I mean this may be decentralized but its still social media. Its gonna be a cesspool by nature of social media.
this post was submitted on 01 Mar 2026
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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.
Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:
- Both “200” and “160” are 2 minutes in microwave math
- When you’re a kid, you don’t realize you’re also watching your mom and dad grow up.
- More dreams have been destroyed by alarm clocks than anything else
Rules
- All posts must be showerthoughts
- The entire showerthought must be in the title
- No politics
- If your topic is in a grey area, please phrase it to emphasize the fascinating aspects, not the dramatic aspects. You can do this by avoiding overly politicized terms such as "capitalism" and "communism". If you must make comparisons, you can say something is different without saying something is better/worse.
- A good place for politics is c/politicaldiscussion
- Posts must be original/unique
- Adhere to Lemmy's Code of Conduct and the TOS
If you made it this far, showerthoughts is accepting new mods. This community is generally tame so its not a lot of work, but having a few more mods would help reports get addressed a little sooner.
Whats it like to be a mod? Reports just show up as messages in your Lemmy inbox, and if a different mod has already addressed the report, the message goes away and you never worry about it.
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the shit always rises to the top.
and to find the good stuff you have to wade through it.
... You realise that that's because a forum moderator has no meaningful amount of actual power, right?
If they don't have meaningful power, then neither do people who would abuse any space they're in, rendering moderating wholly pointless. But people sure don't like that idea.
Mommy and daddy keep going on about horizontalism but then they make me go to bed even when I don't want to >:(
No one is making you be here. You can click a button and start your own community or even spin up your own server and if your modding policies are that much better people will switch. ...or none or very few of the users like what you say and the mod just happens to be the one responsible for telling you.
Is it frustrating to be part of the outgroup? Sure. Is it frustrating to have an opinion people dislike or don't think is worth leaving their ingroup for? Sure. But that's just called being a weirdo. Lots of people are weirdos. I'm a weirdo. In fact it's often hard for me to get certain things done or find certain products. Bigelow doesn't stock my favorite flavor in most stores because it's not popular enough. That's not oppression that's just being unpopular.
Being a weirdo isn't for the faint of heart. Dialectal behavior therapy changed my life and teaches four ways to approach a problem. 1. Stop seeing it as a problem. 2. Fix the problem (conform). 3. Accept the problem. 4. Stay whiny. I tend to vacillate between 1 and 3 (sigh sadly and order my tea online) but I spend little time engaging in #4 (bitching online about how it's other people's fault).
I'm not even going to look into your specific ideology. With people who say these things I often regret finding out.
what's frustrating the most is how people hate you for factual true opinions, because those truths don't align with their delusional worldview.
true, it's ultimately about popularity. And what's popular... is often stupid, wrong, and cruel. Dialectical behavior won't do anything when you are getting harassed and assaulted, and increasingly we live in a world where people are become not just disagreeing and segregating, but straight up calling violent and bloodthirsty to those they disagree with.
Lemmy is rife with very pro-violence people. Who also claim they are anti-violence. But you know, only anti-violence against the 'good' people. Violence totally col against the 'bad' people.
factual true opinions
oh god that's it; you're an utterly insufferable person. And learning how to constructively approach injustice by conserving and directing your energy towards actions that will make the most real difference is a core goal of the therapy. Either put in the effort to become someone people want to be around or accept people don't want to be around you.
right, so if an external reality gets in the way of my feelings, I should simple ignore and or deny that it exists? if someone makes me feel bad they are bad person! such a constructive and mature way to approach other people.
I have no problem being around people who acknowledge there is a world outside of themselves. I don't get along with people who think the world is merely an extension of their feelings, or that any information that doesn't make them feel fuzzy is horrible and evil.
I mean i'm glad you don't think facts exist or reality exists outside of the thoughts in your head, and therefore nobody else is real, but most well-adjusted people don't engage in solipsism. If the acknowledgement of other people existing who are different than you is so painful, the issue isn't them. It's you.
also calling for violence isn't a constructive approach injustice, it's authoritarianism and bullying. just like you resorted to harassment and name calling in reply to my comment, per ad hominem nonsense because I said something you find upsetting and dislike. you can't create 'justice' by perpetuating injustice on other people, but if you live in a world of your own emotions, nothing like justice even exists. because justice isn't a feeling, it's a concept that is suppose to get you outside of your own monkey-brain way of thinking.
This reads like a freeze peach kinda thought.
Looking at you, leftymemes
ugh
groupthink central, do NOT divert an inch from the state sanctioned opinions, OR ELSE
It's all fun and games until you say that China is wearing socialism as a cloak the same way America wears Christianity or Israel wears anti-semitism.
People's takes on China here are so clueless and weird.
Xi is essentially a dictator at this point. Like Putin, he has systematiclly consolidated power over the years and increasingly removed any federation of government power that was more in line with socialist ideals and power structures. China was more socialist 30 years ago than it is today, and the USSR was far less centralized than Russia is now. But we can't let the facts get in the way of the ideals.
Israeli's problem is also the same, the consolidation of power in a single person that increasingly fails to manifest the democratic ideas on which it argues its cultural superiority.
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This is very true - I usually refer to it as "BOFH behavior". I think it stems from many people who end up hosting or moderating feeling that they themselves have been marginalised before so "now they're going to show them!".
A great example is a Mastodon instance where if you don't agree with the site's admin they'll block you at the server level instead of from their personal account. The belief is that if they have an opinion that opinion must then be enforced for everyone else under their control too.
Okay, I'll bite. I need to add to my block list anyway.
Y'all have heard of the Nazi Bar problem, right? Paradox of intolerance? Which turns out not to be a paradox after all? You should def look that one up rather than waiting for me to type it all out.
People like to refer to the paradox of tolerance but always skip out on the inconvenient bit:
""Unlimited tolerance must lead to the disappearance of tolerance. If we extend unlimited tolerance even to those who are intolerant, if we are not prepared to defend a tolerant society against the onslaught of the intolerant, then the tolerant will be destroyed, and tolerance with them.
— In this formulation, I do not imply, for instance, that we should always suppress the utterance of intolerant philosophies; as long as we can counter them by rational argument and keep them in check by public opinion, suppression would certainly be most unwise. But we should claim the right to suppress them if necessary even by force; for it may easily turn out that they are not prepared to meet us on the level of rational argument, but begin by denouncing all argument; they may forbid their followers to listen to rational argument, because it is deceptive, and teach them to answer arguments by the use of their fists or pistols.
We should therefore claim, in the name of tolerance, the right not to tolerate the intolerant.""
If you are not able to rationally argue why we shouldn't be bigoted, I don't know what to tell you.
We are all bigoted.
The idea is we have institutions that minimize our bigotry by not being subject to the judgements of any one particular person and their biases.
People who claim some absolute stance of non-bigotry... are basically the most likely to engage in bigotry because they deny it is even possible they could be.
People who whinge on about the the paradox of intolerance are always cunts who want to have a reason to beat people up because it makes them feel big. It's a stupid argument either way, because there is no such thing as unlimited tolerance, and no society is ever 'free'.
One problem with bigots is they dont care about truth or logic. Its a waste of time to continually argue the same points over and over again with people who refuse to learn or think.
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You know that anarchism doesn't mean no rules right? It just means no rulers, but that's not how it works on Lemmy or any social media of this type for that matter.
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I have a pretty low opinion of moderators generally.
In the vast majority of cases, the people who actually want to be moderators are precisely the worst kinds of people to do the job.
Of course there are exceptions but all too often they're doing it because they like the power and attention.
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