popularity among queer people worldwide it's still not the default model everywhere. In a lot of times and places things such as who you have sex with regardless of attraction or what role you take in sex are considered more important (also at what age). Hell, I wouldn't be surprised if some people were to see a man who only has receptive sex and exclusively with women as more gay than a man who exclusively tops men.
I also wouldn't be surprised if they're thinking that a straight man might be willing to top a man to get out of the military, but not to bottom
who would have guessed, that a culture that hates woman also hates every feminine act.
ironically the exclusive gay top is the manliest man by that definition, he doesn't even enjoy the softness of women. good=more manly, bad=more feminine.
it all checks out with my experience (no, not sexual) way to many of the second or third generation turks in germany have a completely fucked up view of masculinity and women. gotta look tough all the time! so tough! turkey is the best! erdogan is great! this sub culture was strong when i was in school and is alive and well today
Welcome to the old Greek/romen model! Sexuality is a matter of position and power dynamics. Not sexual attraction.
The absurd byzantine rules people create for themselves around this shit is wild. Why can't humans just let people consensually fuck whomever they want?
So bizarre to me. If I were forced to choose "which is gayer" id say the top is the gayest position.
As a hetero id easily be able to take a cock up the ass to avoid getting sent to kill or die. I'd struggle quite a bit more to maintain an erection strong enough to go in a man. Especially with the context motivator in the back of my head.
The majority of the world kinda still uses the old Greek model to some degree. Sexuality is determined by position and power dynamics not by attraction.
Attraction as a major factor is mostly new to a lot of cultures.
I am a bisexual guy from Turkey, this is old news.
From what I heard these days you just go to a psychiatrist and act a bit gay. Then if the psych is not an asshole they give you something called "pink certificate" which makes you exempt from military service.
But like, I would give my nudes to the government if it means not doing military service. Nobody can make me serve for this (or any) country
My compulsory service is currently on hold because I am studying in university. Me and my boyfriend are planning to go the the military psychiatrist together to get pink certificates for both of us. Once we finish uni and gtfo of family home ofc
Based (of you).
Does Turkey not allow for conscientious objection? Or is it just far too difficult to meet their standards?
conscientious objection
In a country where saying anything bad to the flag is a crime, that is literal treason. You'll probably get your citizenship revoked just for asking
glory to the Turkish master race
I'm not gay, but if taking a few pictures could spare me going to this madness that is military, i'm in!
how deep inside your mouth are you willing to take it?
What does that even mean?
your task is taking a convincing picture doing homosexual acts in the passive position where your face is clearly visible
where do you draw the line?
A line between what? And if I have to be in 'passive' position, why are you asking about dicks in my mouth?
I suppose the guy checking the photos was exempt of proof.
I think there was an Iranian official working in their censorship board, who sent explicit messages to a young Iranian man telling him he wants to fuck him so hard.
I'm not gay but I think if I saw so much gay porn daily I'd become at least a little gay.
may i suggest they supply a chocolate mold of their assholes for evidence.
I don't know for sure but "send gay nudes or get drafted" sounds a little gay.
That will be next wave of text scams: "You are due to be drafted, unless you send nudes of yourself getting railed up the ass, with your face showing, and either a big smile, or some other expression that demonstrates your pleasure. It must be accompanied by a 500 word essay about how much you enjoyed it. In detail."
Pumpkin, it's not just any gay nudes of yourself. It's gay nudes with very specific asks. The kinds of asks you might expect from a patron of your OnlyFans account. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
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Apparently it's the gay man that takes it, not the gay man that gives it in Turkey. Wild.
Meh, just archaic. In ye olde times it wasn't gay to fuck, it was gay to be fucked. Ancient Greece, Ancient Rome, modern times Turkey, etc.
Until Arthur Prostate made his big discovery.
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Military recruiters:
Military: Recruiting soldiers. Sorry, no power bottoms.
Soldiers: awwwww :'(
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Finally an ethical application for generative AI
My Turkish friend says there's a running joke of "The Turkish military has the largest gay porn collection in the world"
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And the photos must show you as the passive partner
So I guess you and your partner have to switch positions and each have a photo to get out of it. No two for one!
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