The people who respond to everything with "no one owes you anything" and "pool yourself up by the bootstraps".
We all know no one owes us anything, going out of your way to respond like this, actually shows malice.
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Someone literally dropped the following during a conversation the other day. They were also a PoC of my race so it was an extra big red flag: "You know some people really are wolves because most are sheep."
Yikes.
I asked chat gpt...
I treat this one with a grain of salt, because its very good at some things and utterly fucking useless at others.
I needed to know what company made the gearbox in a certain car. No matter what I searched in 3 different search engines all I could find was people wanting to sell me stuff for the gearbox or gearboxes. I spent an hour before I asked ChatGPT and it immediately spat out "The gearbox is a 4l80 produced by Aisin transmissions" which I then spent some time verifying. At the core if search engines hadnt been enshitified, ChatGPT would be nothing more than a novelty. But because they have, its a sometimes useful tool that anyone with half a brain verifies.
If you treat it like gospel, yeah... your an idiot.
That's the thing though. If someone has used chat gpt to find information and then spent the time to verify it independently, they rarely, if ever, start a sentence with "I asked chat gpt...".
The ones that say that usually just stop at the first response they get from it. Even if what they say ends up being correct, you now know that they're the kind of person that'll blindly believe an LLM.
"There are things I like about both sides."
I have a friend who says this and every time I'm like "when did anyone on the left do anything close to as bad as ____" (DOJ lying constantly, trump saying officials who oppose him should be executed, etc) and every time he says "well if they're doing that that's pretty messed up but the left does bad stuff too."
Anyone who says
For me it’s saying, “we can’t joke about anything anymore”.
Sirens go off immediately 🚨
Semi-closeted racist alarms?
"my LED headlights are wonderful"
"nice led headlights, wanna see an unregistered firearm?"
"Tucker Carlson has some good ideas"
the fuck you just say?
I have a friend that loves to start debates about political, religious or philosophical topics, make broad statements, then defend with "I can't be more specific because I don't know 100% of the details"
During COVID he refused to get a vaccine because "even if I was vaccinated COVID would still exist, so what benefit is there."
Anyone who uses 'woke' unironically
"I was cancelled" -iskall
Guys who refer to women as "females"
ninja edit - I see I'm late to this party
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For me it's the term "that's what's wrong with society" and variations of it. There are a LOT of things wrong with society, and different countries, cities and regions have totally different problems. If you boil all these problems down to one thing, it's probably because you're obsessed with that one thing, not because it's actually caused all these other problems.
I think it's possible to use such an expression as shorthand for that one specific issue being emblematic of the kind of people/thoughts/values/etc responsible for more of society's ills at large without literally meaning that one thing is the only thing that is wrong. It really depends on the context and the person using it, I guess.
"How come Liberals..."
My immediate thought is "Here we go..."
It's not really a phrase but anytime someone half quotes something and responds like the 2nd half of the quote doesn't exist.
“It’s just a few bad apples” is the big one for me. The full saying is “a few bad apples spoil the bunch”, because rotting apples release gasses that quickly cause other apples to rot as well. So if you have a few bad apples in a bunch, you’ll very quickly have a bunch of bad apples.
The phrase is usually used to defend bad cops, and the irony is always lost on them when you point out the full saying. Because even the good cops uphold “circle the wagons” systems and “we’ve investigated ourselves and determined we did nothing wrong” policies that protect bad cops… Meaning a few bad cops will very quickly rot the “good” ones.
The one that irritates me is "the customer is always right..." How people can simply forget the rest baffles me.
I like to hit them with "If there are 2 bad cops, and 98 good cops who don't turn the bad cops in. There are 100 bad cops"
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"I hate women and blame them for all of my issues in life"
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