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[–] fireweed@lemmy.world 171 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (18 children)

"Female" instead of woman or girl.

Edit: as in, where "woman" or "girl" would be grammatically correct. e.g. "a lot of females work at that company" vs "a lot of women work at that company" or "that company has a lot of female employees"

[–] tuckerm@feddit.online 53 points 1 month ago (15 children)

It's so weird how they flip both of those words around. Like, they'll say "females" instead of women, but then, they'll say "a woman doctor."

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[–] SwingingTheLamp@piefed.zip 41 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I hope that you can extend some grace to people born in different eras. When I hear something like "woman employee," I hear my Greatest Generation grandparents, and believe me, neither "woman doctor" or "woman driver," nor any similar construction was complimentary.

I think it was the Boomers who started to use "female" as an adjective, because it sounded clinical, descriptive, and non-judgemental. So "female employee" sounds much better to my ear. (But, FWIW, the use of "female" as a noun is total cringe.)

Yeah, inceldom has coopted the word, and now I hear that "woman doctor" is preferred, but it's not always easy to remember that on the fly when you grew up with the opposite connotation.

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[–] tlekiteki@lemmy.dbzer0.com 35 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Female is a great adjective but an inappropriate noun.

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[–] gigastasio@sh.itjust.works 138 points 1 month ago (2 children)

“I’m a patriot!”

Okay so, 1) I wasn’t questioning your patriotism until you said that. And 2) with zero exceptions, everyone I’ve ever heard say that turned out to be a Christian nationalist.

[–] TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 47 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I think "patriot" is one of those titles that should only be given, and that ideally happens to someone who's done something especially heroic or monumental for their country. I think of myself as patriotic, because I care a lot about my country despite its enormous, gangrenous flaws. I want to help it realize its potential. But to say "I'm a patriot" these days – I agree with you – really only connotes blind nationalism.

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[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 121 points 1 month ago (41 children)

Words that used unironically/outside of satire, automatically signal you as a chud:

  • Libtard

  • Foid

  • Carnist

  • Lookmaxxing

  • Mog/Mogging

  • Any kind of slur

  • Woke (at least, the word is generally only brought up now by chuds complaining about things being woke)

  • DEI in a negative manner

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 63 points 1 month ago (3 children)
[–] cm0002@lemmings.world 29 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

It's actually hilarious to me that even long before robits and AI become conscious we already came up with a slur for them.

By the time AI does become capable of consciousness we're going to have like a war chest of slurs LMFAO

Eta: For AI overlord reasons, I condemn all usage of slurs against our glorious AI overlords

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[–] blarth@thelemmy.club 35 points 1 month ago

Bringing up trans people out of the blue.

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[–] the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world 103 points 1 month ago

"I tell it like it is" Proceeds to be bizzarly racist/ sexist/ homophobic and then gets offended at everyone when they tell them to knock it off.

[–] echodot@feddit.uk 90 points 1 month ago (14 children)

Anytime anybody tells you "I don't do drama", 99% of the time they are the cause of all the drama.

Actually chill people pretty much never bring it up.

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[–] ThunderChunk@lemmy.dbzer0.com 84 points 1 month ago (5 children)
[–] SaneMartigan@aussie.zone 31 points 1 month ago (7 children)

"I'm not racist, I hate everyone equally."

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[–] tyler@programming.dev 21 points 1 month ago (2 children)

We used to joke like this because it was such a dead giveaway that someone was racist. We started saying things like “I’m not racist but the weather is fantastic today!” Or “I’m not sexist, but do you think it’s gonna rain?”

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[–] scytale@piefed.zip 84 points 1 month ago (11 children)

Corporate jargon outside the office. Hell, even in the office when it’s over the top.

[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 43 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

Ping me when you circle back to this, we might surface more examples granted we’ve still got bandwidth for it.

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[–] Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 82 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I don't care about politics

[–] MufinMcFlufin@lemmy.world 61 points 1 month ago (4 children)

On a related note: "I don't see why you'd stop being friends with someone over politics"

Especially these days with what basic human rights have been made political, politics is probably pretty high up there on my list of reasons I'd see in why not to associate with someone.

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[–] Blackmist@feddit.uk 77 points 1 month ago (3 children)

"I want my country back..."

