Maybe just let her tell you, and leave her alone about it.
this post was submitted on 11 Apr 2026
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she told me to ask people if she was
Based on information provided, aroace is a functional descriptor.
That being said early teens is a highly transformational time for people. Some change would not be unexpected.
thanks!
I feel obligated to point out that while the label fits, it shouldn't be a defining personality point.
People often get caught with labels they put there themselves or they were given by others. It's important to be separate enough from them that you are not constrained by them. If they care enough about finding a label to fit for now, I hope they will continue checking in with themselves on occasion to check if the label still fits.
Much like the feeling of 'if people are going to call me a villain, I might as well be a villain'. It happens (sometimes quite subtly) for most labels people choose to live by.
that makes sense, i will definitely tell her that. i always check in with myself, as im quite self-aware, like i was bi before but realized it didn't fit and stopped "forcing" myself to like men
That's not abnormal for teen girls, though. A lot of girls need to meet the right person before they develop sexual interest, even into their 20s. Instead of speculating and looking at people, she should try talking to them, making plans, going out. Does not need to be romantic, just meeting different people and seeing what kind of people you get along well with. Although modern American society really doesn't allow kids to do that until college now.
Hot take - the recent surge in aromantic and asexual people is more a result of increasing levels of anxiety in society, rather than being driven by inherent personality traits. While some people doubtless have greater or lesser innate sexual or romantic drives, the increase we are seeing, especially in young people, is due repression of sexual or romantic desires in their psyche due to social anxieties around being vulnerable and comminicative with others.
Hypothesis - take 100 asexual, aromantic teens and put them on a desert island where they don't have much to do except fish, poke the fire, and lounge on the beach in swim suits. After a year, 90 of them will no longer be aroace.
She's a young teen. Maybe she's aroace, maybe she's a late bloomer
for now, aroace
Yes, I'd say ace spectrum
What the fuck is an "aroace?*
Aromantic+Asexual
as in she smells funny ???? what has her aroma have to do with her sexuality ? a yeast infection?
aromantic, not aromatic. a (not) + romantic
No, it's due to having 4n + 2 delocalized electrons and a coplanar structure.
I swear, they're just making shit up now.
WTH
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