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one of the subs I miss the most, along with r/notinterestering

unironically THIS though.

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[–] Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 hours ago

I'd be a little concerned with the AC directly over the heater, but if that's the only place it can go...

[–] m4xie@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 hours ago

I just moved and bought a cot to sleep on. With a yoga mat on it, it's actually as comfortable as any bed I've ever slept on!

I'm considering keeping it long term, but I would like to have "company" over some day.

[–] konim@sopuli.xyz 1 points 4 hours ago

Honestly empty room is pretty easy. It's the people that have a bunch of stuff that make people think "is this a serial killer or are they just weird?" thats hard. You can tell they really like their stuff and you have to convince them to tone it down for new people.

When my room has been this empty it's usually because I just moved and couldn't afford to move much or had to sell a bunch to afford the move. Just ask the people you're close to (ones you're leaving, ones you'll stay in contact with, and new people you meet) if they can make you some type of art to make your room feel more inviting. You already have a pride flag, seeing your friends terrible drawings, 4am and high quotes, etc is all you really need to add to make at least an inviting wall. Furniture is definitely nice and encouraged, but if youre living like this you need to be reminded you're not really alone, not necessarily stuff at first. But please at least get a used side table at some point so you're not spilling food in bed lol, speaking from experience.

[–] the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 8 points 9 hours ago

Top picture oop only has a single room to.live in, and a cot to sleep on, and is asking for advice on making the most of it. And these comments, holy shit. Wasn't expecting that level of classism on Lemmy. Especially 196.

[–] SayJess@piefed.blahaj.zone 41 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

"Cringe culture is dead! Let people enjoy things" crowd when they have to defend Garten of Banban fans and not scenecore sparkledog furry art

The fuck does that even mean?

Probably a sex thing.

[–] inari@piefed.zip 4 points 9 hours ago

I'm not online enough to know either

[–] CaliforniaSober@lemmy.ca 2 points 9 hours ago

You should totally add a thing.

[–] EatMyPixelDust@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Are there people who actually live like this? I genuinely don't understand...

[–] Ryanmiller70@lemmy.zip 3 points 6 hours ago

Yeah where's the gaming/PC setup?

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

probably should go up against the wall in the corner (feet facing the viewer, head facing the AC unit)

[–] GreenCrunch@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

Yeah, but then when the AC runs it'll blow directly on you and you'll be freezing!

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

I don't think so, in the corner is less directly in the path of the flow of the AC unit, it's more like it would be blowing to your left - which could still make you cold, but probably no worse than being directly in front of it like it is now

[–] GreenCrunch@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 hours ago

Ah, good point, I didn't think about that, looking at it again that makes sense.

[–] SARGE@startrek.website 7 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Good. I can toss my other blanket on top and get snuggled in.

[–] GreenCrunch@piefed.blahaj.zone 6 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

All good until you don't want to get out of bed in the morning because it's freezing...

[–] SARGE@startrek.website 2 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

I have always wanted a programmable thermostat, so I can sleep to nice cool air, but wake up to almost uncomfortably hot, because that will force me to get out of bed and be something resembling human.

Instead I'm a burrito, all wrapped up and warm

[–] GreenCrunch@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I feel like the energy usage of cooling then heating would be crazy though... Perhaps a localized solution, like a space heater pointed at the bed on a timer or smart outlet, so you're getting direct heat only in the morning, only in bed.

[–] SARGE@startrek.website 2 points 4 hours ago

Oh, my rooms tend to get hot by themselves, so it's less "cool it then heat it" and more "cool it, then stop cooling and let it warm up naturally around morning"

Except in winter, I guess. Then it's just "don't heat until morning"

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Why wouldn't I defend people enjoying Garten of Banban? It just looks like a standard mascot horror game, and there's nothing inherently wrong with those. Unless the developers are as bigoted as the FNAF dev or the game has genuinely immoral content, I see no problem with it.

[–] Truscape@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

It's of poor quality - although that's a subjective take from someone who's only seen other people's gameplay.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Who cares? I don't care if it's camp or genuinely bad; so long as there's isn't anything really fucked up about it, why shouldn't people enjoy it?

[–] subiprime@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

exactly,, but people are mean,,,,

then they are never gonna be free from cringe culture

[–] potatoguy@mbin.potato-guy.space 14 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

who took a photo of my studio apartment?

[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 15 hours ago

I prefer SROs over studios, it's nice to share some capital (fridge, stove, laundry, dishwasher, livingroom sofa) with neighbors.

[–] python@lemmy.world 3 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

man I would actually go insane in OOPs room. Like at least get a carpet aaaah

[–] Manifish_Destiny@lemmy.world 7 points 13 hours ago

Carpet?

Like where hair lives?