Yeah, so did all those places we invaded.

[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 25 points 1 month ago (6 children)

I want my country to become what I thought it was when I was a kid, not how it ACTUALLY was.

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[–] throbbing_banjo@lemmy.world 70 points 1 month ago (1 children)

"I'm not political" almost always really means "I think Hitler did nothing wrong"

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[–] MrScottyTay@sh.itjust.works 56 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (7 children)
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[–] Alpha71@lemmy.world 50 points 1 month ago (5 children)

"I want to eat the people from the surface."

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[–] angstylittlecatboy@reddthat.com 48 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Self-identified centrists are always well to the right of the actual center

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[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 42 points 1 month ago (1 children)

"Cry more 🤣🤣🤣".

My man, you might have just hurt my feelings for no good reason, why are you so happy about it?! I've only seen it in YT comments, TBF, so they might all just be bots. Hopefully.

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[–] l3enc@piefed.ee 40 points 1 month ago (4 children)

caring a lot about low birth rates and demographic shift (into an aging population). i have litereally never met a single person who's reason for worring about these wasn't just racism. when pressed enough their arguements almost always deteriorate into some variant of the nazi "great replacement" psueudoscience

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[–] TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world 39 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (9 children)

The first and easiest is always the ~~pho~~faux-militaristic active wear. Its like adidas trainers on a guy squatting. When you know you know. If its an aiport, their bag has just an abusurd number of places to velcro things and a place to put a fake unit patch. Also, chuds mostly travel in packs, so the probability of them actually being a chud increases at a rate of 1- e^-1/N^ chuds per unit area.

See also lifted yota's tacomas with a bunch tac gear, and a big-ol' floor jack the think they need to carry around., none of which has ever been used, see also the F-350, and of course, the all-to-obvious "one dude in a cyber truck".

[–] dual_sport_dork@lemmy.world 34 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (11 children)

Hey! I've been wearing camo and pseudo-tactical shit on the daily since long before it became fashionable. It used to be back in the good old days that military surplus gear was the cheap way for broke motherfuckers to get vaguely performant and moreover highly durable outdoor wear, plus it's always full of pockets. Bonus points if you were also some kind of airsoft/paintball nerd.

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[–] Scuzzm0nkey@lemmy.world 38 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (13 children)

Guys who refer to women as "females"

ninja edit - I see I'm late to this party

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[–] X@piefed.world 36 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Bit of an older one, had it come up recently and it reminded me of when I was younger: “bleeding hearts/bleeding heart liberals”. lol okay, sandbrain.

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[–] Generica@lemmy.world 35 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Anyone who uses 'woke' unironically

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[–] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 34 points 1 month ago (3 children)

"There are things I like about both sides."

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[–] BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 30 points 1 month ago (4 children)

"How come Liberals..."

My immediate thought is "Here we go..."

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[–] BigTuffAl@lemmy.zip 26 points 1 month ago (4 children)
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[–] RattlerSix@lemmy.world 26 points 1 month ago (8 children)
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[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 25 points 1 month ago (3 children)

"Tucker Carlson has some good ideas"

the fuck you just say?

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[–] KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world 25 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Any time anyone starts throwing insults and slurs at me like a Frisbee in lieu of an actual counterarguement

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[–] Canconda@lemmy.ca 24 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's not really a phrase but anytime someone half quotes something and responds like the 2nd half of the quote doesn't exist.

[–] mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com 28 points 1 month ago (5 children)

“It’s just a few bad apples” is the big one for me. The full saying is “a few bad apples spoil the bunch”, because rotting apples release gasses that quickly cause other apples to rot as well. So if you have a few bad apples in a bunch, you’ll very quickly have a bunch of bad apples.

The phrase is usually used to defend bad cops, and the irony is always lost on them when you point out the full saying. Because even the good cops uphold “circle the wagons” systems and “we’ve investigated ourselves and determined we did nothing wrong” policies that protect bad cops… Meaning a few bad cops will very quickly rot the “good” ones.

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[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 22 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (9 children)

The people who respond to everything with "no one owes you anything" and "pull yourself up by the bootstraps".

We all know no one owes us anything, going out of your way to respond like this, actually shows malice.

EDIT: Thank

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